if the definition of insanity is doing the exact same thing over and over and expecting different results, and if i claim that women are inherently insane, does this make me insane as well? if not insane, then, ummm, do i have insane tendencies? whats the food like at western psych? if a black blogger writes a piss-poor exposition in the woods, will anybody read it?
who knows.
all i know is that these were a few of the thoughts that first came to mind last night, when thinking of my ghosts of relationship past, and realizing that every woman i’ve ever had at least moderate feelings for has either been in education or heath care in some way or form.
every. no exceptions.
you can make multiple conclusions from this, but the one that’s most apparent is the fact that these careers usually attract the same type of personalities. generally speaking, women who choose these types of careers tend to be the nurturing, caring, practical, family oriented types. basically, relationship-ey chicks. i dont intentionally highlight “assistant principal” or “nurse” when i’m reviewing the hundreds of relationship resumes i’m sent everyday, but i do usually find myself extremely erect if they attach a pic in their uniform can’t ignore that this pattern exists.
this realization gave birth to a few questions.
people of vsb…
1. is there a career that just does it for you? are you lascivious for lawyers? hot for horticulturalists? randy for realtors? wet for welders? do historiographers get you hard? do therapists get the tingle? do surgeons make you squirt? sculptors make you skeet? engineers make you eat?
***ok. i’m done. as you can see, i was having far too much fun with this.***
2. is there a close symmetry between the personality type you claim to be attracted to, and the career paths of people you usually date?
3. on the flipside, could you be with someone whose work you didn’t respect?
for instance, lets say you’re dating a successful artist who’s extremely passionate about her work. she’s physically attractive and has a great personality, but…you think that her “art” resembles what happens when your two year old nephew pees on the bathroom wall, and the fact that people actually spend good money on it makes you physically ill when you think about it. if you weren’t dating this woman and you happened across a piece of her artwork in a storefront, you’d want to murder the person responsible. is there a future there?
also, i’m not over-generalizing when i say that there are certain careers associated with certain genders. you can argue whether it’s justified or unjust, but you can’t argue that it’s true. i’d also argue that this is more of an issue/concern for women, than men. with that being said…
4. ladies, would you have a problem being serious with a guy in a “feminine” profession (ie: interior decorator, hairdresser, secretary, etc)? if so, why?
5. is the champ insane?
thoughts and sh*t?
***also, for those in the pittsburgh area, the champ, as well as a few other vsb-ers, will be at the ava lounge in east liberty friday night for the urban league young professionals of greater pittsburgh’s “urban chic” event. please come if you’ve always wanted to be awed by the champ’s black leather glory spike gem or ivy’s drinks***
—the champ
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Now I will attempt to actually read the post come up with a decent response before my edit time runs out making it seem that I didn’t troll to be the first commenter but actually was just responding and by chance was first.
Note, I already lost 30 seconds editing this. . .
Whoo . . . ok first, you can spike my drink all you want tomorrow night. I’m a poor grad student. May be forced to go home sooner than I wanted for Christmas just so I’d have food to eat. . .
I’m not at the point where there is a career pattern in the women I’m attracted to, however, there is definitely
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kamakula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:19 am
. . . almost made it. . . ahem, as I was saying. . .
Not counting the ones that weren’t black, if you didn’t know them and only saw one or two pictures, you’d think I’d only dated three girls in my life.
I just think it’s coincidence right now. . . or perhaps it’s girls who look a certain way are the ones attracted to me!
Regarding their work – absolutely no way I could be with someone whose work I didn’t respect. I mean. . . by definition, if I don’t respect what they’re doing, I wouldn’t be with them. This is one of those paradoxes, like would I cheat on Halle with Hayek? Impossible, you cannot cheat during a ménage à trois.
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:28 am
@kamakula,
Really kamakula? You just wanted to post first? How anal is that? Yeah I asked.
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kamakula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:56 am
@RedBeanzNRice,
Well, I was up, and I’d noticed it was near midnight, so I decided to check to see if I could get first
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 8:32 am
@kamakula,
Well, you made it. I’m not even gonna pretend I wasn’t salty, lol.
shatani Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 9:50 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
nobody likes salty red beans and rice! lmao
Intellectual Hedonist Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:46 am
@kamakula, you get applause for trying….
STANDING O! not that O as in O O O OOHHHH!
anyway. good job, almost.
btw: “like would I cheat on Halle with Hayek? Impossible, you cannot cheat during a ménage à trois.” made me laugh for a solid 10 seconds
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:48 am
@Intellectual Hedonist,
Applause? But yet his post is equivalent to asking “Am I first”. Go figure.
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Shay-d-lady Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:16 am
@RedBeanzNRice, Applause? But yet his post is equivalent to asking “Am I first”. Go figure.
I think that was his point.. he gets applause for finding a way more creative and entertaining way of doing it…
Intellectual Hedonist Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:07 am
@Shay-d-lady, and that is why he gets applause cause its not like Liz just put the edit option there last night. It’s been there for months.
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 8:33 am
@Intellectual Hedonist,
Oh, I see. Ok then. : )
kamakula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:55 am
@RedBeanzNRice,
My post isn’t a “Am I first”. I already knew I was first. I was just writing down the thought process I go through when I’m the first poster. . .unless I already have something planned.
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 8:38 am
@kamakula,
“My post isn’t a “Am I first”. ”
I know it wasn’t “Am I first”, but I said it was equivalent because it had nothing to do with the topic, the same way “Am I first” has nothing to do with the topic, that’s all.
kamakula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:13 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
lol, well, I did give it a try. The last couple sentences were on topic. . .just ran out of time
eff yo couch Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:14 am
“Applause? But yet his post is equivalent to asking “Am I first”. Go figure.”
@RedBeanzNRice,
Hi Hater!
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:31 am
@eff yo couch,
Oh, I’ll be that, lol
*wavin and cheezin*
Luvvie Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:54 pm
@kamakula,
I c you back on top, Kamakula
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kamakula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:15 pm
Luvvie!! I was hoping you’d be here yesterday. I was in great form and you didn’t get to see it
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Speaking of professions, what if you were both an analyst and a therapist . . .an analrapist if you will?
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MsSula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:18 am
@kamakula,
why must you kill me so late at night?
Analpist…. ::snickers::
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:47 am
@MsSula,
why must you kill me so late at night?
if i had a dollar…
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:29 pm
@The Champ,
“if i had a dollar…”
For all the times you heard that? You could only buy ONE Hostess Twinkie 3-pack.
Luvvie Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:55 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
LMAO @ RedBeansz.
Zing!! huzzah!! Pow!!
Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:59 pm
@The Champ,
do tell.
Per part of the question:
“2. is there a close symmetry between the personality type you claim to be attracted to, and the career paths of people you usually date?”
Nope.
The personality type I’ve always been attracted to is the egg-head – even since kindergarten. And of the egg-heads I’ve been attracted to, NONE of them have even come close to those that I’ve dated.
I’ve been physically attracted to, and dated the sexy boys with lackluster careers, i.e. postman, DMV clerk, grocery bagger (don’t judge me on the bagger, lol) etc.
But what’s funny is, the ones I’ve dated that have been egg-heads, were the ones I couldn’t see myself dating again.
I guess it all boils down to character and physical attraction versus the fantasy of your imagined “type”. Not to say that an egg-head can’t be that “sexy boy”; I just never found one like that in my travels, lol.
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eff yo couch Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:19 am
“I’ve been physically attracted to, and dated the sexy boys with lackluster careers, i.e. postman, DMV clerk, grocery bagger (don’t judge me on the bagger, lol) etc. ”
@RedBeanzNRice,
That grocery store bagger must have been very good at his job . . .I mean he was able to “bag” you.
*zing*
Okay I can’t promise if this will be the my last corny joke of the day
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:33 am
@eff yo couch,
*zing*
You know what? You’re right that was corny as hell, but I gotta admit, I’m still chuckling.
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Panama Jackson Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:09 am
@eff yo couch, wow. that has to rate at least a 12 out of 10 on cornball factor.
amazingly, Common thinks his latest turdsandwich of an album is actually an 11 out of 10 in terms of how good it is. he must be listening to a different version than I am.
(can’t you tell I really dont like his album?)
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Luvtheshoes Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:22 am
@Panama Jackson,
Got my first listen to it myself and have to agree, it’s a steaming pile of turd.
blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:32 am
@Luvtheshoes,
true… it sucks. it sucks hairy jeebus monkey b@lls.
but his pic in the Metro this morning….. yah, um. Whoooooo!
shatani Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:02 pm
@blackberry molasses,
can i get a witness! *fans self*
pgh muse Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:06 pm
@Luvtheshoes,
Dang. That bad? … I’m scared!!
Deviant Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:40 pm
@Panama Jackson,
what happened to Common? he used make good albums. The last album that didnt hint of gayness was his 3rd one
blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:34 pm
@Deviant,
according to his interview in the Metro, his trip to Europe addled his cerebral cortex and artisitc sensibilities
” I had been overseas in Paris and Barcelona and in the U.K. I felt what it was like to party out there and enjoy yourself, and none of my music was being played there. I realized that you have to have a certain energy when you make those records. You can’t talk about anything too heavy. You can’t talk about abortion and people are partying to it.” Its necessary and healthy for people to enjoy themselves; to laugh and let go and dance”
So there you have it. Why his new album his hawt gahbage, straight from the horses mouth.
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:14 pm
@blackberry molasses,
So there you have it. Why his new album his hawt gahbage, straight from the horses mouth
reading that just depressed me. so basically, he made an album for people who’ve never heard of him?
Panama Jackson Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
@The Champ, damn shame, ain’t it?
miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:33 pm
Oh wow. That isn’t even a good explanation either…lol
Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:26 pm
“his trip to Europe addled his cerebral cortex”
me and Ivy can rig up some brain implants to correct that. have him back to normal.
blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:33 pm
@Gem of the Ocean,
hop to it Dr. Gemmie
Panama Jackson Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:37 pm
@Deviant, i think he just got really unfocused. plus, like most rappers, he ain’t hungry anymore. hell, do you realize that Common…COMMON…made 12 million dollars last year?!?!?!?
do you know how insane that sounds to me??? hell, i don’t think Nas has made that much money in his entire career…(i’m serious too). Common doesnt have anything to rap about anymore so now he just makes good words rhyme…
miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:41 pm
@Panama Jackson,
hell, i don’t think Nas has made that much money in his entire career
*giggling*
Deviant Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:29 pm
@Panama Jackson,
No wonder he blows. There needs to be some find of foundation that keeps musicians broke so they keep making good music.
AkShone Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:59 pm
I haven’t heard one positive thing about Common’s new joint…that’s disappointing.
Deviant Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:02 pm
@AkShone,
I think Kangay West ruined Common
Shay-d-lady Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:41 pm
@Deviant, Kanye helped common a$$…cause electric circus was some bullshyt..the joints he did with Kanye were good….if not for Kanye the suckery of this album would have been a foregone conclusion…the ambiguously gay trio…kanye, john legend..and common need to reunite!@!@!
miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:13 pm
@Shay-d-lady,
the ambiguously gay trio…kanye, john legend..and common need to reunite!@!@!
I freakin’ love this!!!!! ha haaaa
thehealer Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
@Shay-d-lady,
john legend already united with corrine bailey rae and had a child. little leona lewis was born a super villian with the uncanny ability to bore people to death. In 2008 the three united to form the League of Musical Itis.
miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:30 pm
One of my friends here at work looks at me like I have a horn growing out of my head when I tell her I can’t stand John Legend.
He’s coming to town next month and she was like “I’m not even gonna ask you if you wanna go ’cause I already know the answer.”
That’s right…lol
Absolutely not.
Deviant Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:33 pm
@Shay-d-lady,
He ruined him for me. Kangay sucks a$$. Common’s sound was great in that third album. The 4th was ok but its way better than anything after that.
Panama Jackson Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:34 pm
@Shay-d-lady, you know, i think Kanye made Common relevant again…but on Be (which i love, but more b/c of the music than b/c of Common) Common was at his most boring lyrically. you can’t quote a single line from Common on that album b/c he has no quotables…
…he was like a more interesting Black Thought, which doesn’t say much, and at least Black Thought is one of the most technically sound rappers ever.
blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:50 pm
@thehealer,
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
thanks to you, there are now croissant crumbs all over my boobs and my desk. anyone got a lint brush?
oh and Welcome (i think)
**Diva Dust ™ mixed with SG’s gold stars**
Coco Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:17 pm
@Shay-d-lady, I love John Legend! In love with him to be more accurate…
shay-d-lady Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 7:38 pm
@Panama
Shay-d-lady, you know, i think Kanye made Common relevant again…but on Be (which i love, but more b/c of the music than b/c of Common) Common was at his most boring lyrically. you can’t quote a single line from Common on that album b/c he has no quotables…
your right but he hasnt had any quotables in awhile at least that album was listenable…..which was all thanks to Kanye….
thehealer Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:05 pm
@Panama Jackson,
did anyone read the album review in the washington post? it was brutal. the article quoted different verses to demonstrate the wackness of the lyrics. can the album really be that bad? i picked it up on tuesday, thought about your post, and put it back down. vsb has become the oprah of black bloggers.
Ms. Sula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:09 pm
@thehealer,
the oprah of black bloggers
I love it!
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
@thehealer,
you got it wrong. oprah is the vsb of talk show hosts.
lol..seriously though, thanks and sh*t
miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
@thehealer,
I’m off to check out that review…lol
pgh muse Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:12 pm
@thehealer,
vsb has become the oprah of black bloggers
Concur!! Congrats Champ and PJ!
Panama Jackson Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:30 pm
@thehealer, lol…you know truly, as much as i love music, i’d LOVE to be that…hell, i’ve toyed constantly with doing music reviews on my thursdays since i hear every new thing thats coming out a wee bit early…
for instance, that new musiq? leave it at the store people. it SUCKS MONKEY BALLS. not only that, but why in Sam Hill is he making dirty south d-boy style songs now? and doing a craptastic job at it…i’m all for change…just make it good.
that’s Common’s problem…it aint that he made a different kind of album, its that it sucks…good music will triumph. bad music will make me want to stab you with a rusty barnacle.
my music reviews are always fun…LOL.
and thanks, btw. i’m also glad you didn’t buy it and i saved you some money…
miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:02 pm
@Panama Jackson,
“leave it at the store people. it SUCKS MONKEY BALLS. not only that, but why in Sam Hill is he making dirty south d-boy style songs now?”
I planned on leaving it at the store when I heard “On My Radio”.
‘da hell was that?
Panama Jackson Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:35 pm
@miss t-lee, sad attempt to sell records. except it sucks. its hotbuttmud.
thehealer Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:13 pm
@Panama Jackson,
u should do the thursday thing. one of the best features of this blog is the veiled references to great music. i nominate the q-tip album for the first review. he put out a solid album and has gotten no recognition.
Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:24 pm
@thehealer,
I was informed by said P.Jackson that he thinks that album is doo-doo butter as well.
Panama Jackson Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:35 pm
@thehealer, yeah, unfortunately, i don’t think that album is very good either. and it’s not bad necessarily, its just middle of the road, mediocre music. its pretty boring. i’ve listened to it a few times (it is q-tip after all and he is responsbile for one of the greatest albums to ever come out of this hip-hop thang), but yeah, no…the renaissance just sounds more of the same underground stuff nobody wants to listen to…though, i did hear it (gettin’ up) on the radio the other day and almost had a conniption…
thehealer Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:56 pm
ur right. but at this point in my relationship with hip hop i’m like a middle aged woman who’s never been married. my eggs are drying up and i need to believe there is still someone good out there. in the past month i’ve tried to talk myself into that q-tip album, asher roth, and UMC. i need help. basically, i’m the jennifer aniston of hip hop fans.
Panama Jackson Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:31 pm
@thehealer, then might i recommend 88-Keys, Death of Adam. it’s short as all hell, but its quite good as albums go.
there really hasn’t been much in the way of hip-hop that’s come out lately really worth it…Elzhi’s album is pretty good…or at least it has net-hip-hop heads going nuts…
basically, just listen to top 40 music. and T.I.
Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:13 pm
@Panama Jackson,
tell us why you mad son!
miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
@Panama Jackson,
This is so sad.
What just made it even worse is that “Resurrection” just came up on the classic hip-hop channel on AOL Radio.
I just realized how truly craptastic UMC is…dayum.
Epic fail.
Panama Jackson Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:32 pm
@miss t-lee, yeah…and if you actually listen to what he’s saying…sheesh…its like he’s totally forgone lyricism for…hell, i don’t even know…he just blows now…on the music side. he became a sex-symbol and forgot how to rap or make a good album…
no it doesnt work.. part of your role in being an SO is being supportive, you cannot support that which you do not respect. I dont have a favorite career..I have been with my hubby since I entered career mode but most of the guys I dated fell into a number of categories but all shared the ability to “hustle”.. I am attracted to that type of personality. A lime lighter as I call them…. very charismatic, persuasive….you know I like a ninja that can not only make lemonade out of lemons but sell a ninja the used rinds and treat me to a steak dinner….LOL so my former dating pool includes a principal, teacher, Real Estate agent , Account Manager, Rapper, Dope Boy/club manager….
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:40 am
@Shay-d-lady,
“I have been with my hubby since I entered career mode but most of the guys I dated fell into a number of categories but all shared the ability to “hustle”.. I am attracted to that type of personality.”
Ok, so your hubby aside…
You’re attracted to the type of “hustla” personality. PIMPS are included in that line up. (you mentioned dope boys which is a close second) So, would you be able to get wit, and maintain a relationship wit a pimp?
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Shay-d-lady Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:48 am
@RedBeanzNRice, not the same thing.. pimping and hustling? Pimps are men that prey and take from weaker individuals., no discernable skills or talent for themselves…but a hustla is one that uses his skill and abilities to get ahead..(these are my personal definitions I ant looking for no websters or other clarification) I cant date a pimp… pimps have no respect for women and a lot of times are closted homosexuals in my experience (nttawwt)..the dope boy was a youthful indescretion and growing up in the hood seeing the flashiness and hell just being caught up….I was temporarily blinded.. he took said money though and manages a club as an adult and claims to be on the straight and narrow now..you never know..
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:02 am
@Shay-d-lady,
While I have to respectfully disagree wit you on this because – pimps and hustlas are more alike than you’d like to admit. And I never said they were the SAME; I said a CLOSE SECOND.
Pimps prey, yes, but that’s their game, and they have to have talent wit it in order to achieve the desired result. (Well, true pimps do.)
And a hustla does the same thing – he has talent wit achieving his hustle and end result.
Both have a knack for seeking out willingness from another individual that may not be readily given without prompting. (ex. a potential hooker or a potential buyer of goods being sold)
But you already indirectly answered my follow up question already, lol. My whole point in asking was because of the S.O. being supportive comment.
Shay-d-lady Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:28 am
@RedBeanzNRice,
While I have to respectfully disagree wit you on this because – pimps and hustlas are more alike than you’d like to admit. And I never said they were the SAME; I said a CLOSE SECOND
I clearly stated those were my definitions so no need for you to disagree..they are not close because I would label all 2 bit ninjas preying on others as pimps and simps not hustlas not just ninjas that put hoes on the strip. the only reason I gave a definition was to explain how I used the terminology in my post to provide clarification for others that might have misunderstood what I meant or used the term in a more negative light which is cool but not how I use it or meant it. . I dont consider an account manager who networks everywhere he goes, uses his personality and charm to talk customers into staying, trying new products..swapping new account info here with a deal from there apimp or anywhere close to it, or a dude that sold bootleg cds, opened a mobile car wash and luch delivery service to work his way their school..they are hustlas and thats the type of dude I am attracted too.. a go getta, person who instead of giving up makes a way when there seems to be none….
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 8:31 am
@Shay-d-lady,
“I clearly stated those were my definitions so no need for you to disagree”
But it’s just so much fun. : )
Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:47 am
@RedBeanzNRice,
bean pie..i just realized i agreed more with you than Shay-d…when i get some time i’ll pull it up and bring it all together. lol
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:06 pm
@Princess Duvet
First I’m RedBeanNRice, then Beans, and now Bean Pie? @ Bean Pie, I done turnt Muslim in the course of 2 name changes, and I didn’t even know it, lol.
Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:10 pm
@RedBeanzNRice, “First I’m RedBeanNRice, then Beans, and now Bean Pie? @ Bean Pie, I done turnt Muslim in the course of 3 name changes, and I didn’t even know it, lol.”
you don’t like it??? lol its a term of endearment when i be shortnin and addin on to peoples screen names. .besides..i got lots of multitaskin and skimmin to do…i cant be retypin or copyin and pastin when the thread doesnt auto pop ulate wit your name
you dig?
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:46 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
“you don’t like it??? lol its a term of endearment when i be shortnin and addin on to peoples screen names. ”
Of course I like it- it just made me crack up so I had to say it, lol. Skimmin and multitaskin? That’s not even legal in about 37 states. (keepin wit the “legal” theme, lol)
Girl, you betta be glad I’m not yo boss, lol. Cause you would be FI -YERD. *looks over shoulder to make sure boss isn’t in the vicinity* lol
pgh muse Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:32 pm
@Shay-d-lady,
..they are hustlas and thats the type of dude I am attracted too.. a go getta, person who instead of giving up makes a way when there seems to be none….
I like this definition!! Go ‘head Ms. Shay!
eff yo couch Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:25 am
@Shay-d-lady,
I wouldn’t classify a dope boy as a hustla because drugs sell themselves. It doesn’t take much skill to stand on a corner, but you do need skill to stay out of jail.
Been there, done that
Panama Jackson Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:12 am
@eff yo couch,
though drugs do sell themselves, the actual hustle becomes involved when you determine how to turn all of those illegal proceeds into legal proceeds, while still actively suceeding in the drug game.
and yes, it requires much skill to stay out of jail…also to stay out of dead.
*pouring out a little liquor for the homes that’s gone to the game*
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:51 am
@Panama Jackson,
though drugs do sell themselves, the actual hustle becomes involved when you determine how to turn all of those illegal proceeds into legal proceeds, while still actively suceeding in the drug game.
vsb: where lessons on how to be stringer bell happen
Relax, Relate, Alise Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:01 pm
@The Champ,
Stringer Bell got his a$$ shot son!
Deviant Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:44 pm
@The Champ,
You wanna be Marlo Standfield. That dude was the master
Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:06 pm
@The Champ,
Stringer thought he was more than he was. That was his downfall. He wasn’t as informed on the workings of real business yet to really execute what he wanted to do. He went to hard to fast.
Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
@The Champ,
and Marlo ultimately couldnt leave the streets alone. He’s probably fall more to a an Avon type of fate.
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:19 pm
@The Champ,
You wanna be Marlo Standfield. That dude was the master
lol…if i had to choose between drug dealers, i’d rather be the greek
Deviant Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:28 pm
@The Champ,
forgot all about the Greek. He was the HGIC.
Luvtheshoes Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:03 pm
@The Champ,
Besides how was Stringer ever gonna move out of the game when he had dudes “taking notes on a muthafcuking criminal conspiracy”?
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:26 pm
Besides how was Stringer ever gonna move out of the game when he had dudes “taking notes on a muthafcuking criminal conspiracy”?
you know, one of my friend’s maintains that shamrock (the note taker in that scene) was one of the most compelling characters on that whole show. at first glance he didnt fit with the rest of the crew, but if you remember, that season he outranked everyone but string and avon. it was almost like he got that job by replying to an ad on craigslist
i miss the wire. seriously, when that show ended, it felt like a good friend had moved away forever and sh*t
8th Wonder Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:34 pm
@The Champ,
Dry your damn tears.
lol
Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:30 pm
if i had to choose which wire character i would ummmm “do” it would be Stringer, with his sexy self. Marlo may have survived, but that scar is scary @ me. plus he can’t open mis mouth real wide. so no good.
Trudy Lonette Reply:
December 14th, 2008 at 12:43 am
@The Champ,
i’m sorry but the last time i checked… that was called money laundering… and it’s illegal and sh!t. just saying, lol.
Shay-d-lady Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:50 pm
@Panama Jackson, though drugs do sell themselves, the actual hustle becomes involved when you determine how to turn all of those illegal proceeds into legal proceeds, while still actively suceeding in the drug game.
exactly..which is the reason I listed him as a dopeboy/club manager…LOL he really bought the club but for technical reasons its best he is known as the manager…LOL
Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 9:25 am
@RedBeanzNRice, “You’re attracted to the type of “hustla” personality. PIMPS are included in that line up. (you mentioned dope boys which is a close second) So, would you be able to get wit, and maintain a relationship wit a pimp?”
this was an interesting exchange. Red Beanz, if you find a man who has not mastered the art of persuasion related to his work (which encompasses the “hustle” mentality), please go and put him back where you got him from because HE IS NOT GOOD AT WHAT HE DOES. nor IS HE PASSIONATE ABOUT HIS WORK.
the end.
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:45 am
@Princess Duvet,
“if you find a man who has not mastered the art of persuasion related to his work (which encompasses the “hustle” mentality), please go and put him back where you got him from because HE IS NOT GOOD AT WHAT HE DOES”
That’s the TRUTH right there, Princess. And if he’s not good at what he does as his claimed profession (legal or not) he can’t be good anywhere else in his life. If he IS good anywhere else in his life, then THAT’S what he should be doing as a profession. (legal or not, lol)
Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:54 am
@RedBeanzNRice,
I’m pretty big on integrity. Hustling to most people who do so with huge amounts of it…don’t even think about legal disclaimers…because its a karmic given.
..shyt…i dunno, maybe I haven’t watched enough Shaft and Superfly to have it mean something else.
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:11 am
@Princess Duvet,
“..shyt…i dunno, maybe I haven’t watched enough Shaft and Superfly to have it mean something else.”
LMAO – no you didn’t say Shaft and Superfly. *dead* I wanted to watch both of em, but I can’t – it’s just too much; too stereotypical, too untrue to life, too many perms on men, etc.
I was only speaking from experience re: hustlas. The ones I’m talkin bout when I say (legal or not) are the ones I knew that sold home-burned CD’s out the back of the trunk; or sold candy door-to-door without an affiliation or a permit. I guess when the word “hustla” comes into play, my mind automatically goes to street hustlin – not just overall “gettin ya grind on” hustlin.
Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:20 am
@RedBeanzNRice,
“ones I’m talkin bout when I say (legal or not) are the ones I knew that sold home-burned CD’s out the back of the trunk; or sold candy door-to-door without an affiliation or a permit. I guess when the word “hustla” comes into play, my mind automatically goes to street hustlin – not just overall “gettin ya grind on” hustlin.
”
***Jesus be some type of articles of incorporation and a Tax ID***
lordie today…
Beans Im not talkin bout those type of dudes. Steve Jobs is a Hustla. Reginald Lewis was a Hustla. Bill Gates is a Hustla.Michael Lee Chin is a Hustla.
And…Howard Shultz…is a Hustla…
***starbucks time***
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:40 am
@RedBeanzNRice,
“Beans Im not talkin bout those type of dudes.”
I know you’re not. I was just expressing the types I meant when I made my comment re: hustlas.
And yeah, all the dudes you mentioned are hustlas, but like I said earlier, the kind I spoke of are the kind that pop into my head when the term “hustla” comes into play, that’s all. No need for Starbucks, lol.
Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:13 am
@RedBeanzNRice, “Princess. And if he’s not good at what he does as his claimed profession he can’t be good anywhere else in his life’
i removed (“legal or not”) because thats not apart of what I intend to attract…but I would say that if you find a man who is not good at what he does….run. Im not saying that he has to LOVE IT EVERY SECOND OF EVERY MINUTE..but to me it spills over into every other aspect of the relationship.
A competent man is a resourceful man. He is also a visionary. I mean a man is supposed to be encouraging and inspiring to you. If he ain’t good at what he does, how can he be of any REAL encouragement to you..if he can’t master it on himself.
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:32 am
@Princess Duvet,
“Im not saying that he has to LOVE IT EVERY SECOND OF EVERY MINUTE..but to me it spills over into every other aspect of the relationship.”
That’s exactly what I was saying upthread in different terms – him being no good anywhere else in his life; that includes relationships. So again – you’re speakin TRUTH, and I totally agree.
What it all boils down to regarding that is: If you don’t have your sh*t together in your own life, you can’t be any good in anyone else’s life. (as far as being in a relationship)
Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:43 am
@RedBeanzNRice,
i just re read this whole thread…and imma go find jesus to help me stop skimmin LOL..
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:56 am
@RedBeanzNRice,
so a guy who does his job, but looks at it as just a paycheck, sucks at life?
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:13 pm
@The Champ,
“so a guy who does his job, but looks at it as just a paycheck, sucks at life?”
Nope, that’s not what I was saying. Doing your job and being GOOD at your job are 2 different things. Hell, anybody can just DO a job. See: Professional dogwalker.
Deviant Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:47 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
what if youre really good at walking dogs?
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:16 pm
@Deviant
“what if youre really good at walking dogs?”
I think I hate you for that, LMAO.
Deviant Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:34 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
i love the hate. please bring it
Shay-d-lady Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:47 pm
this
this was an interesting exchange. Red Beanz, if you find a man who has not mastered the art of persuasion related to his work (which encompasses the “hustle” mentality), please go and put him back where you got him from because HE IS NOT GOOD AT WHAT HE DOES. nor IS HE PASSIONATE ABOUT HIS WORK
and this
A competent man is a resourceful man. He is also a visionary. I mean a man is supposed to be encouraging and inspiring to you. If he ain’t good at what he does, how can he be of any REAL encouragement to you..if he can’t master it on
himself.
..
is all I was trying to say….were back on the same wave length..yay!!
Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:55 pm
@Shay-d-lady,
Shay Shay, You me and lima bean i think always agreed with the exception of a little semantics.
Shay-d-lady Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
@Princess Duvet, LOL your right….
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:29 pm
@Princess Duvet,
Got dammit..how many beans do I get to be, Queen Bedspread? LMAO
Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:49 pm
snow peas,
i ran out beans..so i may have go to the bean family.
I always end up with mates in some sort of social sciences career (read: broke supernice do-gooders) , and as of late I attract artists (but that is bc i write and run in artsy circles), those in the social science careers tend to be very affectionate, caring, and in tune with emotions. And since I love romance and being courted and sh*t, it does fall in line with my type.
If I didn’t repect someone’s art or profession it would affect our relationship because I can’t hold that sh*t in, for instance now I have seriously dated a fellow poet for a while and we honestly critique each other’s sh*t, and if it was wack I’d of hurt his feelings beyond repair by now…
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Shay-d-lady Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:41 am
@Relax, Relate, Alise, I casually dated a wack a$$ rapper….it didnt work… I got drunk and we got into it and the first thing I did was talk about his wickedy wickedy wack a$$ rhymes………now I know that is wrong on my part but still..he was wack…LMAO
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eff yo couch Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:28 am
@Shay-d-lady,
Don’t feel bad Shay, I ears actually thank you for what you did. You might have saved the world from hearing another wack rapper.
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postmodern pwnage Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:57 am
@Relax, Relate, Alise, i am in agreement with you. Definitely attracted to professors, academics, activists, struggling grad students lol… you try to venture out, but then you realize very few people outside the world of academia are interested in discussing feminist movements in post colonial burkina faso or james joyce lol…
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Relax, Relate, Alise Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:03 am
@postmodern pwnage,
Yes, yes, yes, no one else gets me and my randomness/nerdness/creative/hoodrat-sh*t combined in one being like an artist. Any sane man would think I was nuts, and would probably be correct… lol
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pgh muse Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:36 pm
@Relax, Relate, Alise,
i can definitely second this emotion…
eysqueen Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:46 am
@postmodern pwnage, getting into your boat!
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:59 am
@postmodern pwnage,
f*ck james joyce.
sorry. i’ve just always wanted the perfect opportunity to say that, and i couldnt pass it up
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i love, love, love writers and artists. without exception. i defs have a type…. mostly writers, tho. yummy. so smart, witty, playful, cerebral – and thats just in between the sheets!
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:51 am
@superwoman,
“so smart, witty, playful, cerebral – and thats just in between the sheets!”
Ok, I’m curious what you mean here. How can they be witty between the sheets? Is that even legal?!?
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1. Any men out there with lawyer lust, holla! I’m a lawyer, I can get you off (wink). Well techinically, I’ll be armed with a JD in May, but you get the point.
2. I don’t have a particular career that gets me hot. I did have a thing with a cop once, but he was hot by himself, with or without uniform. So, no, I don’t think that extends to all cops.
3. Who I won’t date though… I think I quit artsy types, rappin azz rappers in particular. I was just telling a friend today that artsy men (painters, designers, writers, musicians) expend most of their emotions and creative energy into their work leaving little left over for you. If you want to know how they feel, you better pick up their CD or latest poem. They all seem emotionally retarded when they’re not “on”. I know, ladies, that tortured artist thing can be hot and you want to get your Love Jones/Brown Sugar on. I’ve been burnt a couple times and I’m looking for that good left-brain love.
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LisaAngelaPamelaRenee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:07 am
Aw wait, who am I kidding. I love an artsy dude. I just don’t think they’re great at relationships given my experience. Last musician I dated had an advantage because I liked his music. So even when he wasn’t around, he was in my ipod, wooing me when he wasn’t even trying.
Le Sigh.
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Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:33 am
@LisaAngelaPamelaRenee,
i can relate.
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Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:06 pm
yo tambien. *sigh*
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:59 am
@LisaAngelaPamelaRenee,
“I just don’t think they’re great at relationships given my experience.”
You know what? I hate to stereotype, but it’s not just your experience that proves them to be bad at relationships. It seems that all “true” artists (painters, poets, musicians etc.) are that way because they’re MARRIED to their craft. For them, a girlfriend is nice to have, but she’s more like the “other woman” – so she has to take a backseat to their life’s passion.
I gotta admire their fierce commitment to their work, though.
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Panama Jackson Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:16 am
@RedBeanzNRice, this seems apropos enough, so to quote Steve Harvey back when Regina wasn’t giving him no play:
“that’s okay, I still have my one true love…mah music!!!”
i actually say this at least once a week…
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:24 pm
@Panama Jackson,
“to quote Steve Harvey back when Regina wasn’t giving him no play: “that’s okay, I still have my one true love…mah music!!!”…”
If you actually say that once a week, you better be damn sure you’re only quoting him, and not dressing like him. Cause that mess will get you tossed out like yesterday’s garbage, lol.
blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:43 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
“If you actually say that once a week, you better be damn sure you’re only quoting him, and not dressing like him. Cause that mess will get you tossed out like yesterday’s garbage, lol.”
I think the funniest and saddest part about Steve Harvey’s fashion sense (or lack thereof) is that he actually thinks he is FLY! He swears that NOBDOY ain’t got NUTHIN on his game. And what’s more, there are legions women out there who are affirming this personal fallacy he holds. Including his WIFE. Oh yeah, and Nephew Tommy, with his stupid self. **smh**
Deviant Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:51 pm
@blackberry molasses,
To people in that age group he is. Ask your pops or your auntie
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:01 pm
@blackberry molasses,
“I think the funniest and saddest part about Steve Harvey’s fashion sense (or lack thereof) is that he actually thinks he is FLY!”
That made me laugh, but ain’t it the truth? You CAN’T even TELL him he ain’t got it goin on. Those chicks that confirm his fashionlessness only see dollar signs. So, the dollar signs in their path of vision mask the raging, color blind, loud-ass suits he wears, lol.
It’s so sad on so many levels. I loves me some Steve Harvey – but he loves him some pimptastic couture. To that I cannot abide, lol.
blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:50 pm
@Deviant,
my momma, my aunties, my godmommie and my daddy all have confirmed that Steve Harvey is one big loud ass technicolor HAWT MESS
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:20 pm
I loves me some Steve Harvey – but he loves him some pimptastic couture
my question is, where do they even sell those clothes? i mean, ive never seen anything resembling steve harvey’s zoot suits in any stores ive shopped in.
miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
That ish has to be custom made.
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:40 pm
@The Champ
“my question is, where do they even sell those clothes? i mean, ive never seen anything resembling steve harvey’s zoot suits in any stores ive shopped in.”
Ok, I’m dead @ zoot suits, but I’ll try some CPR – lmao.
You haven’t seen any of the suits where you shop, cause evidently you don’t shop at swap meets, garage sales, or in your great granddaddy’s closet. And for that, I commend you, lol.
Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:15 pm
it might be custom, but i’ve seen many a PGH men in loud-behind “zoot” suits like Steve’s. 2 men at my church come to mind…
i think they have lots of shops in E. Lib, Penn Ave in Wilkinsburg, and i’m sure a myriad of other hood places.
Deviant Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:40 pm
@The Champ
“my question is, where do they even sell those clothes? i mean, ive never seen anything resembling steve harvey’s zoot suits in any stores ive shopped in”
You gotta go to the suit store in the hood or go to any black church and look for the guy in the lime suit and ask him.
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:01 pm
@LisaAngelaPamelaRenee,
Last musician I dated had an advantage because I liked his music. So even when he wasn’t around, he was in my ipod, wooing me when he wasn’t even trying.
would this qualify as “game by osmosis”?
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:24 pm
@The Champ,
“would this qualify as “game by osmosis”?”
Ya know, I think it would. All hail game by osmosis! Now that’s a true pimp right there! And I shall call him pimpmosis. : )
By the way, that’s copyrighted, lol.
WestIndianArchie Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:54 am
@LisaAngelaPamelaRenee,
“expend most of their emotions and creative energy into their work leaving little left over for you”
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I have a thing for the creative/artistic types. I am a very right brain (or is it left) kind of person. I have a love for the hard sciences (h3ll I get paid to consruct research methods and statisitcal models- and ENJOY it). I read medical/nursing/public health journals for fun and have verbal diarrhea when it comes to talking about anything health/disease prevention related.
I need to be with someone who can balance this out with their left brain-(or is it right brain) ism.
My mate is a graphic designer. The ex- before him was a software engineer but a freelance photojournalist as well. I enjoy having people with artistic proclvities around me. They feed my inner artist and inspire me not to neglect my craft.
They also have a slighty different perspective on the world, and a different kind of intelligence that is a h3ll of a turn on.
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:10 am
@blackberry molasses,
Ok I’m going to bed now, lol. But I just had to comment that your whole first paragraph reads like an ad in the personals section, lol.
It’s just too cute, BBMo!
Have a great night!
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blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:22 am
@RedBeanzNRice,
doesn’t it though? i love to entertain the peoplez/ self-aggrandize erry once in a while.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:02 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
Ok I’m going to bed now, lol. But I just had to comment that your whole first paragraph reads like an ad in the personals section, lol.
yeah. she frontin like she didnt copy and paste that sh*t off of craigslist
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blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:08 pm
@The Champ,
hmmmm…. you WOULD know about craigslist dating, wouldn’t you, Champ?
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:22 pm
@blackberry molasses,
good question
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:06 pm
@The Champ,
“yeah. she frontin like she didnt copy and paste that sh*t off of craigslist”
How you gone bust mah girl out like that, lmao. BBMo is legit – Craigslist stole that paragraph from her, lol.
Ain’t that right, BBMo? Tell him!
blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:09 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
oh, i’m bored with entertaining Champola’s foolishness for today
superwoman Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 6:05 am
@blackberry molasses, yes so true!
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pgh muse Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:06 pm
@blackberry molasses,
They also have a slighty different perspective on the world, and a different kind of intelligence that is a h3ll of a turn on
Awww… this is such a wonderful comment about artists…. I don’t date ‘em cause there’s only room enough for 1.5 (.5 is his arty brain space – the other .5 has to be stable) in the relationship and that’s me lol… but this was really a nice!
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In my head, I like the artists, writers, long dreadlocks, very passionate about their arts types… but I have (almost exclusively) dated professional/business types: mostly engineers, a couple of bankers, a lawyer… but mostly engineers definitely. The reliable, trustworthy, solid, caring but not so spontaneous guys.
In retrospect, they are somewhat the yang to my yin and vice versa. I am very complex about simple things. And most of them were very simple in their complexity.
Am I even making sense?
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WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 9:32 am
@MsSula,
Yup you have definately been w/ an engineer. Look @ you complicating simple things. Oh what you mean we engineers aren’t spontaneous? Us engineers have just figured out that the melange is better than the distilled. Since the simple things will confound the wise. We keep both of em around. After all a wise man learns more from fool than the fool learns from the wise man.
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Ms. Sula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:04 pm
@WuDaMan,
Why am I not surprised that you are an engineer?
See this reply right here? Proving my point.
I got mad love for you guys though. Reality is just very simple for most of you. That logic, pragmatic brain.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:04 pm
@MsSula,
I am very complex about simple things. And most of them were very simple in their complexity.
Am I even making sense?
nope, lol. thats okay though…we still luv ya and sh*t
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Ms. Sula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:05 pm
@The Champ,
Hey, it was late!!
Thanks for the love though.
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AkShone Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
@MsSula,
“I am very complex about simple things. And most of them were very simple in their complexity.”
I take it you’re a Teedra Moses fan…Complex Simplicity.
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Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:19 pm
i still undecided on how i feel about that album…
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8th Wonder Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:51 pm
That album has gotten me through some thangs. I heart you Teedra!
Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:37 pm
i think i appreciated her live performance more than the actual CD. idk. like i said, i’m still torn. but perhaps that’s the point, given the oxymoronic album title.
I know this is going to rub some folks the wrong way but my type honestly is the Q dog/Omega man type, which is why I have such a soft spot in my inner parts for Q’s. not to take anything away from any other greeks on here. But typically this is the type of guy that gets my gears going.
That whole “be out” mentality mixed with the intelligence and being about business (service, scholarship and brotherhood). I love that in a man.
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Dom Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:57 am
@Intellectual Hedonist,
Boooooo! Boooo to the Que!
Lol! I guess whatever floats your boat, I just find them to be very arrogant.
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Luvvie Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:09 pm
@Dom,
“I just find them to be very arrogant.”
This could be said of all Greeks. Ques just show their ass (literally and figuratively) more often
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Dom Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:31 pm
@Luvvie,
Lol! True. I’m going to a Que event tonight, thats also a semi-formal affair. There’s nothing funnier than a man barking in a suit.
N.I.A. isonebadmutha.... Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:34 pm
@Dom,
LOL!! That is a hilarious visual!! hopefully, none of them will wear the gold boots.
blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:15 pm
@N.I.A. isonebadmutha….,
not the GOLD BOOTS!!!!
hopefully they won’t think its kosher to nibble on the women there either.
8th Wonder Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:53 pm
@blackberry molasses,
Now twinny…a Que nibbling isn’t always a ba…
nevermind.
blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:38 pm
@ 8th Wondra
something we need to talk about, twinny? what Que been nibblin… you know what? nonamydayumbidnazz.
carry on…
Shay-d-lady Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:54 pm
@Luvvie, This could be said of all Greeks. Ques just show their ass (literally and figuratively) more often
LMAO true..why is that..do they teach that during the pledge/intake process..thats why I dont go to que parties….I dont want no ninjas sweaty naked a$$ to touch me period but especially not while Im doing the busstop……
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:25 pm
@Shay-d-lady,
“ninjas sweaty naked a$$”
btw, this is actually the title of the sister site liz is creating right now. thats why she’s been m.i.a.
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:06 pm
@Intellectual Hedonist,
I have such a soft spot in my inner parts for Q’s
yeah, i’ll bet
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Interesting.
I tend to attract artists more than anything. Singers, Rappers, Writers, Artists. I’m an HR professional so I’m not sure what to make of that.
I couldn’t be serious with someone who’s career I didn’t respect. Mad day would come when my opinion was asked, and I don’t do pouting well.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:07 pm
@Jeandra,
I tend to attract artists more than anything. Singers, Rappers, Writers, Artists
why do you think this is?
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Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:58 pm
@The Champ,
I’ve been told I’m like a muse.
I think it’s because I nurture and foster and try to stoke creativity since it’s so important to me. Therefore it radiates from me that I like this type of man I suppose.
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Luvvie Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:11 pm
@Jeandra,
“I think it’s because I nurture and foster and try to stoke creativity since it’s so important to me. Therefore it radiates from me that I like this type of man I suppose.”
Ok, Mother Earth. I seed you!
Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:23 pm
@Luvvie,
LOL! that’s hillarious.
are you on myspace?
Luvvie Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:21 pm
@Jeandra,
Yeah I have myspacce (but I hate it). Got it just to connect w/ my VSBers. its http://www.myspace.com/igluvvie
Add me!!
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:31 pm
@Jeandra,
LOL! that’s hillarious.
are you on myspace?
***giving jeandra’s vsb’s daily “most random question in a comment” award***
Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:13 pm
@The Champ,
I’d like to thank all those that made this possible.
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:36 pm
@Luvvie,
“Ok, Mother Earth. I seed you!”
Girl hush – lmao! Don’t make it seem like her muse is nothing more than mulch, lol.
Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
mulch makes things grow. red beans and rice give you gas.
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:19 pm
@Jeandra,
I know you didn’t. LMAO! A lil gas is beneficial to the environment – thus, red beans and rice are essential to the world’s global warming crisis. ; )
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:32 pm
@Jeandra,
i appreciated this comeback. good job
Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:47 pm
“I know you didn’t. LMAO! A lil gas is beneficial to the environment – thus, red beans and rice are essential to the world’s global warming crisis. ; ”
soybean,
what am i gonna do with you..you are too much. you are indeed an alternative energy source i gotta give you those peanuts.
Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
lol! red beanz and rice are a favorite of mine. musical fruit or not. my parents are from Louisiana. theres’ no escaping.
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:45 pm
@The Champ
“i appreciated this comeback. good job”
*Open-hand slap in da mouf distributed solely to you*
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:48 pm
@Jeandra,
“my parents are from Louisiana. theres’ no escaping.”
Ya know? That’s where my peoples hail from too. So none of us can escape the aftermath of the digestive tract, lol.
***side note***
are there any other southern cal/LA metro area VSB’ers? Other than me and the person who hipped me to this site. If you are out there, please stand up so I can see you.
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:43 pm
@Jeandra,
Well, Mr. FAQs from Slim Jackson’s blog is in search of platonic female friends in the L.A. area. I only know of his blog cause he (sometimes) frequents VSB.
Check it out, you might just find a homie/lover/friend, lol.
http://www.singleblackmale.net/
And I KNOW it sounds like a pick up site, but it really isn’t, lol. Again, I only know of his blog cause of VSB.
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Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
mmm hmmm. that’s what they all say. LOL
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@ The Champ
“ladies, would you have a problem being serious with a guy in a “feminine” profession (ie: interior decorator, hairdresser, secretary, etc)? if so, why?”
First off, no hairdressers for me – no sirree uh uh! I just can’t. That said though, it would depend on the way the man carries himself really (note: this doesn’t apply to hairdressers). As long as he’s paying his bills, it doesn’t matter to me what he does to get those bills paid (except of course if he’s a hairdresser)!
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Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:30 am
@YGB,
that’s a win win (the hairdresser) until mad day comes. one minute you are luxurious, the next minute it’s a pepsi commerical and you’re rolling down the stairs with a sequined glove on.
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superwoman Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:05 am
@YGB, it depends on the hairdresser, girlie – there is one here in Jozi (African-American, ironically) who is a beauty of note – in that very masculine, comfy in my sexuality, sensitive but 200% man – kinda way – never say never!!!
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Leila Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:02 am
@YGB, I couldn’t date a guy who’s a hairdresser because most are gay. I don’t think that I could date a male nurse or secretary either….
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:09 pm
@Leila,
I couldn’t date a guy who’s a hairdresser because most are gay. I don’t think that I could date a male nurse or secretary either….
assuming that these guys were straight as an arrow, why not?
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Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:25 pm
@The Champ,
How do you feel about female welders?
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:37 pm
@Jeandra,
How do you feel about female welders?
as long as they dont have hands like connie hawkins, its cool
Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:09 pm
@The Champ,
Phoenix Suns or Pittsburg Pipers?
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:33 pm
@Jeandra,
rucker park
Leila Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:29 pm
@The Champ, I don’t know. I have a guy friend who’s a nurse and it’s a good profession, but it’s not a masculine profession.
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:38 pm
@Leila,
i guess my question is, why does it matter to you?
Intellectual Hedonist Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:45 pm
@YGB, my ex was a Nurse. He looked mm mm good in his uniform. No one thought he was gay, that I know of. his patients and other nurses hit on him all the time
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Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:26 pm
@Intellectual Hedonist,
i can see the sex appeal of a man in scrubs. as a matter of fact, i’ve got something playing out in my head as we speak
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:48 pm
@YGB,
“As long as he’s paying his bills, it doesn’t matter to me what he does to get those bills paid (except of course if he’s a hairdresser)!”
It doesn’t matter what he does to pay the bills? Really? Even if he was a drug dealer that kills our community?
Would you date a drug dealer if he was a hairdresser on the side?
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Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:59 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
and knows how to cook.
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Hey Champ, what does the uniform of an assistant principal look like?
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:12 pm
@kamakula,
in my head, its similar to what jay-z said about stewardesses in “girls, girls, girls”
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:51 pm
@The Champ,
“in my head, its similar to what jay-z said about stewardesses in “girls, girls, girls””
Yeah, in your head – but in reality, it looks like Hillary in a pantsuit. What’s not to love about that visual?
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I don’t know if she reads this blog so I had to use a fake name to hide my innocence.
I dated a girl who was a writer/actor and sucked at both horribly. Her and her friends from a local art school would make bullshit basic cable “movies” and it would hurt me to watch them even remotely. I just told her that watching people sing or reading things people wrote made me feel weird. She eventually got tired of me not supporting her craft and we broke up and she started dating another artists. I think he was better at bullshitting then I was, oh well. LOL.
As for a specific job, anything that makes 30k and up makes me wet. LOL! I tend to go for artsy girls and they never make any dough and it sucks. That’s why I keep my craft as a hobby instead of trying to make a living off of it.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:14 pm
@James Nantucket,
welcome and sh*t (i think)
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:53 pm
@James Nantucket,
“As for a specific job, anything that makes 30k and up makes me wet. LOL! ”
The assistant manager at K-Mart makes 30k. Open the floodgates!
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shatani Reply:
December 13th, 2008 at 3:50 am
@James Nantucket,
“I dated a girl who was a writer/actor and sucked at both horribly. Her and her friends from a local art school would make bullshit basic cable “movies” and it would hurt me to watch them even remotely. I just told her that watching people sing or reading things people wrote made me feel weird.”
this right here is why i tend to not go for artsy types…i hate to see somebody suck at something that they are really into and they dont even know they suck! it just makes me feel weird. i feel embarassed for them. i dont like to read people’s poetry at all….AT ALL. i dont like to hear their terrible music (and please dont let them be a rapper) and i dont want to see their awful paintings…i cant hide my disdain that well. i do it all day at work and i dont have any tact left when i get home! lol
in short, i dont want to be a killer of dreams…regardless of how stupid those dreams are.
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I can’t roll w/anybody whose work I can’t respect. Kitten killers and drug dealers, be gone!!
I don’t seem to be attracted to a certain profession (although I do hold educators and artists in high regard because I can relate to them). As long as dude is hard-working, respectful, responsible and believes in something, he’s cool with me. He could be a Metro operator or a mail carrier, a butcher, a baker or a candle-stick maker…I wouldn’t dare look down my nose @ anyone’s profession.
What I DO NOT like is people in general who think that their profession makes them more appealing or even superior to others and remind you every other dayum hour that they’re a principal/lawyer/physician/astronaut. So what you’re a lawyer? If all you do is get kitten killers and drug dealers off, you’re nobody to me. I’ll take the candle-stick maker.
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Relax, Relate, Alise Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 9:20 am
@PBG,
Yes I hate that dude. Everyone should hate that dude/girl. Makes me think of the pretentious piece of sh*t post….
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miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 9:33 am
@PBG,
“What I DO NOT like is people in general who think that their profession makes them more appealing or even superior to others and remind you every “other dayum hour that they’re a /lawyer/?”
Have you been talking to my immediate ex? lol
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WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 9:51 am
@PBG,
So you essentially can’t stand the people that have the big I’s and little U’s attitude. The people that think that their ‘I am’ is way greater than our ‘We are’. Can’t stand sociopaths? The non team players.
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eff yo couch Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:36 am
“I can’t roll w/anybody whose work I can’t respect. Kitten killers and drug dealers, be gone!! ”
@PBG,
Why do us Kitten killers have a bad rap? I don’t get it. It’s not my fault that cats just happen to run in front of my car, while I’m doing 80 mph down the block
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Lil'T Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:46 pm
@eff yo couch,
You need to hook up with my mom for a kitten killin’ spree. She speeds up when she see cats in the street, and can make you a mean bloody mary.
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Intellectual Hedonist Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:56 pm
@eff yo couch, squirrells and chipmunks manage to crawl under my tires eff so I totally understand what you are going through
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:58 pm
@eff yo couch, Intellectual Hedonist and Lit’T
(Lil’T, et tu Brute?)
Yall are all sinners of the worst kind! Kittens, squirrels, chipmunks and tire treads have done nothing to you, yet you bring upon them this ghastly deed? Tsk, tsk.
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WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:03 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
I think that they just need to go to driving school or watch that video from blockbuster, points on the license or something. But then again I dip dodge dive and dip in my whip and miss a bee if I had to.
shatani Reply:
December 13th, 2008 at 3:54 am
@WuDaMan,
yeah, me too….i dont even like to run over creatures that have already been victims of vehicular homicide. i dont wanna add insult to injury.
(smooooove Dodgeball reference too!)
pgh muse Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:12 pm
@PBG,
Dayum. I agree with everything u said. I think i’m turning into a PBG groupie…
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1a. It seems that most of the men I’ve been serious with have been in the armed forces at one point in their lives. I guess I love a man who will serve his country.
1b. I also prefer “white collar” working men to “blue collar” working men. We seem to have more in common. I don’t discriminate though but through dating both, I see where my preference is.
3. I actually was with a guy and found out he was doing some shady business dealings and I lost respect for him and that was the beginning of the end. If you can’t be trusted in business, you sure in the h – e double hockey sticks, can’t be trusted in a relationship.
4. I’ve had too many male hairdressers—and they were all gay but one. The one that wasn’t gay was married to a white woman. But to answer your question, I would date a male nurse but not a male hairdresser.
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N.I.A. isonebadmutha.... Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 9:52 am
@Shelia, 1b. I also prefer “white collar” working men to “blue collar” working men. We seem to have more in common. I don’t discriminate though but through dating both, I see where my preference is.
This has also been my experience.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:16 pm
@Shelia,
you know what, i would have assumed that since you were into military men, that you’d be more into blue collar men as well. i would have been wrong
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I’ve usually dated men who are in the banking/economics/finance industry. I think that is partially b/c that is not my area of expertise, and I was turned on by his knowledge. There is something about an MBA that gets me all hot and bothered. I’ll write more later, I have to get up and get ready for work….
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N.I.A. isonebadmutha.... Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 9:50 am
@N.I.A. isonebadmutha….,
2. is there a close symmetry between the personality type you claim to be attracted to, and the career paths of people you usually date? I’m ususally attracted to professional, career focused, community minded, world traveller/wannabe world traveller types who are also politically and socially involved in their communities or just politically or socially conscious. Include with that men who are in a different profession than myself, becuase I like to learn new things. And the men I have dated with these personality traits go across all professions except the arts. I’ve never dated any visual or performance artists. And interestingly enough, I’ve never dated a fellow lawyer or a fellow J.D.
I could never be in a relationship with someone I didn’t respect.
As for so-called feminine professions, I’ve never dated a male hair dresser, and probably never will since the ones I know are all gay. Really, it all goes back to the personalities that I find attractive. If the man has some of those traits, and is straight and easy on the eyes, then there is a chance I will be attracted to him and might give him a chance….
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Ro Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:12 am
@N.I.A. isonebadmutha….,
“I’m ususally attracted to professional, career focused, community minded, world traveller/wannabe world traveller types who are also politically and socially involved in their communities or just politically or socially conscious. Include with that men who are in a different profession than myself, becuase I like to learn new things.
Me too… the packaging varies but those personality traits are what I go for everytime.
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Ms. Sula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:20 pm
@N.I.A. isonebadmutha….,
I think I am about to submit an application for e-twin.
I like to think in theory that I love the artsy types but in reality, I usually date the professional, cultured, worldly, politically minded dude.
The difference is I have dated lots of them(current s/o) in my line of work (software engineering)…
Maybe because I am an artsy engineer?
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N.I.A. isonebadmutha.... Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:02 pm
@Ms. Sula,
go ahead and submit that application. I’m accepting all 2008-2009 e-twin applications until December 31st.
I really like the idea of the artsy guy, but I don’t seem to be drawn to that personality.
Luvvie Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
@N.I.A. isonebadmutha….,
YESSS MBAs make me wanna iron (and starch) that white collar WHILE using that same iron to make u a bomb ass grilled cheese sammich.
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N.I.A. isonebadmutha.... Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
@Luvvie,
LMAO!!
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shatani Reply:
December 13th, 2008 at 3:59 am
@Luvvie,
for real though, luv? the iron? ya’ll cant get a foreman grill!?!?
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i haven’t had a whole lotta dates, whole lotta relationships. so nothing to base it off of. but there is one kinda dude that always catches my eye though…
the barber. yes, i said it. the one who is really quiet, but has about 15 ppl waiting for him and is respected by most. he has his business sense and that STRAIGHT street sense. says a few words once in a while in his busy shop, but is more like the moderator btwn the idiots and the thugs. he doesn’t even have to be the owner! just a partial one, or the one that’s renting with hella potential. *panties wet*
come to me barber. come to me!!
i have a hella girl cousins, but everytime my lil BOY cousin is around, i PRAY that they need someone to take him to the shop, best believe i’m front and center dressed to the nines to take him down the street. lol.
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PBG Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 8:21 am
@jana.love,
I think that is so cute that you’re crushing on the barber!! Barbers can be kinda hot. Even the older gentleman that cuts my son’s hair is a good-lookin’ guy. I’d go the picture show w/him fa sho! LOL!
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jana.love Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 8:32 am
@PBG,
teehee, what can i say, my youth has the best of me
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miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 9:26 am
@PBG,
I’d go the picture show w/him fa sho! LOL!
LMAO!!!! I’m so done with you.
You’re the only person outside of my grandmother that I know who still calls it “the picture show”.
*sniggling*
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AkShone Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:33 am
…sounds like you have your eye on a PARTICULAR barber, lol.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:19 pm
@jana.love,
this reminds of the the time i went to my barbershop one early morning, and some chick was in there giving everyone lazy lapdances. this wasn’t you, was it?
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Lil'T Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:49 pm
@The Champ,
Go.sat.down.
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jana.love Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:10 pm
@The Champ,
LOL!!
shush. twas not i.
when i go in there i’m all quiet n cool. just being really chill, i don’t wanna be the one who starts to “women-aint-shizz” convo when i walk out, i wanna be the “damn-did-you-see-them-tig-ol-bitties-and-chocolate-skin- i-think-i-wanna-wife-that-” convo.
@Akshone
lol, this actually ain’t about a particular one, but i mean could be blame me for just having a THING for them alll. so many to choose, so little time. of course, the fact that they always lookin fresh in their lil white tees don’t help AND they pay the bills.
pffffffftttt.
anybody need me to take dey kids to get a shape up??
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miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:10 pm
@The Champ,
This barbershop sounds like a front…lol
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:42 pm
@miss t-lee,
seriously, for a minute i felt like i was being “punk’d”, until i remembered that i’m not famous enough to actually be on punk’d, so i just chalked it up as another thing that happens at barbershops in the hood
miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:45 pm
@The Champ,
Musta been customer appreciation day or something…lol
Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:28 pm
@The Champ,
is a lazy lap dance similar to a tired two step?
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I don’t think a relationship has that much to do what a person does for a job, now a days it’s good enough just to have a job. It’s a recession.
This statement excludes anything illegal and risque jobs like stripping.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:20 pm
@J. McFly,
so, i take it, you’d never fall in love with a stripper?
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Lil'T Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:51 pm
@J. McFly,
Why do you all sound off so bad about strippers? That girl was legally employed, free during the day to help you study/file papers/rob banks, will likely give you free shows, usually has a good figure and can ALWAYS make change on a $20. What more can you ask? lol!
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Ms. Sula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:14 pm
@Lil’T,
Preach!
I don’t know why they are hating on the strippers. It’s my secret dream job!!!
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Ms. Sula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:16 pm
@Lil’T,
Preach sister!
Stop hatin’ on the strippers. Truth be told, it’s my secret dream job.
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Luvtheshoes Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:10 pm
@Lil’T,
“can ALWAYS make change on a $20″
**just fell outta my chair**
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Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:29 pm
*dead* @ at this whole comment
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I’ve dated women across the spectrum – from exotic dancers to a top executive at a Fortune 5 company to working at a non-profit to unemployed. No many similarities when it comes to professions, but they all had dynamic personalities. Some worked out longer than others but I wouldn’t attest it to what they did for a living.
One thing I have noticed is that I’m much more attractive to a woman who has a passion. It doesn’t necessarily have to be her job, but just a hobby or interest that she’s very passionate about.
And just in case you’re wondering, I even had respect for the exotic dancers I have dated as I respected the relationship to be what it was. I’m not overly judgemental like that.
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AkShone Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:37 am
@Monk,
I think exotic dancers get a bit of a bad wrap. I’ve come across a couple that have really impressed me (no shake) beyond the obvious.
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miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:40 am
@AkShone,
“really impressed me (no shake) ”
This made me laugh out loud.
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:08 pm
@AkShone,
“I think exotic dancers get a bit of a bad wrap.”
And I think they’re nothing more than strippers.
The term “exotic” denotes something fancy – which they’re not. Call em what they are – STRIPPERS, lol.
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Lil'T Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:26 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
Normally I’d agree with you, Beanie Baby – but I’ve seen skrippers pull some stuff that almost defies gravity. Especially the black ones. White skrippers tend to just stand around swinging their hair while Taquishinda and her folk are doing triple sumersaults from 15ft high while poppin’ one butt cheek and shaking the other and sh*t.
ThePhiladelphiaNegro Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:08 pm
@Lil’T,
Very, very true. (or so I’ve uh…heard)
pgh muse Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:44 pm
@Lil’T,
U know… i have to say that I have a great deal of respect for that type of physical intelligence and also the sexiness of the profession. Like what’s the difference between burlesque and stripping? It’s another thing im torn about… Idk…
Sula In Lurking Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:56 pm
@pgh muse,
I have a great deal of respect for the physical on-pointness as well.
That sh!t takes work and dedication.
and really what’s really different between Vegas showgirls and Strippers?
In my head (and dreams) I am a bona fide stripper.
1. is there a career that just does it for you?
Yep…you were getting a bit too happy with the alliteration…lmao!!! Reminded me of this song for a sec.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i-dJ6xbrWHQ
To answer the question, no. There isn’t a certain career that just does it.
Although as I think back, I’ve dated more blue-collar types kats than white collar, so maybe you’re on to something.
2. is there a close symmetry between the personality type you claim to be attracted to, and the career paths of people you usually date? Yep
3. on the flipside, could you be with someone whose work you didn’t respect?
I have. LOL I’ve dated way too many musicians, DJ’s, rappers. Some were good, others, like my immediate ex were questionable at best…lol
4. ladies, would you have a problem being serious with a guy in a “feminine” profession (ie: interior decorator, hairdresser, secretary, etc)? if so, why?
I don’t think so. I don’t have a good answer; I just don’t think it would fly with me.
5. is the champ insane?
Absolutely certifiable.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:24 pm
@miss t-lee,
5. is the champ insane?
Absolutely certifiable.
hey! i thought we were homies and sh*t
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miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:41 pm
@The Champ,
We are.
I talk ish to my friends the most, consider yourself special.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:43 pm
@miss t-lee,
consider deez
miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:50 pm
@The Champ,
Bwahaha.
Intellectual Hedonist Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:00 pm
@The Champ, truth hurts Champie?
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I prefer a woman that is passionate about what she does. I find that some women that hold professional jobs are defined by their jobs which is a huge turn-off. I find that some women that don’t hold profession jobs tend to be more down to earth but have limited conversation. There are always exceptions to the rule on this.
I have noticed how some women behave towards me when I was in skilled trades compare to now that i’m in engineering. It seems that some people look down on those that have to use their heads and hands to do their job.
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Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:14 am
@Humble_One, “I find that some women that hold professional jobs are defined by their jobs which is a huge turn-off. ”
this is true for alot of men too. i thinks some of it is insecurity tho just wrapped up in people never cultivating their own identity outside of their work.
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Humble_One Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 10:33 am
@Princess Duvet,
I agree, i have met some of these corny dudes.
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I seem to attract “aint sh*t” type dudes (the ones that yell “YO MA, can i holla at u for a minute”, when im driving by them at the bus stop) or the guys that dont have it all together. Like the Kool-aid no suger, peanut butter no jelly situation. Job, but no car. House but no job. Not sure why these kinda guys gravitate towards me!
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AkShone Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:44 am
Cereal, no milk…ham, no burger. Y’all ain’t neva got nuthin’ in this house!
(c) Smokey
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:28 pm
@Ziggy,
welcome and sh*t.
and, ummmm…
“I seem to attract “aint sh*t” type dudes”
…maybe you got aint sh*t p*ssy, lol
i kid, i kid.
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jana.love Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:16 pm
@The Champ,
that’s just wrong.
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:11 pm
@The Champ,
“…maybe you got aint sh*t p*ssy, lol”
Wow. You’re in extra RARE form today, lmao.
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Ziggy Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:14 pm
@The Champ, I set myself up for that one huh? A welcome and a diss all in the same comment, thanks lol! BTW no “aint sh*t” vajay jay ova here homie.
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Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:28 pm
@Ziggy,
How old are these people? Maybe they are in “transition”
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shatani Reply:
December 13th, 2008 at 4:16 am
@Ziggy,
champ so mean! welcome ziggy! lol….and i feel what youre saying. i also tend to attract them “aint shyt” type dudes….no job, no car, no other stuff i require. and i always wonder, what is it about who i am and what i do that tells these men that they have a chance with me? like do i look like im looking for a man to support?
a male friend told me that i alternately give off a savior vibe and a save me vibe…he didnt elaborate, but i think its weird. the savior vibe is what attracts the scrubs, i suppose….the other thing is that i sometimes take that non-judgmental thing too far lmao…like, oh youre 33 and live with your moms and dont have a job…oh, okay, i see. i dont give em the stink face even though ive already scratched them off the “gettin some” list, mentally. so, since im nice to them, they think im interested…
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“1. is there a career that just does it for you?”
i really can’t say that there is. I love men who are just overall passionate about their work, but not defined by what they do. I don’t know that overall zest for life and his chosen path, just makes for a very fulfilling dating dynamic. On top of which people period who are usually passionate about their work are not only good at it, but also successful (success turns me on to LOL), and its not even about the money.
To me I haven’t found that symmertry between personality types and career paths..maybe because I think the people who grativate to me and vice versa aren’t really what they do. I think I am the dam!n poster child for this theory, at least for my “real job”. And I think it throws a lot of people off even at work.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:30 pm
@Princess Duvet,
On top of which people period who are usually passionate about their work are not only good at it, but also successful (success turns me on to LOL), and its not even about the money.
so money is no object?
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Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:19 pm
@The Champ, i dont understand the question as it relates to what i wrote. anyhoo …yes money matters if he can’t keep the lights on and his house heated. But in the larger grander scheme of things..passion is a requirement. And I find that with most professions not all, money (which is only energy) is a bi-product of being really good at what you do.
Some people are gonna throw Mother Teresa at me. But Momma T had access to lots of OPM.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:45 pm
@Princess Duvet,
i dont understand the question as it relates to what i wrote
there is none, lol. was just curious and sh*t
Hmmm, good questions. I like to consider myself an equal opportunity dater, but I did notice that I have begun a pattern of engineers and med students.
I like men who are smart, even to the point of geeky (i.e. Engineers ruining a perfectly good car ride, or mini-doc’s ruining any med related movie/show), determined, and have the perseverance to stick it out even when the road gets tough. I hope those are traits that carry over to their relationships as well.
I’ve got to admit that since I’ve always been into reading, writing, and the arts it’s refreshing to date guys who are well versed in science and math.
Now, on the other two questions I couldn’t see myself dating a guy who’s a nurse or a hairdresser. I couldn’t date a man who’s work I don’t respect. I don’t knock anybody for their hustle but I know the direction I hope to go in, and I think its only fair to ask that the men I date are bringing their A game too.
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Ro Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:16 pm
@Dom, dated a med student who ran for the hills at the first sign of trouble. Went ballistic over a tattoo, gave me a lecture on the dangers and why it was the stupidest thing to do and then was livid when I proudly proclaimed that I was getting another one..lol!!!
But maybe all med students are like that!
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Dom Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:33 pm
@Ro,
He sounds a little uptight. I think if you’re willing to sit through the health conversations (lectures, I call them) they’re generally not so bad. They’re some of the most laid back guys I know.
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Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:44 pm
“I like men who are smart, even to the point of geeky (i.e. Engineers ruining a perfectly good car ride, or mini-doc’s ruining any med related movie/show), determined, and have the perseverance to stick it out even when the road gets tough. I hope those are traits that carry over to their relationships as well. “
i can relate. even with male friends who are engineers and med students.
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For whatever reason, I always get engineers. My father was an engineer and I always swore that I would never date an engineer because they view every situation as black or white and they tend to respect the opinions only of other engineers. This is why I usually tend to argue a lot with the guys that I date. I’m pretty logical, but I also see things from different perspectives…..My last ex attracts girls who have a horoscope of Cancer. His last 3 girlfriends (myself included) had birthdays that fell within a week of each other and he could never figure out why. He said that we all have very similar personalities and outlooks on life.
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Humble_One Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:11 am
@Leila,
You’ve met some bad engineers. As an engineer you are suppose to view things from all angles and analyze the information.
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blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:27 am
@Leila,
I too am the daughter of an engineer. I feel what you are saying.
And lets not forget… the corny nerd jokes.
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Humble_One Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:41 am
@blackberry molasses,
I feel you guys. But all engineers are not herbs. Maybe me and my friends are different b/c we ran the streets then went to school or did both at the same time.
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blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:04 pm
@Humble_One,
part of it is that my father is a foreign born (read: African) engineer… a whole nother can o worms, they are. He and all his engineer friends are the same. And I REFUSED to let them set me up with their engineer sons. I was having NONE OF IT.
*whew, got that off my chest*
Ms. Sula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:27 pm
@blackberry molasses,
Ah ah ah ah! How I can relate.
But the new breed of foreign-born engineers is not so bad.
Humble_One Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:47 pm
@Ms. Sula & blackberry molasses,
I can partially relate. My father is from Ghana but not an engineer.
blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:12 pm
@Humble_One,
oh well, I gotta do this properly then
Akwaaba
*Diva Dust ™*
both my parents are Ghanaian
shatani Reply:
December 13th, 2008 at 4:24 am
@Humble_One,
indeed! akwaaba!
*just my mama*
Leila Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 8:21 pm
@blackberry molasses, “part of it is that my father is a foreign born (read: African) engineer”
Same here.
RedBeanzNRice Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:15 pm
@blackberry molasses,
“And lets not forget… the corny nerd jokes.”
*enters eff yo couch*
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eff yo couch Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:37 pm
@RedBeanzNRice,
Damn, I tell one corny joke and you won’t let me live that shyt down. Me thinks your still bitter from not getting the first post. Now I see why The legend of “Bagger” Vance left yo @ss. lol
shatani Reply:
December 13th, 2008 at 4:25 am
@eff yo couch,
lmao! as a lover of corny nerd jokes (as long as the joker recognizes them for what they are) i salute you!
No matter the profession, entroprenuers love me. If a man owns a business, just filed the paperwork for said business, or just inherited a business, he comes and finds me. That works well.
I can’t date someone whose profession I don’t respect.
Champ, sweetie, honey bump, suger toes, you are insane. Like attracts like. If all the women you encounter are insane, you are just an insane woman magnet. Get help.
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WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:34 am
@Hostess,
ctfu @ ‘he comes and finds me.’
I don’t think that The Champ is crazy maybe it’s that he has the insane medacine. And his job is to heal the world of insane relationshipy educators n healers. And maybe just maybe you have something that helps people to start out right.
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Hostess Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:50 am
@WuDaMan, I would say it’s may Sally Home-maker behavior but when they initially meet me, they don’t know I’m all about Home Comforts (google the book). But if there are ten men in a room and only one owns a business, his ass will find me. I’m not complaining either. Being a self-starter is completely secksy!
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WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:16 pm
@Hostess,
Okay I want 3 cheers for the Hostie cakes over here. I’d say you should find a guy about to open a mega church (if you don’t mind me playing matchmaker, and if you weren’t already happy w/ your current situation). And maybe the entrepreneurs are into faceology (http://www.amazon.com/Face-Reader-Personality-Compatibility-ThroughFace/dp/B0014T0AUQ/ref=pd_sim_b_7)or are able to draw many context clues about people via their appearance. All of this stuff it really chicken and the egg situation (I’d say the egg reptiles n fish lay eggs, who said that chickens had to be the first egg layers). And Suzie Homemakers are not hard to pick out. I have a habit for them myself, always have.
Ms. Sula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:33 pm
@Hostess,
I have had a pattern as well. The just-moved-into-town, or starting-on-a-new-life-venture guys.
I swear they do find me.
I can go out with some friends and we’ll meet a group of guys, without fail, the guy who will be attracted to me is “from out of town” or just moved into town, or is just embarking on a grad degree, or changing careers. And they have all been in my city for like 5 mns.
I still haven’t find a reason why that might be. But it is so very consistent, my sisters have decided to study my case.
It happened again last week at a career fair, of all the guys there I had to be chatted up by the one who just finished his Master’s in Scotland and the one working between Angola and Houston. Go figure!
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:37 pm
@Hostess,
Champ, sweetie, honey bump, suger toes, you are insane. Like attracts like. If all the women you encounter are insane, you are just an insane woman magnet. Get help.
i didnt say all the woman i’ve been with have been insane, but that all woman in general are. see? big difference and sh*t, so help deez
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Hostess Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:22 pm
@The Champ, I maintain, you, kind sir, are insane.
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Everyone around here is in the Air Force, needless to say I’m not a fan of dating military folks. I like to take off my uniform and pretend I’m not in the Air Force when I go home.
I’ve always liked educators though. Teachers, guidance counselors, etc. I guess it’s my desire to find someone who is good with kids, therefore possessing the motherly qualities that I want in a wife.
I like sporty chicks too, not butch chicks but like an aerobics instructor or personal trainer, or a mountain climber or snowboarder or whatever. Someone who gets paid to have fun and stay in shape and also someone who will drag your arse off the couch when your being lazy. I guess strippers fall into this category too, since they have a physically demanding job and I definitely respect their hustle. Did I really type that, I guess I did.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:39 pm
@mdubb,
I’ve always liked educators though. Teachers, guidance counselors, etc. I guess it’s my desire to find someone who is good with kids, therefore possessing the motherly qualities that I want in a wife.
I like sporty chicks too, not butch chicks but like an aerobics instructor or personal trainer, or a mountain climber or snowboarder or whatever. Someone who gets paid to have fun and stay in shape and also someone who will drag your arse off the couch when your being lazy
get out of my head and sh*t
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mdubb Reply:
December 13th, 2008 at 6:14 am
@The Champ,
You know what they say about great minds and sh*t
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Good morning all!!! Dang u vsb’ers get up supa early or stay up supa late! LOL
IMO I dont think it is the type of job that a brotha has but the drive behind it. If a man isnt 2 proud 2 make it do what it do then Im all for it. What I mean by that is, Im not gon turn my nose up at a ninja who doesnt have a career if he get his as* up erryday gets to work on time and is good at what he does, no matter what the job is! Ive dated a guy who was interning at a hospital (he is now a surgeon), he did not like his job even though he is now hella paid he hated getting up and going to work, I’ve dated a guy who worked at FedEx and he just loved it! He said he loved driving around and scoping the scenery and he truly enjoyed the convos he had w/regular as* people that he saw erryday, in that case I would much rather date the FedEx man because he was more of a joy to b around…….What about the brotha who got laid off or sumtin like that and during this “in between” time before he finds sumtin better he takes a “regular” job at pepboys? I gotta respect that 2, the fact that he is humble enough 2 know that he gots 2 keep on trucking!!! To me that makes the pepboys shirt sexier than a suit and tie anyday..so to sum it all up..my “type” of man is simply, wait 4 it…..A nikkah w/a J O B!!!
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mdubb Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:12 am
@badyellabroad,
I’m feeling that right their.
At the end of the day it’s about what makes you happy, and everybody should be able to respect that.
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blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:14 am
@badyellabroad,
lmao, I like you. I don’t know if I did this before but
Welcome !
**Diva Dust ™**
Enjoy the sparklyness!
(I’m not sure how long you been around, but the welcome committee has been busy/out of comission)
And this…
“my “type” of man is simply, wait 4 it…..A nikkah w/a J O B!!!”
reminds me of what one of my bff’s says…
“I love me a BMW… Black Man Workin!”
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badyellabroad Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:47 am
@blackberry molasses,
yes, I’m in there, I have been waiting on this day
***basking in the diva dust***
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miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:18 am
@badyellabroad,
I applaud this comment.
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SouthernGirl Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:11 pm
@badyellabroad, yes! i agree with you wholeheartedly. i don’t have any job-related dating patterns. i just want someone with ambition to do well.
that being said….welcome! *gold stars*
if i got caught slippin’ its cause a sista actually had work to do. lol.
@bbmo,
i’m headed off to the company holiday party so i am lending you my gold stars in my absence, just in case we have more welcome’s today. i trust you and sh!t…
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blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:21 pm
@SouthernGirl,
**takes cache of gold stars**
I gotchu SG!
Co-incidentally, I’m bailing on my company holiday party. I don’t do well in large crowds and small spaces where people are trying to eat.
Grubbin hard on the lunch hubby packed for me.
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pgh muse Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:17 pm
@badyellabroad,
awesome comment. u read my mind!
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As far as dating sum1 w/a profession u dont respect, I dont think that will ever work. I think that u both have 2 be in tune morally for one thing. Ex: I cant date no dope dealer cuz I dont agree w/killing off our people. So what I look like laying up w/a nikkah who do this daily.
There has to be sum type of mutual respect or I think you would find yourself liking this person less and less erryday. Does that make sense?
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:42 pm
@badyellabroad,
There has to be sum type of mutual respect or I think you would find yourself liking this person less and less erryday. Does that make sense
it does, even though i felt like i was reading a text someone sent from a nokia
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badyellabroad Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:51 pm
@The Champ,
thanks and sh*t (I think, LOL)
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Well I would love an architect who can share his blue prints with me. However I always seem to find those irritating nigglets in the education field. They could be cool if they weren’t always trying to teach you sh*t! Idiot you teach 9th Grade classes, I am a college graduate twice over, I think I have enough edu-ma-kay-shun, smart a$$!
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:44 pm
@Mme. Editor-in-Chief,
lol…tell us how you really feel next time
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Mme. Editor-in-Chief Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:27 pm
@The Champ,
LMAO! Sorry I just get so caught up sometimes! I’m a historian and I don’t like to be challenged in that way. I’m smart too!
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Funny you should bring this up The Champ. I remember in college when I first noticed how well my personality meshed w/ my fellow engineers. Great times. Now I got along w/ most people but there was something a little freer w/ my fellow engineers. No-one in the world can curse better than a mechanical engineer(they are also big time cheebuh puffers), Electrical engineers are lushes. Chemical engineers are opulence aficionados. Civil Engineers are earthy n political. I won’t mention industrial engineers cuz they always get a bad rep from the rest of the engineers. Now the chemistry and biology majors awe yeah everybody wants some of them(most of which want to be doctors. Me I was like yo the campus’ best kept secret is the pharmacy chicks. They are smart busy hardly socialized. Though pharmacy chicks had a close running w/ the school of business and industry, SBI chicks were something like the opposite end of the spectrum. They were highly socialized and good @ it pretty n busy doing those things.
But The Champ, me thinks your a terribly passionate teacher parent typed dude. And you are in love w/ your job and never want to stop doing it. Want to keep talking about and doing it @ home. Is that so wrong? No. It is what it is. People get it in where they fit.
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mdubb Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:20 am
@WuDaMan,
Did you got to FAMU?
If I hadn’t discovered some of the pharmacy chicks on the hill, I probably would’ve graduated, lol.
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WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:35 am
@mdubb,
Hecks yeah my rattler compadre. *dap*
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im_the_sweetest Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:14 pm
@WuDaMan, FAMU, FAM gotda%n U…lol, loves all the southern gents, hate the flying roaches!
WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:02 pm
@im_the_sweetest,
Oh snap true story. Me n my boys was going to an on campus party and rounded this corner and hit my homie in the leg. Then said cockroach begins to chase him on feet.
But I’m from Gary, IN. I got Southern roots. But I’m pretty much from the G.
Voiceofreason Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:35 pm
@WuDaMan,
No matter where I go, I always find fellow rattlers. *shedding a tear*
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:48 pm
@WuDaMan,
Want to keep talking about and doing it @ home
you know what, i actually abhor talking about work at home. sh*t, i dont even like when people ask me questions about my day, lol. i’ll write about it though…but having actual conversations about it is for the pigeons
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Leila Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 8:26 pm
@The Champ, Same here. The last thing that I want to talk about is my job when I leave. That’s why I have a hard time dating workaholics, they talk about their jobs non-stop…
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shatani Reply:
December 13th, 2008 at 4:59 am
@Leila,
im feeling that…i long for the days when i can just leave work at work, but ive clearly chosen the wrong field for that! i enjoy not talking about work when im at home, but people find what i do interesting and always ask or want me to tell people about it…i like to hand out pamphlets.
1. I don’t gravitate to men in a particular job per se but definitely do tend to gravitate towards the men in blue-collar fields, be it management or a grunt on the line. It has been my experience that men that work in the blue collar fields tend to be more down to earth, straight shooters, and less pretentious than white collar men. (ie, lawyers, doctors, etc.) Plus the more “up-scale” gentlemen tend to go for the Barbie look and/or trophy wives of which I am not (for all kinds of reasons).
Plus blue collar men just seem to know how to break your back when you need it versus the one of two options you usually get with white collar guys: a) very conservative, reserved attitudes or b) closet s&m freaks.
Now granted that is a complete generalization and there are exceptions on both sides but that has just been my experience.
2. and 3. – I have to give more thought to those.
4. No problem being involved with a man in a more “feminized” job. As long as I know he’s straight, his passion for those areas are all the better. My hair, house, shoe game would be even more on point for sure.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:49 pm
@Luvtheshoes,
so basically, according to you, blue collar men break backs?
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Luvtheshoes Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:57 pm
@The Champ,
Their own…and mine hahaha
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N.I.A. isonebadmutha.... Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:41 pm
@Luvtheshoes, Plus blue collar men just seem to know how to break your back when you need it versus the one of two options you usually get with white collar guys: a) very conservative, reserved attitudes or b) closet s&m freaks.
I have to respectfully disagree. My experience is that white collar professionals can blow your back out and make you pull a hammy!!
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Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:54 pm
“My experience is that white collar professionals can blow your back out and make you pull a hammy!!”
ouch. sounds terrible actually. i’m sooo not ready.
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N.I.A. isonebadmutha.... Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:00 pm
@Gem of the Ocean, ouch. sounds terrible actually. i’m sooo not ready.
Sounds terrible, but feels oh so good….don’t be scurred, just start doing a little yoga to loosen up those hamstrings and those lower back muscles. Yoga does make all the difference, and you will be ready in no time.
Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:48 pm
*making mental note to look for white collor boopiece*
alright. i’m up my yoga membership and should be good to go by feb 09. thanks for the advice lol.
N.I.A. isonebadmutha.... Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:41 pm
@Gem of the Ocean,
LOL!! No problem…I’m always happy to help a sista out!
shhwhisper Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:41 pm
@Luvtheshoes,
I gravitate toward the blue collar management guys too (construction foreman, the dude running the auto shop). I think it’s something about commanding respect from tough looking guys but knowing how to write a report that just warms me up.
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If I offend anyone…forgive me…
Nurses I find to be freaks. Not all but most I know end up being strippers on the side or have a swath of tattoos all over them underneath those scrubs.
I will not date most hair dressers. Something about them that turns me off and it’s not necessarily the burned hair smell. Probably because the ones I knew were loud gossipy harpies that had some of the worst personal lives in the world. Now if it’s the owner…that’s different.
I don’t think I gravitate towards certain fields…but there is certain things you have to put up with with certain occupations. Like school teaching: If you get an elementary school teacher, she’s used to talking to little kids all day and you tend to get a bit of that offline. High School teachers seem burned out mostly…but they make good freaks (Thanks Paul Mooney).
All I really ask is that a woman enjoys her job somewhat and doesn’t come home bitching about it all the time (like I used to at some of my earlier places of employment). Most of the women I meet are administrative assistants or the like.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:53 pm
@CPT Callamity,
I will not date most hair dressers. Something about them that turns me off and it’s not necessarily the burned hair smell. Probably because the ones I knew were loud gossipy harpies that had some of the worst personal lives in the world
you know what, in my experience ive noticed the same thing. do you think the nature of the job makes people gossip or that the gossipers are more likely to choose that gig?
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CPT Callamity Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:49 pm
@The Champ,
It probably is the nature of the job, but I see the women who go into the hair business at their youngest and then see why. Although it is a trade that takes skill (so I won’t knock them for it)…It seems to attract hoodrats. I know because I live near a hair academy and the chicks there are anything but classy. And some of them do look like their 2nd job is “exotic dancing” at biker pool parties.
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shatani Reply:
December 13th, 2008 at 5:18 am
@CPT Callamity,
that must be why my mother forbade me…
been a HARD week at work…but, I got some free time…
so, i’ve noticed that i have a tendency to date chicks who were either students, unemployed, basically unemployed, or better yet “searching for theirself”…or women in offbrand arse professions. professions that i honestly don’t understand how one ends up in said profession – like the type of professions i just don’t ask about b/c the description doesn’t even sound interesting.
which works for me a lot b/c i rarely talk about my day job when i’m not at work so i dont mind not talking about their day job either…
i’ve also dated very artsy chicks and women so bland they made Days Inn Hotel rooms seem like the most animated areas of life EVER.
i’m not sure how that happened either…the bland chicks i mean…i’m adventurous i guess. a swashbuckler, if you will.
and i couldn’t date somebody who’s job i didn’t respect. just like i couldn’t date a woman who’s art i didn’t respect, assuming she felt like trumpeting her art in the first place.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:56 pm
@Panama Jackson,
like the type of professions i just don’t ask about b/c the description doesn’t even sound interesting
lol…i once bagged a chick who told me she sold paper (ala “dunder mifflin”). we never spoke about her job ever again
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Luvvie Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:36 pm
@The Champ,
“lol…i once bagged a chick who told me she sold paper (ala “dunder mifflin”). we never spoke about her job ever again”
bwahahahaha. Yeah her sepia-toned work life was best left alone. Talk bout a mood killer
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:52 pm
@Luvvie,
ironically, she was quite exciting. even almost got us arrested once, and i think i’m still barred from every sbarro in the tri-state area
A Plus Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:04 pm
@The Champ, i dunno though. that morrocan themed holiday party (last night’s episode) looked kinda fun. had me wishing i worked at dunder miflin.
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Mme. Editor-in-Chief Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:30 pm
@A Plus,
Man, that was a great episode. They inspire me every Thursday. Whoever came up with that show, should be knighted by the Queen!
Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:50 pm
lmao me too. i was watching it at the gym and i almost fell off the damn elliptical when Phyllis outted Angela and Dwight.
I don’t have a professional preference. What’s the point? For the most part professions don’t determine the type of person, but I will say only certain type of people go into certain professions. I just know that doctors are always tired, MBA’s try to make every interaction a business transaction and pilots are just crazy. I tend to attract science minded people but I think that is because I spend most of my time in science settings. I’d like to think I can attract any type of man with any professional background. I just hate when the attraction is based on the fact that we are a “good professional” match.
*Monkey trainers do apply*
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WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:41 am
@Ivy St.,
Okay that last part @ the bottom is gonna make me want to have you tranquilized @ the event The Champ mentioned. Right after you get there boom you get darted and dragged off like you were a rogue loosed zoo animal. smh (in FL monkey is a colloquialism for va jay jay)
To the corner!
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Ivy St. Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:03 pm
@WuDaMan, *hangs head low*
I am actually a real monkey trainer/PhD student doing cognitive research! *sniffle* It isn’t code for anything… I’m not going to sit in the corner long d*mnit!
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WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:31 pm
@Ivy St.,
You are not alowed to talk about work ever outside of work. Especially if your audiance has ever been anywhere close to FL. Do you hear me?. OMG stop talking about them. CTFU. I’m a lil mad I want to know more about it though even though I am asking you to stop saying the ‘m’ word.
Ivy St. Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:26 pm
@WuDaMan,
“Do you hear me?”
Understood *sniffle*
MONKEY! MONKEY! MONKEY! MONKEY!
I just had to get it out of my system. Now that I feel better, I’ll try and behave. I can’t discuss me research online as some people may be sensitive about the subject matter. If you really really wanna know or you have a family member that is an addict of some sore, we can discuss it later when I come by.
WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:58 pm
@Ivy St.,
CTFU! I can’t believe it. I used to make buprenorphine for a living. You have been hanging w/ them monkeys too long. I bet you taught em how to type that themselves. smh. And what qualifies as an addict? I mean I have breathed a whole mess of breaths and guess what I’d like lots more. Am I an addict?
Ivy St. Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:08 pm
@WuDaMan,
“I bet you taught em how to type that themselves. ”
LMAO! I actually spit my lukewarm “Yerba Mate Latte” all over my mouse pad. I did teach them how to type that… how did you know?
As to you being an addict… I’m going to need you to fill out the attached self-report questionnaire. When you are done, please leave your pen on the table and I will call you into the back when I am ready to do your scan (PET).
WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:52 pm
@Ivy St,
ooh 4 reals a (PET) scan! I heard Oprah gets those. They supposedly say everything about you or something. Hey you don’t mean heavy petting cuz I think that PBG would be mad you was messin w/ her e-boo.
Relax, Relate, Alise Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:03 pm
@Ivy St.,
Yes, pilots ARE crazy, I have had several friends date pilots and it is always a hot mess, maybe it’s the altitude?
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Luvvie Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:28 pm
@Relax, Relate, Alise,
Yeah pilots may have f*cked up equilibriums. Ol’ cant act right if on solid ground faces. They get in the air and become Rico Suave and Fabio mixed in one. They too sexy for the Earth.
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Ivy St. Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:37 pm
@Luvvie,
“They get in the air and become Rico Suave and Fabio mixed in one.”
Soooo true, with that “Good evening folks… thanks for flying with us…”
Ivy St. Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:31 pm
@Relax, Relate, Alise,
“maybe it’s the altitude?”
Nope! they are crazy well before they fly.
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My time edit time ran out… I have a sweet spot for teachers. Who wouldn’t?
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:02 pm
@Ivy St.,
I have a sweet spot for teachers. Who wouldn’t?
taxpayers
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Ivy St. Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:33 pm
@The Champ,
You had to go and find somebody, which happens to be everybody. Any body that loves their security, loves teachers.
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CPT Callamity Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:51 pm
@The Champ,
Teachers make some very good freaks…at least from what I observed when I was in the school system.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:56 pm
@CPT Callamity,
Teachers make some very good freaks…at least from what I observed when I was in the school system
this is EXTREMELY true, especially primary and special ed people
Jeandra Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:34 pm
@The Champ,
and absentee parents.
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Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:43 pm
i just threw up in my mouth right quick. *smh*
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Everytime I swear by a category, or swear one off, I get proved wrong.
- nurses who turned out to be evil
- teachers who turned out to be boring
- strippers with a heart of gold
- lawyers who didn’t want to argue all the time
Nowadays, if a chick is quick to ask about my resume, or pull out her own – I move on cause she’s clearly unimaginative.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:03 pm
@WestIndianArchie,
Nowadays, if a chick is quick to ask about my resume, or pull out her own – I move on cause she’s clearly unimaginative.
**nodding head**
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Luvvie Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:26 pm
@WestIndianArchie,
You talm bout
*Cold artists with no emotions
*Broke accountants
*Doctors with high cholesterol
*A blind chauffeur
*A paraplegic high jumper
I feel you
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1. is there a career that just does it for you?
Yes…you definitely had too much fun with the world play. Although Luvvie and her love of alliteration would be swooning.
To answer the question…no there is no one career that does it for me. However, I refuse to date a man with a certain career path citing personal experiences and preferences. He may be the best thing since whole wheat bread but your career says alot about you.
I am into computers and gadgets and technology… I’m instantly a spoiled baby screaming “I want to play with it too!” everytime I read bout something new.
2. is there a close symmetry between the personality type you claim to be attracted to, and the career paths of people you usually date?
Some guys I’ve dated were: Biologists, Med Students, Psychologists, Engineers,venture capitalists, club owners, rapper wanna be, self proclaimed hustla, football player and military. Being the product of the military lifestyle you either embrace it or run from it, I have so lovingly chosen to embrace it. Something about a man in a crisp uniform…umph. Or it could be the honor, loyalty to one’s country and fellow servicemen, willingness to fight (since I am surely not the one), and obedience…..lol…who knows, but I love’em!
3. on the flipside, could you be with someone whose work you didn’t respect? Nope. Just like I didn’t really respect Tommy… we all know that bald headed playboy ain’t have no dang job!
4. ladies, would you have a problem being serious with a guy in a “feminine” profession (ie: interior decorator, hairdresser, secretary, etc)? if so, why?
I don’t have a problem with a man being in a feminine profession. I do have a problem with a feminine man being in a feminine profession…something in my spidey senses just starts ringing the alarm of bright yellow caution lights.
5. is the champ insane? I don’t know Champ well enough to say whether or not he’s insane. I guess if he dates the same type of women and expect a different outcome each time, then by definition…he’s insane when it comes to dating and relationships… which could also mean he’s insane in other aspects of life… but not Arkham Asylum material just yet.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:05 pm
@Ro,
However, I refuse to date a man with a certain career path citing personal experiences and preferences.
please expound
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Ro Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:18 pm
@The Champ, as listed… the club owner, wanna be rapper and the unlisted… artist, wanna be writer, dept. of sanitation employee, and a manny.
Which are personal experience and which is preference… I’ll let you guess.
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Deviant Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 6:29 pm
nevamind I aint have nothin to say
Luvvie Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:23 pm
@Ro,
“Although Luvvie and her love of alliteration would be swooning. ”
*Sigh* you know me so well.
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Hey Guys,
Me and my boy are starting a musical group, it’s gonna be half country half rap. Any suggestions for song writing?
P.S. Monkey trainers are s*xy
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Panama Jackson Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:17 pm
@Beak-A-Leak, word? on some Leon and Lester stuff??? 1o points to anybody who can tell me where that comes from!?
my suggestion…don’t do it.
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WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:37 pm
@Panama Jackson,
Leon and Lester? Isn’t that, that black ventriloquist?
And Praise the Brown Baby Jesus you told em. Don’t do it now. About to create some music that shouldn’t go any further than the idea in their head.
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Relax, Relate, Alise Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:47 pm
@Panama Jackson,
Five Heartbeats of course…. “You’ve heard of Motown, but we are Leon and Lester’s Frooooooooo-Town”
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WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:59 pm
@Relax, Relate, Alise,
CTFU ombbj
Ivy St. Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:34 pm
@WuDaMan,
“CTFU ombbj”
translation please
Ms. Sula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:42 pm
@Ivy St.,
I am guessing “Oh My Baby Brown Jesus”?
WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:20 pm
@Ms. Sula,
ding ding ding ding ding *whistle blowing* yup that’s it.
blackberry molasses Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:44 pm
@Ivy St.,
don’t worry. i sent up the 8th Wonder bat signal. she should be here with her translation skills soon enough
Ivy St. Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:18 pm
@Beak-A-Leak,
*SMH*
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Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 12:58 pm
@Beak-A-Leak,
“it’s gonna be half country half rap. Any suggestions for song writing?”
this is gonna be hotness. i aint no dream crusher..
you can be like Cowboy Troy meets Jim Jones.
Chaps and straightleg jeans …you goin places..i can see it already.
good luck. and namaste.
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miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:01 pm
@Princess Duvet, I was thinking Cowboy Troy as well…lol
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Princess Duvet Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:09 pm
@miss t-lee, he’s the only young black guy doin country i can think of…i was gonna say charlie pride..but im thinkin Beak a leak prolly got all his teeth so that wouldn’t work..
im here to be helpful..lol
miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:04 pm
@Princess Duvet,
I see ya chick. I see ya.
WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:11 pm
@miss t-lee,
Okay now for real you are telling me you don’t remember Rappin Duke!?!
miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:52 pm
@WuDaMan,
this does not count as country…lol
Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:52 pm
“P.S. Monkey trainers are s*xy”
now are we talking monkey in the traditional sense, or in the i’m-from-FL sense??
and if you train monkey “monkeys” well that’s just down right NAS-TAY!!
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Ivy St. Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:00 pm
@Gem of the Ocean,
““P.S. Monkey trainers are s*xy”
now are we talking monkey in the traditional sense, or in the i’m-from-FL sense??
and if you train monkey “monkeys” well that’s just down right NAS-TAY!!”
Oh wow!!! Yes this is out of orda (Boston accent).
I think they do the latter but I’ll ask them when they get back from lunch.
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miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:03 pm
@Ivy St.,
“now are we talking monkey in the traditional sense, or in the i’m-from-FL sense??”
I’m glad you asked because my mind was wandering.
I think I have some new slang…lol
Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:01 pm
lmao @ “I think they do the latter but I’ll ask them when they get back from lunch.”
if that’s the case, tell the A man to holla at ya girl!!!! i’ll be in Langley waiting in my white lab coat… lol
I don’t have any comments. I just wanted to note that I’ll be attending the “Urban Chic” event at Ava. I look forward to meeting some of you in the Pittsburgh area!
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:06 pm
@Voiceofreason,
cool beans. make sure to rock a name tag and sh*t
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Voiceofreason Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:19 pm
@The Champ,
Ha! I don’t know about rocking a name tag. But when I become awestruck by a man in black leather, I’ll know it’s you and I’ll introduce myself.
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Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:56 pm
the awestruckness will NEVER happen in Champie’s presence. just look for an egghead (that dome is hard to miss) with glasses and a VSB tshirt. easy target to identify.
Ivy St. Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:19 pm
@Voiceofreason,
Great! I’ll be the lady in the Ray Allen jersey.
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Voiceofreason Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:27 pm
@Ivy St.,
Cool! I don’t know what I’m wearing, but if you see a rather busty dark-skinned chick with curly hair, it’s me.
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Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:55 pm
i’ll be the non-busty soft brown-skinned chick in hijab (unless i find time to do my damn hair).
overit says Eat the cake Anna Mae! Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:12 pm
@Gem of the Ocean, LMAO
Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:04 pm
*e-hug for my e-twin*
p.s. i don’t like cake!!
Voiceofreason Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:22 pm
@Gem of the Ocean,
Lol! I’ll be on the look out; eyes akimbo
Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:54 pm
“I’ll be the lady in the Ray Allen jersey.”
you betta not…
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Ivy St. Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:03 pm
@Gem of the Ocean,
“you betta not…”
I was just kidding but I AM his babby momma, so I can do if I want to.
Voiceofreason Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:26 pm
@Ivy St.,
You too? Jesus Shuttlesworth has some explaining to do
Ivy St. Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:38 pm
@Voiceofreason,
“You too? Jesus Shuttlesworth has some explaining to do”
I like you already voiceofreason, it should be good times tonight! Champie poo poo can buy us drinks… or not.
As to Ray, lets take him on Maury!
Voiceofreason Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:47 pm
@Ivy St.,
LOL! Yeah, I’m really looking forward to tonight!
And if I find out Ray is NOT the father of my baby I might start to cry and run laps around the studio. Cause I don’t know who else the father could be.
The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:59 pm
@Ivy St.,
Champie poo poo can buy us drinks
ya’ll n*ggaz better pre-game, lol
1. artsy vs whitecollar? (i’ve never dated a blue collar dude)
businessdudes usually have more freedom to do things (read:$$$) but being an artsy-type chick myself — with them i feel like a science experiement. one guy i had No Chemistry with kept asking me out bc he said he wanted to see what color boots i would have on each time.
another refused to eat anything that wasnt ‘american’
on the flipside-
artboys i meet have been open to more things –
but capitalize on the fact that girls like creatives and fall into the
artboywhore mold.
2. i like charismatic guys- period. ive met guys in the medical field, financers, starving -artists, eating- artists, highschool teachers, sport coaches–ppl that are passionate in their work are always attractive. guys that dress like lenny kravitz pharrell or maxwell seem to be creative types… ok, or gay. (nttawwt)
hm. i found that guys in advertising and marketing strike a good in-between… but have a tendency to err on the side of actors- always ‘on’, tryna sell me something
3. i did my stint w dopeboy types in college. Do Not Want. if i ask dude how was his day and he cant tell me so then i cant be implicated –what the hell will we talk about? That means im telling all the jokes again?
4. interior decorators? sure, why not? ive never met a male secretary or a straight male hairdresser so thats a non-issue.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:11 pm
@kaliber,
1. artsy vs whitecollar? (i’ve never dated a blue collar dude)
businessdudes usually have more freedom to do things (read:$$$)
i’m surprised noone has touched on this yet. not necessarily the blue/white collar thing, but a person having enough disposable income to do basically whatever they wanted to do (within reason)
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Ms. Sula Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:25 pm
@The Champ,
I think it comes with the territory. You usually meet people in your social stratosphere…
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kaliber Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:49 pm
@The Champ,
an illegal pharmacist i knew once had money for days, but only ever wanted to go places like Applebees & Pizzaria Uno. =(
another guy i knew was from a ‘well-to-do’ family but he would he reach for a bl*nt b4 he reached for a toothbrush in the morning — i guess he couldnt handle the stress of getting a really big inheritance?
but bc of him i’m now fluent in french menu.
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First, I’d like to applaud the Champ for his use of alliteration. I exploit any chance to alliterate.
I have always attracted the White collar men. I just love the look of a Black man in a suit, (not the court one but a real one). Pinstripes and square toed Kenneth Coles make me wanna do things that will shame my mama. All ‘at power and ish. YESSS.
Haidressers, interiro decorators or anyone that may ever appear on a Bravo reality TV show is a no-go for me. I dont wanna spend my days defending your craft.
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Relax, Relate, Alise Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:47 pm
@Luvvie,
You don’t like the guys in the “mystery-fabric” beige Easter suit with saddle shoes. shameful….
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Luvtheshoes Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:26 pm
@Luvvie,
“I just love the look of a Black man in a suit, (not the court one but a real one). Pinstripes and square toed Kenneth Coles make me wanna do things that will shame my mama.”
I feel ya there. With my “blue collar tendencies, I’ll light up like a Xmas tree if you put a blue collar type man in a nice suit and expensive shoes. Ohh lawd…I’m totally through.
Also I’m totally partial to the whole Common look of jeans with a great vest and button down with tie thing (even if his new joint is as previously stated…a steaming pile of turd)
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I am definitly down with the artist, something about a man with drum sticks just gets it!
I love writers, and musician, and pretty much anyone with a job outside the box….agronomist, horticulturist anything that says uneqivocally EFF THE MAN! Not that I ahve anything against 9 to 5′ers, but I like Free Spirits!
2. I am extremely attracted to the souther man… something about the laid back tude, that sexy southern drawl.
But heed the warning– THEY ARE TROUBLE (no offence to the down south gents here). In general I have found that the laid back style extends to the relationship– i.e. nothing is serious including relationships or cheating. Not sure why but my theory: They are sooo sweet, nice, accomdating with good game, they are respectful and kind spirited, and gentle. They figure they treat you soooo well they can and do extend this quality to other women.
3. ** I am very proud of any black man with a legal JOB, therefore there are very very few jobs.careers that I dont respect** I could not seriously date a fella if I didnt respect his craft. I mean I could but it would be horrible. it would translate into a disrespect of him. You didnt like “The Notebook”, what the he%l do you know, you on the corner all day/playing in the studio with your boys/flipping burgers at Mc Dizzles.
4. Men that hairdress, secretary, interior design all seem a lil girlish. Not sure if it is because of the close working quaters shared by mostly women or what but…. ummmm… no
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miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:36 pm
@im_the_sweetest,
“2. I am extremely attracted to the souther man… something about the laid back tude, that sexy southern drawl.
But heed the warning– THEY ARE TROUBLE (no offence to the down south gents here). In general I have found that the laid back style extends to the relationship– i.e. nothing is serious including relationships or cheating. Not sure why but my theory: They are sooo sweet, nice, accomdating with good game, they are respectful and kind spirited, and gentle. They figure they treat you soooo well they can and do extend this quality to other women.”
Oh wow…lol
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im_the_sweetest Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:51 pm
@miss t-lee, “oh wow…lol”
is that in agreement or disagreement?
lol, have I just been tainted?
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miss t-lee Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
@im_the_sweetest,
Disagreement…lol
You may have been tainted just a bit. It’s just my upbringing talking, being from Texas and all…lol
It’s all good though, after my last ex I think all lawyers are arseholes…lol
i’m attracted to men who work. period. dated within many different professions–sciences, healthcare, criminal justice, finance, atheletics, teaching, etc.
the common denominator, however, between these different professionals have been CRAZY. be they attached to mama’s womb, stalkers, too emotionally invested too early, needy, or weird as hell–they all suffer from some form of mental instability. so if crazy were a career, i’m a magnet for nut cases.
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im_the_sweetest Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:54 pm
@Gem of the Ocean, all people with penises are CRAZY….encoded in their DNA to have issues of all sorts.
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Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:11 pm
you right. i blame the Y chromosome.
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Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
p.s. big ups to western psych!! (and don’t front Champie, you know you’ve had more than a few meals while on the 9th floor ward)
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overit says Eat the cake Anna Mae! Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:19 pm
@Gem of the Ocean, LOL. I swear, last night I wanted to respond “I like men with jay oh bees” but then thought I should give Champie’s serious question more thought.
But, I do like men with jobs. I will say though, it has to be something I believe in, and does not conflict with my moral code…and g code. Cuz I’m a thug…(all day every day)
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:02 pm
@overit says Eat the cake Anna Mae!,
and does not conflict with my moral code…and g code. Cuz I’m a thug…(all day every day)
***gathering all people on earth, as well as doing a seance for all people in cemetaries, to assist with overiteys proclaimation***
***didnt work***
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Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:09 pm
i believe in your g-style, e-twin. cuz we hold down the e-thug lyfe. i mean, you have 2 gunshot wounds to the face to prove it, if that ain’t proof enough i don’t know what is.
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I like this topic Champ…good job.
I’m drawn to men that are creative, passionate and think outside of the box…everyone else ends up boring me it seems.
I have dated men in many professions, but some commonalities proved consistent over the years. These weren’t men that I looked to date or even things that were quickly brought to my attention. Somewhere in the course of things, certain themes kept presenting themselves…
1. Former male strippers..I am not sure how but I kept ending up with me that used to work it for the ladies. That’s all I will say about that.
2. Ex-athletes or men that were playing on some sort of arena league team, playing overseas, or dudes that almost made it to the NFL, NBA, etc. They exercise a lot and go to training camps but have regular jobs too.
3. The most common…musicians of some sort. Even if they weren’t musicians at first, they end up being musicians. This works for me because I love music and if I like a man and he’s passionate about music, it really works for me. I didn’t even know my love now was a musician and it just popped up years later. Lol Good for me huh?
4. Men that end up being pastors…I used to be real Jesusy and dated a lot of non-Jesusy men…guess I shared the gospel?
5. Dudes that used to hustle on the side or work for UPS..what is this about?
6. Educators who double as high school/jr high school football, track or basketball coaches. (see #2)
7. Life of the party, charming, hilarious men…as much as I am turned off by the man that gets all the attention in the room initially, I seem to end up dating them long-term They win me over over time, like years of time. How does this happen?
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Relax, Relate, Alise Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 2:51 pm
@The Queen,
LMAO @ Jesusy
that sounds like , “Grrrrrrrrl, I useta be all Goddish, but that was last season, but I heard it is all the rage in Milan & sh*t”
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The Queen Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:33 pm
@Relax, Relate, Alise, LMAO
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:04 pm
@The Queen,
damn, lol. these were alot of themes and sh*t
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The Queen Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:31 pm
@The Champ, I have had time to reflect.
The stripper thing was especially disturbing…they would move a certain way when they walked or danced and I would say, um did you used to be a male stripper? lmao Ah, the days of my youth.
I’m gonna tell you a secret…I think my current man used to be a male stripper too. I kid, I kid.
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If I don’t respect you, I can’t date you. I stopped talking to a man because I didn’t respect his music…I can’t fake that.
I dated a male hairdresser once. It was too weird. I kept going to “manly” activities with him to watch his behavior. (Like he invited me to the gym to watch him play ball with his boys. I watched for any feminine tendancies..he had weird hand movements.) Also, although he could do my hair well, he was always critiquing my hair or eyebrows or something…it was irritating. Attractive fellow, but I think he was in the closet…
A male nurse…Sounds like he is attentive, patient and could take care of me when I am sick. What’s wrong with that? As long as he doesn’t wear pink scrubs…
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:07 pm
@The Queen,
Like he invited me to the gym to watch him play ball with his boys. I watched for any feminine tendancies..he had weird hand movements.
this sounds like he was trying a bit too hard, lol noone invites their girls to watch a regular ole game of pick-up.
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The Queen Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:36 pm
@The Champ, I thought it was disturbing too, especially since we weren’t 14. I wasn’t going to miss a chance to observe his movements though. I must admit, he also said meet me here and after the game we can have a date…I think he might have been using me for a ride home from his bball games. lol This didn’t last more than a month.
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*** i have to preface my comment with the fact that i’ve never dated a drug dealer*** (not judging anyone who has. really. but i’m a little proud of that. is that horrible??)
I had to preface my comment bcuz i’ve always had horrible taste in men (until now I think sigh knock on wood)… One dude i dated was certifiable. Bi-polar on meds and everythang. But he was brilliant. He never had a normal job though. He jitnied (pgh thang) and drove a cab. And had other hustles. His name shoulda been Hustle man. But his azz was crazy than a loon. More than profession I’ve always been attracted to certain characteristics in men… can’t say that it hasn’t been to my own detriment… and thank gawd I think i’ve worked out some of my own issues that made me think that these crazy azz ninjas that i’d chosen were suitable mates… in the spirit of the post though i’ll list a few careers that i personally wouldn’t particularly respect or at least i would give a serious side eye to:
- street pharmacist
- 40 year old aspiring rapper who makes no money from his art (it’s a dream / hobby – give it up)
- male stripper – ewwww
- prison guard…
- cop (unless it’s traffic)
-marine
-personal trainer (i like to cook and eat too much to be with a calorie counting ninja)
-male hairdresser (obvious reasons)
- professional athlete (can’t do the narcissistic thing or the swarms of everything at his disposal)
-lobbyist
-politician (local is cool – state or federal level – BOOO!)
That’s all i can think of… all in all to me work is work. But in some professions if you swim in mud you’re going to get dirty… so i would be wondering when the crazy was going to come out. or how he seperates himself from all the crazy and filth around him.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:09 pm
@pgh muse,
“lobbyist”
this seems kind of random.
btw, when i make my first million from the vsb book, i’m gonna open a chain of upscale jitneys around the pittsburgh area
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pgh muse Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:09 pm
@The Champ,
And good luck with the plushed out Jitney’s… that would be hilarious, but i’d ride in one
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pgh muse Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:07 pm
@Champ,
lol… tirade to follow
I said lobbyist cause i was tryna think of jobs that a person basically probably had to be a snake for a living… this popped into my head first. Idk… i have something against inauthentic people. Life is a journey… everyone has a story… so people who live and work, and exist in a bubble and make a lot of money, but somehow think that because they make a lot of money (however atrociously their companies treat the earth and humanity) that they are morally superior just irk the shyt out of me. Is it my own inferiority complex cuz i’m not rich? I don’t know…
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Sula In Lurking Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 6:11 pm
@pgh muse,
*** i have to preface my comment with the fact that i’ve never dated a drug dealer***
Is it a common occurence?
A marine?
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Sula In Lurking Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 6:14 pm
Edit ran out of time…
Why not a marine?
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I take a slightly more “selfish” approach to working, I guess. My main concern for a long term relationship (that could eventually involve kids) is that – whatever his job – he can also hold it down at home. I would rather have a guy with a regular ole “good job” (read: has health benefits) than the super-achiever who is married to his work.
When I was younger I might have fantasized about what it meant to be married to a powerful, succesful, famous type. Then I saw a few interviews with their wives and they all talked about how lonely it can be, how you have to deal with the groupies, feeling like a single parent, having your career and life take a back seat, etc. It totally turned me off. And the most obvious is the star athlete, but the same can be said for almost any high profile man – doctor, lawyer, you name it. All those hours getting to the top of their fields has to come from somewhere.
I enjoy my job, I’m darn good at it and I get paid well. That said, my job is really just a means to an end – and the “end” is my life outside of the job. The men I’ve enjoyed being with the most were those who had similar outlooks, no matter how much they made or what their field was.
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pgh muse Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:04 pm
@Lil’T,
Then I saw a few interviews with their wives and they all talked about how lonely it can be, how you have to deal with the groupies, feeling like a single parent, having your career and life take a back seat, etc
I have to second this. No family time, no quality time.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:11 pm
@Lil’T,
That said, my job is really just a means to an end – and the “end” is my life outside of the job. The men I’ve enjoyed being with the most were those who had similar outlooks, no matter how much they made or what their field was.
interesting point.
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Gem of the Ocean Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:19 pm
“I take a slightly more “selfish” approach to working, I guess. My main concern for a long term relationship (that could eventually involve kids) is that – whatever his job – he can also hold it down at home. I would rather have a guy with a regular ole “good job” (read: has health benefits) than the super-achiever who is married to his work.”
GREAT point–i definitely feel you on this. i want us both to have the time to put into ourselves, each other/our relationship, and our family/kids. if we don’t have the time or won’t make the time to make a happy home, then we have nothing and it’s a dead end.
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1. is there a career that just does it for you?
Not really. I’ve dated all kinds of men, from lawyers assistants, to television producers, to marketing guys, to a guy who worked at subway during the day and made beats at night…and I thought I was going to marry him, so…
2. is there a close symmetry between the personality type you claim to be attracted to, and the career paths of people you usually date?
lol from looking at the previous list, I guess my answer would be no. All the men I’ve ever dated have been extremely confident, intelligent, hilarious, witty, extremely sociable and charming dudes, despite their different occupations.
3. on the flipside, could you be with someone whose work you didn’t respect?
Absolutely not. I cherish being a supportive girlfriend, so if you’re having a hard time at work, and your job is putting the creme filling inside twinkies, I’m going to have a hard time giving you a pep-talk.
4. ladies, would you have a problem being serious with a guy in a “feminine” profession (ie: interior decorator, hairdresser, secretary, etc)? if so, why?
Yes. I just can’t do it. Strangely enough, one of my more serious relationships was with a legal assistant, and though I guess in some ways he was sort of a secretary of sorts, i guess I just didn’t see it that way. But male nurses, admins, hairdressers, fitness instructors, and the like…nah playa.
5. is the champ insane?
Insane with love for me.
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The Champ Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:14 pm
@8th Wonder,
a guy who worked at subway during the day and made beats at night…and I thought I was going to marry him, so…
what happened and sh*t
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8th Wonder Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 3:22 pm
@The Champ,
I’ll only answer that if you confirm my answer to #5.
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WuDaMan Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:07 pm
@8th Wonder,
tell the truth you havin his baby.
eff yo couch Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:26 pm
@8th Wonder,
Did you at least get some free sammwiches out of the deal?
8th Wonder Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 5:29 pm
lol yeah, when we did the stay at home and watch movies thing, it always included a tasty 12 footer.
that sounds wrong, I know.
This has nothing to do with today’s topic…a while back Champ, you said you get lots of free music from Black Girls online. I went there all excited about potentially getting free music. You can imagine my surprise when I was greeted with black booty galore…definitely not what I was looking for. Thanks a lot for not warning me. I owe you one.
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eff yo couch Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:22 pm
@The Queen,
lol, I hope you didn’t go there while you were at work
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Lil'T Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 4:30 pm
@The Queen,
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!
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Nice post here.
I will fall back through here periodically to see whats good.
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I’ve been with my wife for a minute now so I can only add on a lil’ bit.
I was able to get past my the fact that I found my wife’s profession to be boring as He11 (she was an an accountant) because despite how good she was at it, it remained just a means to an end. (and then, I became what I hated-for a little while)
While I admire a woman’s passion/drive for her career, that’s not what would keep me around. What keeps me interested in a woman in general (and my wife specifically) is when I’m comfortable being anywhere with her and she couldn’t take herself too seriously. When I used to go to corporate functions, she was polished, intelligent, knew how to mingle and looked mean in a little black dress and heels. (I need that.) She could speak passionately about her job but would rather talk about the social issue of the day. Despite whatever position she’s ever held, she’s never lost the ‘common touch.’ In summation, I’m interested in how you make your living, esp. if you have a passion for it. But, if that’s all you’ve got going on, you’re probably mad boring-and lonely.
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is there a profession that i wont date?? as of now, i have no intention of dating another psych type….when therapists marry other therapists, their children dont generally fare well! lmao…in my experience, its a bad scene…it leads to 5 year olds describing things as “inappropriate” and telling other kindergarteners to “use their words” and i will not have it!
so, unless i meet an unusually awesome therapist, im gonna opt out of that one. for the good of the children.
i dont have a whole lot of dating/long term relationship experience but i have yet to date a white collar professional…i try to be equal opportunity (with limits) on the dating front, but ive generally come across the “aint shyt” types and the “gotta job” types….
what i prefer….like others have mentioned its the personality that gets me. im attracted to brilliance, but im also attracted to humor. someone that can laugh at the same dumb shyt i laugh at and then introduce me to new dumb shyt. and all that good stuff about passion, compassion, drive and ambition, kind and considerate and so on….i love all that! and ive seen it across teh spectrum of professions. i prefer a profession rather than a job…and i love a man that wears a suit to work. they are a dying breed, ive noticed. ive found myself drawn to engineery and computery types…i think they balance me out. i tend towards the esoteric at times and often need someone to just be practical….
in the end though, if he’s a genuinely good guy who can make me laugh and teach me something, as well as be open to being taught something by me once in a while then i’ll be happy as a clam!
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*****off topic*******
I am officially requesting that there be a music review portion on VSB.
As far as hiphop goes, I miss the good ole days. WuTang was better when they were starving. My Life was Mary’s best album and she was on drugs! Common put out decent music before he hooked up with Erykah. Must one be on drugs or broke to put out good music?
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