I’m not one to tell tales out of school, but I’ve been the victim of d-baggery and general f*ckery. Unfortunately, I can’t tell you exactly what I’m talking about because, well, I don’t tell tales out of school.
It’s a vicious cycle.
However, the uber d-baggery for which I’ve been privy has highlighted a facet of male life that I’m not sure many women are aware of. It’s a facet that all women should pay attention to for it can be the key determinant in determining whether or not the man you’re dealing with is worth keeping around or not. I sh*t you not.
Today I must share with you all some vital information so that women everywhere can get one step closer to being two steps further away from men who will reign terror on their homes and kitchens.
I’m speaking of men who have no respect for the G-Code.
What is the G-Code? Glad you asked.
The G-Code is the unspoken set of rules that all men should just damn know to abide by. It’s the rules to the game of life that all men should respect in terms of dealing with other men. It’s the understanding that all men SHOULD have that helps guide their interactions with one another. You don’t shoot on Sunday and you don’t put your gun on anybody who’s not in the game. Much like soul music, the G-Code is…life.
(I know some of you have vh1 Soul and hate the dude with his tree collage and “Soul” belt buckle like I do.)
Women many be familiar with the twin code of female governance, The Vagina Monologues. I don’t know about you, but I ain’t NEVER met a Vagina that engaged in monologues. Closest I’ve come was to this stripper chick at the Blue Flame off of Bankhead in Atlanta who could make that thang smoke.
A loosie.
*rimshot*
Ahem.
I recognize that the definition of the G-Code leaves much to be desired but that’s because no man should ever have to explain it. The rules should be understood. Unfortunately, like Herpes during a recession, some things just need explaining. And remember women, if you date a man who might even consider doing (or in some cases, not doing) any of these things, he’s not worthy of your time. Kill him.
(Some) G-CODE RULES
Thou shalt not date thine homies girlfriend, while he is dating her. Or ever, actually. This is just bad business on some Enron meets Worldcom sh*t.
Thou shalt not do deeds behind thine homies back that will put him in a dangerous situation merely for thine own good. Especially for the p*ssy.
Thou shalt not throw another man under a bus to make thineself look good.
*coughKobecough*
Thou shalt remember that it’s bros before hoes. Period.
Thou shalt not get jealous for jealousy is a female trait. ←-Jay-Z said it, not me. Well, I mean I did say it, but I’m quoting, rather quothing Jay-Z.
Thou shalt not let emotions cloud one’s judgement. Men act rationally. Unmen act on emotions.
Thou shalt do the crime if thou doesth the time. Thou SHALL NOT attempt to reduce thine own sentence by taking down a homeboy on some Nino Brown non-sense.
Thou shalt not act like ole b*tch when things don’t go thine way. We call this b*tchassness.
Thou shalt not be a b*tchass for being a b*tchass is how ninjas get dead.
Similarly, thou shalt have thine homies back if the situation calls for it and your homie didn’t directly put you both in harms way by being a b*tchass.
In fact, thou shalt check thine b*tchassness at the door because real G’s do real things and thou cannot do real things if you got nuts in your mouth. Or on your shoulder.
Thou shalt stay true to the game, respect the game, and treat the game like you want the game to treat you. What is the game? The game is whatever life you live.
Real motherf*cking G’s know the game.
Ladies, if you are dating a man who seems to be at odds with any of these rules, which come down to general respect for the next man, run like Hell, he just might get you killed.
PS: Women can replace all gender-specific wording with the opposite (i.e. hoes before bros, etc.) and the code should work. Trifling heffas that don’t respect the code should be avoided at all costs because they WILL get you dead.
So what are some other G-Code rules that all men should abide by? Hell, what are the She-Code rules? I’m actually really curious about that one.
Sharing is caring and Panama cares.
-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL, HE A 3
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My heart goes out to you Panama because this post sounds like you’ve been burned by someone disrespecting the code.
@Ms. Hall,
g’s don’t have hearts.
the code should come standard in printed form in the bedside drawers of all motel rooms, right next to the gideon version of the bible.
i’ll add to the code:
*if you can give it out, be ready to take it too. if you’re a mouthy nicca, you best not start crying like a 3 month old denied breast milk when someone else uses some intricate insulting wordplay on you.
@puff,
I cosign this rule. I am pretty sarcastic and I have a smart mouth. I’ve met too many women that catch feelings when I talk my ish. Keep in mind that if they don’t start I don’t start. I think it’s easy for some women to be a smart-a*s to a dude that has the wit of a gorilla. When a man has an equally smart mouth some women can’t take it.
@Humble_One,
I think it’s easy for some women to be a smart-a*s to a dude that has the wit of a gorilla. When a man has an equally smart mouth some women can’t take it
this topic is actually a future vsb entry
I love the g code and live by it I hate when people act like its bad and the reason for crime and leading kids astray. Nada its mofos not repecting it and following it. In a nutshell it saying to your ownself be true and be down for those that are down for you! But b!tcha$$ness abounds and the g code has been replaced by mofos thinking that the only way for them to rise is to pull you down. This aint on the topic but hell I got some shyt on my chest! I’m trying to let the old me die and go away but……
@shay-d-lady,
I turn my head to the east ……lol
@shay-d-lady,
This aint on the topic but hell I got some shyt on my chest!
lol, this is basically the vsb comment credo
But on to the topic g code don’t say anything behind someones back that you haven’t or won’t say to their face
@shay-d-lady,
“But on to the topic g code don’t say anything behind someones back that you haven’t or won’t say to their face”
I would add to this that you should also own up to ish you said/did if called on it.
@shay-d-lady,
yup.
@iloVEGrits,
*nodding vigorously*
this is one of the things that p!sses me off the most.
yup.
@shay-d-lady,
But on to the topic g code don’t say anything behind someones back that you haven’t or won’t say to their face
i remember once overhearing a friend tell someone “i aint say that sh*t to your face cause you’re ugly as hell”. i know this is a bit off-topic, but i just felt like sharing
@The Champ,
LMAO!
Also and this happens a lot especially from people that have never gotten into a fight before I mean they have a smart a$$ mouth and make pointedly inciteful remarks banking on the fact that they are at work or that “we are to old for fighting” my rule watch what you say or at least be prepared to deal with the consequences… And not act like a victim when u get ya a$$ whoopped! And say what you mean and mean what you say…
@shay-d-lady, “say what you mean and mean what you say”…
Thats like the number one rule right there, females are quick to switch there words up be it to make themselves look good or others look bad.
In the words of Trick Daddy ” If i said it Mother F’ing meant it”
Also in the G code (for her) it says that another woman cannot be in the house with her girls man unless her girl is present.
@JamaicanGirl, this makes sense, but i’m sure people will have their exceptions.
@overit,
I mean, unless y’all are throwing her a surprise party and you happen to be in there with him (…with others) before she arrives, then yeah, okay…other than that or a (medical, or otherwise) emergency there really aren’t any exceptions. I’ll be honest, I have a tight circle of best friends who I can trust in that situation (3, 4 tops), and they can trust me –but we all still know better than to put each other in a situation like that. It’s happened once or twice, but straight up chillin in the crib with your homie/home girl’s S.O.? Heeeeecks naw. No way that should ever occur.
@Lili,
I trust my best friend and she trusts me but I am 99.9% sure she would have a fit if I was sitting in her house with her husband, ‘waiting on her to come home’.
As her girl, when I find out she ain’t home, I’m supposed to come back later. Even if he invites me in.
@iloVEGrits,
Yup. I had to actually explain this to my homegirl! I trusted her and her man but after class one day when I said I was bored she told me to go by her apt and chill with her dude. We had a whole convo where I had to explain to her he is NOT my friend. You are. I’m just cool with him cuz he’s with YOU.
Ironically, I never had a problem with her moving in on any of my dudes. It’s like she only knew the code one-sidedly…
@iloVEGrits,
“As her girl, when I find out she ain’t home, I’m supposed to come back later. Even if he invites me in.”
Yes ma’am.
@iloVEGrits,
As her girl, when I find out she ain’t home, I’m supposed to come back later. Even if he invites me in.
so you just sit in the car?
@JamaicanGirl,
Also in the G code (for her) it says that another woman cannot be in the house with her girls man unless her girl is present.
I agree, but also know that if I’m YOUR homegirl you don’t have to worry about me taking any bait from your man.
@FiveFivewithbrowneyes,
You gotta be careful with that sort of thing. I personally feel uncomfortable with being around a man if he’s seeing my girl and she’s not present. Unless, of course, I’m friends with both of them or if it’s one of my girls that might as well be my family. I’m loyal to a fault and my friends trust me around their men more then they trust themselves.
@Voiceofreason,
Shoooot. My Dad told me that back in the day, one of his friends used to “conveniently” drop by the house when my Mom was home and my Dad was at work.
My Mom told my father that dude was on some ol’ “well I stay until he makes it home” tip. My Mom would never let him in the house. Needless to say after having his life threatened he didn’t come by the house anymore…ever.
I saw that kat at church on Sunday and I always laugh on the inside.
@miss t-lee,
What??? He had a lot of nerve. I’d laugh too.
err….noted, but tone down on the mentions of hoes and b*tches, b*tchassedness, please! crikey, it felt like a literary minefield reading this blog…. wince, wince wince!!!
@superwoman,
wince deez
G Code (for her)
Do not engage in overly flirty behavior with your girl’s (any chick who has given you more than one ride somewhere, who you have been out with more than once, who you’ve gone shopping with, who you’ve talked on the phone with) date.
Actually, don’t engage in flirty behavior with any chick’s date…unless you want to get beat down.
@iloVEGrits, “your girl’s (any chick who has given you more than one ride somewhere, ”
Love this addition and it’s true.
@iloVEGrits,
Yeah. Ish like that it so outta line.
@iloVEGrits,
i actually thought all women were required to do this. hmmm…learn something new everyday
For him and her:
If your boy/girl is dating someone who smashed the homies back in the day, do NOT tell your boy/girl what the word on the street is about their performance. Nothing good can come from this.
@iloVEGrits,
If your boy/girl is dating someone who smashed the homies back in the day, do NOT tell your boy/girl what the word on the street is about their performance. Nothing good can come from this.
eh. dont know if i agree with that one
@iloVEGrits,
but what if he/she is some type of whoetastic hot mess that runs through people like water through a sieve?? wouldn’t the code then demand we speak up and save our brotha/sista from certain heartache and a possible jail sentence?
Last G Code for her:
Never offer up your personal opinion about your girl’s man when she is complaining about him.
Never tell your girl how to raise her kid.
@iloVEGrits,
I think my comment got lost in the ether, so here I go again [/Force MDs]…
“Never offer up your personal opinion about your girl’s man when she is complaining about him.”
THANK YOU!
Just because I need to vent, doesn’t mean you have license to talk ish about someone you don’t have a rel’ship with. This goes both ways, as my bf knows he’ll start a battle royale if he starts talkin slick about my girlfriends.
I’d add “Thou shalt not give unsolicited advice.” When I want your opinion, I’ll ask for it. Funny enough, I only have these problems with one friend who happens to do her business raggedy as hell.
@iloVEGrits,
Never offer up your personal opinion about your girl’s man when she is complaining about him.
thing is, if the complaining becomes a constant thing, of course the friend is gonna develop a certain opinion of the friend’s mate, and of course that opinion will eventually come out. this is one of the reasons why i dont think its a great idea to complain to your friends about your mate.
if you do, the complaints should be evened out by good sh*t that you’ve said about them before
@The Champ,
Nodding head!
Also, if u come to me for some advice about whomever u’re seeing and you don’t take it – if u r in the same situation again please leave me alone. Don’t come to with that bullshyte again! Leave me be cuz clearly what I have to say isn’t what you wanna hear!
Preach brother, preach!!!
Someone need to put this on a pamphlet or something….heck put it on the shirts! We need to spread the word before the triflin’ people get to my last nerve.
@An Uninspired Muse,
you are not lying; this was deep stuff…as people of color, I think we all should have a pamphlet of these certain rules on our person.I know it sounds stupid but if we remember these simple rules, fewer people will die, another thing is all people aren’t gangsta but that doesn’t mean we don’t live by a code….
* What is the game? The game is whatever life you live.*
Amen.
She Code:
1. Thou shalt not flirt, screw, exchange phone numbers, etc. with a home girls man (exes are also off limits).
2. Thou shalt not do #1 and then try to blame it on the alcohol.
3. Thou shalt stay away from stank h&es.. U know who they are.
4. Thou shalt love your own kind ( never claim ‘I don’t get along with other females’- that is so wack.)
5. Thou shalt walk with your head high at all times-it’s all about the confidence. (If you don’t have it, fake it ’til u make it.)
6. Thou shalt be honest with your sister and build her up (if she asks if those jeans make her look fat and they make her look like a rhino- tell her (in a charming way of course!)
@Nicki Sunshine, I don’t trust women who say they don’t get along with other women. It’s immediately suspect. And you’re right about #6 as well – in the ideal world, your friends are a reflection of you, so naturally you should help them look their best at all times.
@Kindred Smile, Exactly. I agree with all of that. Women who don’t get along with other women are the problem themselves.
I love hanging with beautiful women so I am gonna make sure they are all on point!
@Kindred Smile,
yes! it kills me whenever i see a chick out in something she ain’t got no business wearing and i see her friend next to her all chummy. i get madder at the friend rather than the chick. why didn’t you tell her?!?!?!?
like you can’t tell her hair is brown but that braided bun on the back of her head is jet black. it ain’t just the lighting.
or that you can see her panty line, the one that’s making her have four @sses in those too tight khakis, from clear across the conference hall.
or maybe, just maybe, that even though that top is cute, it’s not working for you. the girls ain’t just sitting up and waving at folk. they are about to bust free if you even think about breathing. and not in that low cut let me introduce you to my cleavage kinda way but in that no, there’s not one more size up available and that top just doesn’t fit kinda way.
*sigh*
@SouthernGirl,
or that you can see her panty line, the one that’s making her have four @sses in those too tight khakis, from clear across the conference hall.”
LMAO! Ew, I can picture that in my head. But yes, I agree.
Or if I can see that your bra is giving you four boobs???? That is thee worst.
@Nicki Sunshine,
4. Thou shalt love your own kind ( never claim ‘I don’t get along with other females’- that is so wack.)
good point
My name is Saule Wright, and I approve this message.
This post was good P although déjà vu-ish.
If your bi•ch chose me, well you know the rules. (provided we not rights and all)
If we are cut buddies and you know this up front , stop trying to fall in love with me. Respect the G Code. Stop trying to out the connection in hopes errthing will go your way. Watch how you use my name. Breathe if you need to shut the fcuk up.
If the bicth you’re sweet is sweet on me and we just met “insert name here” fallback. The harder you try to force your hand and stop the connection the more she hates you and is attracted to me.
Live and Let Die.
Never sit sideline waiting for a break and let a bicth use you for emotional support, insight and otherwise while the next G is making her eyes roll back in her head.
If a G has a good training program running or hustle don’t demystify his rubric. Another G can lay his smack down without stepping on other G’s toes.
@Dice Vegas,
***congrats to this weeks winner of the “comment that could have very easily also been found on tariq nasheed’s message board” award**
@The Champ,
ummmm, i’m relatively young… who is tariq nasheed??
@moxie crimefighter,
p.s. relatively young AND de-lurking.
1. Thou shalt not lie to kick it.
2. Thou shalt not put new p***y before your team
3. Thou shalt not play your old friends to the left for new people you’ve met
4. Thou shalt not expect homeboys to abide by the G-Code while you break rules recklessly
5. Thou shalt not borrow money from your homeboy and trick, buy sneakers, and other ish before paying him back.
What I have realized is that men and women break the G-Code out of pure selfishness. They abide by the rules when it is convenient for them. Their psuedo-loyalty is based solely on what they can get out of you.
@Humble_One,
What I have realized is that men and women break the G-Code out of pure selfishness. They abide by the rules when it is convenient for them. Their psuedo-loyalty is based solely on what they can get out of you.
Church! There’s a lot of selfishness involved when people consistantly and wrecklessly overstep their bounds.
@Jada,
Selfishness and folks thinkin they can outsmart/outmaneuver you. I honestly think some people do stuff they know is wrong just because they think you won’t have the balls to call them on it. I’m normally very hesitant to say something critical of people so alot of times folks mistake me for non-confrontational. False! I take special pride in putting people in a position to explain exactly wtf they were thinking and telling them why I think they’re full of it.
@Humble_One, ego is not always a bad thing. Without ego their is no individuation. No you. Mo me. Gods way of experiencing SELF. Ok now where do you check your egos and others egos. Well that’s the dance we call social skills and yes we all do things for selfish reasons at certain points and so we should.
@Dice Vegas,
I agree to a certain extent. In dating if a man has no ego he will get crushed, crucified, incinerated, etc. But there is a point were you should have some humility. When your whole M.O. is to always win and get over on people you are bound to lose.
@Humble_One,
“When your whole M.O. is to always win and get over on people you are bound to lose.”
Agreed. Those people are usually the ones left with nothing but a crew of losers and wondering why they don’t have a strong team.
@Humble_One,
2. Thou shalt not put new p***y before your team
hmmm. this one isn’t so black and white
Thou shall not side talk about a hommie for spending time with his woman.
(mind you your with the hommies and hes prolly over her place crush groovin….someone needs to check their surroundings before making comments about their hommie)
@ESQuared,
Thou shall not side talk about a hommie for spending time with his woman.
you can give good natured ribbing about being ‘whipped”. anything serious, though, is just lame
@The Champ,
No, anything more serious is gay.
“You always wit her man! When me and YOU gon go to the movies???”
*side eye*
Great list. Funny thing is, every dude we know has broken at least one of these rules at some point. lol. Including us.
The bigger question is how do you deal with one of your homeboys if you know he’s a habitual line stepper in concerns with these rules?
Do you whoop that trick? Or do you allow dude to hang so it doesn’t cause beef between the post and point so it doesn’t put the championship in jeopardy, indefinitely? (jay)
Real questions. Can I get a few real answers?
@thismayconcernyou,
I just stop dealin’ with they ass.
@thismayconcernyou, It may require finess depending on a risk assesment only you can decide. Look for ways to teach the lesson without telling them. Of course now if the risk assesment demands sanctions and embargo’s act decidedly thoughtfully yet swiftly. You may have to extinguish.
@Dice Vegas,
A good look. lol. Love the way it’s worded. But trust me, this situation is some ish that can’t be extinguished. If it could, it already woulda come to blows. It’s like a wildfire in California that has to die out on its own. … I’m just glad I’m not personally in the middle of it, and I’m watching from the nosebleeds.
@thismayconcernyou,
Word up the advice came from a nice guy. Cuz some people wouldn’t bother trying to teach the lesson. They just turn em loose under the, “I ain’t got time to raise nobody else’s kids” attitude.
@thismayconcernyou,
Maybe I’m brutal, but I believe in cleaning house. I also believe in giving people opportunities to redeem themselves but after a while ish gets old, and it can make you think the person is trying you because they know they can.
When dealing with folks like this I live by the motto “You must always take a minute to check a bytch.” Star from the Star and Buckwild Morning Show said something like that once and me and my girl took it and ran with it. If you regularly find yourself taking out a minute, ol’ boy or ol’ girl has to go.
@thismayconcernyou,
The bigger question is how do you deal with one of your homeboys if you know he’s a habitual line stepper in concerns with these rules?
let him know. if that doesnt work, cut him off.
G-Code, wodie… live by it, die by it.
List is spot on, aligns with the man code.
An ammendment should be, “thou shall shut up, unless you have something productive to say.”
If you’re not helping the cause, you’re hurting the cause.
@Dr. J,
LOL! That Juvenile quote takes me back to my freshman year at FAM.
@Voiceofreason, ah yes the good old days at FAM…except that takes me back to like my senior year there
all of that can be summed up in one word= HONOR……lots of folk lack it tho truely
@OrangeStar616,
nah I’d say respect.
@WuDaMan, look up the def of honor, respect ALL in it
…an honor code etc
G-code/She-Code: Thou shalt not put “the white folks” all up in your bizness.
Calling the police, testifying in court, bearing witness to the latest crime on the local news – all that is considered putting white folks in the bizness and should be avoided at all costs.
@niasmomma,
Hmmmmmm. So if I witness a crime, I shouldn’t testify in court about it?? If I see someone committing a phucked up crime, I shouldn’t call the police?
Yeah if that’s part of the g-code, I can’t get down with that. It’s one thing to say “Thou SHALL NOT attempt to reduce thine own sentence by taking down a homeboy on some Nino Brown non-sense. “, which is the REAL definition of snitching. But to say not to call the cops…yeah I’m not a believer in that one.
I’m putting that out there – If I see you shoot/kill someone, Im calling the cops. Or at least crimestoppers. If I see you trying to snatch up lil kids, I’m calling the cops. If I see you mug an old lady. I’m calling the cops.
@V Renee,
“I’m putting that out there – If I see you shoot/kill someone, Im calling the cops. Or at least crimestoppers. If I see you trying to snatch up lil kids, I’m calling the cops. If I see you mug an old lady. I’m calling the cops.”
I tell my folks all the time if you do some illegal ish– keep it away from me. I don’t wanna even know about it. ‘Cause in these TET I will call crimestoppers on ya and collect that paper…lmao
@miss t-lee,
Agree. Like Bernie Mack (RIP) said, I will call them and show up in court to testify. Black on black crime (as it tends to be) ain’t honorable.
@Wanjiru
“Black on black crime (as it tends to be) ain’t honorable.”
NO IT IS NOT!!!! It’s actually pretty wack and I’m tired of it. Doing that foolishness is what REALLY puts the “white man” in our business.
@miss t-lee,
Who you telling!?!?!?! A few weeks ago, some fools let LOOSE on an undercover FED agent. I’m talking 20 shell casings were found. They had a $20K reward out. I wished I knew who did it. I would have had crimestoppers on speed dial.
Let’s just say once the reward was posted, they were arrested within a couple of days.
@V Renee,
C/S I think that “white man in our biz” thing comes from the older generations when it was more common for a man to go to the station for a routine interrogation and wind up shot.
How about this…you don’t want the white man in your biz, don’t eff with me and mines!
@niasmomma,
G-code/She-Code: Thou shalt not put “the white folks” all up in your bizness.
Calling the police, testifying in court, bearing witness to the latest crime on the local news – all that is considered putting white folks in the bizness and should be avoided at all costs.
your name isnt really brianna barksdale, is it?
@niasmomma,
Girl I’m sorry but this is some bullsheet.
Would you feel the same if someone did harm to 1 of your family members and there were witnesses but they kept quiet in the effort not to let the white man in theor business?
Nah I refuse!
thou shalt not ask your home girl for advice about her man
thou shalt not believe that your homegirl is sincere in her request for relationship advice
thou shalt not respond to said request for relationship advice
@b*tch who loves the smiley,
Gotta disagree here. I have some smart girlfriends. And when I ask them my opinion it’s helpful because:
a) They bring me back to Earth when I’m out of line
b) They reinforce what I know is right when I second guess myself
c) They remind me that everyone sees things differently, so maybe my bf isn’t just being a selfish bum
Now those chicks that I didn’t ask their opinions for are another story…
@Me fail english?,
i dunno sometimes ppl SAY they want real talk but when u give it they flip out. im just saying fool me once…
@b*tch who loves the smiley,
Yeah, you def. gotta know who you’re dealing with. It’s a learning process. And I’ve definitely learned which friends to tell “Let’s talk about something else
”
On the other hand, some people’s version of “real talk” is just hypocritical tough-talking. So even when there’s a grain of truth in it, it comes across so rude/disrespectful you end up pissed. My girls have tact.
@Me fail english?,
I agree. If someone asks for your advice and they can’t handle it, they’re most likely petty or childish. Petty childish people don’t get to become real friends in my book. I sort of rank my friends, and only the Top Tier friends are the ones who I ask for advice and vice versa. We all want nothing but true happiness for each other which is how and why we became so close. So any advice we give comes from a good place, and we all know that.
G Code for her…
Thou shalt not drop your girlfriends because you have a new bf
@EssenceBK,
lol, its funny how sensitive alot of women are about this.
Thou shalt not have meaningless chex with your friends sibling…
I HAD a friend who did this once. Her friend explicitly said, “I hate when my girls try to get at my brother. Please don’t do it.” Of course girly lied and said she wouldn’t. Two weeks later she did. Come to find out ole boy was a virgin (I’m sure this was a great story for him to tell his boys). She tried to play it off like she thought the whole situation was funny. I told her if she loses her friend she deserves it because what she did was trife. Needless to say, I’m not cool with her anymore. She breaks the code on a regular basis with her friends, but she’s not gonna have a chance to do that ish with me.
@Voiceofreason,
What if everybody just quit meaningless cekks
@WuDaMan,
I personally think that’s the best approach, but you know folks won’t be down with that.
@Voiceofreason,
Of course the other immediate or close family members go with out saying. And some are completely off limits no matter the circumstance.
@Voiceofreason,
damn. that friend was trife. people like thar scare me more than midgets
Thou shalt not badmouth any other man to get in the good graces of some woman.
Talking stuff about someone for personal gain is NEVER a good move.
Co sign and i think thats a big problem now a days alot of dudes are raised by women so they act like women all emotinoal and shit
SheCode: Thou shalt not call/text/IM/FB/Gchat/tweet your girl’s man on some naive “We’re just friends” type ish… even if he was your friend first. You can contact him if it’s to plan something for her/ or they are fighting and he needs some clarity. But his close personal relationship w/ you ended the moment you hooked him up with your girl. Don’t be a fool and ruin a friendship…
@pgh muse,
I’m gonna have to disagree. My friends are my friends, male or female. I’m friends with guys that’ll show their girl the door if they have a problem with me. And any woman is a fool if she sets her girl up with a male friend she wants for herself.
Being friends with people who are dating is a pain in the @$$. When they argue they both call you and try to get you to see things their way. And if they break-up you almost feel like you’re a kid going through a divorce.
@pgh muse, i’ma have to disagree too. my homeboy was my homeboy before he met/started dating my homegirl. true, we may not chat as much as we used to, but i’m still gonna hit him up once and a while to see how life is treating him.
SMH @ throwing folk under the bus, snitching on/clockin people @ work, minding others folk business, cannot for the life of you stay in your lane…all because someone doens’t find you friendship worthy cause you insecure and weak but all the while they drive in their lane only, would never do those things to anyone really!
KARMA is REAL tho! SMH
@OrangeStar616,
“throwing folk under the bus, snitching on/clockin people @ work, minding others folk business,”
Can I get a witness? I hate fools at work who got nothing betta to do than worry bout me? Ain’t you got work to do? As long as I’m gettin my work done, why are you hating on me eating a granola bar in a meeting (TRUE story…I had a chick so bothered that I ate – with permission! – someone else’s granola bar in a meeting she brought this up two days later to me. Found out soon after that she told our boss she felt I didn’t take things seriously b/c I was eating in the meeting. Mind you…it was a brown bag meeting!).
@iloVEGrits, dayum ya KNOW!!!!
LMAO….
@iloVEGrits,
lol. Last fall I had a colleague confront me about being detached from the group because (wait for it) …
I chose to sit in the big swivel chair at the meeting rather than a wooden one! When the boss politely told said co-worker “Uh, I’m not sure that’s so important” the co-worker started making up a bunch of other random stuff!!
@iloVEGrits, Wow. That chick was a serious hater… scary @ me.
Thou shalt do the crime if thou doesth the time.
does this mean that if say, your woman accuses you of {cheating/ cutting the line/ eating all the pringles} but you actually hadn’t, then you should go ahead and just {eat/ cheat…}? Cause if it is, I LOVE it!!! (Unless you were accused of by.tch A**ness)… If the words were transposed, you should add the alt version as an addendum.
@Wanjiru,
good question and sh*t
*Don’t talk nonsense about your husband’s failings EVER. Esp not in public.
*don’t hate on yr husband/ wife’s affection for their parents/ step-child.
*don’t hate on your children ever. Goes without saying, you should never disrespect your children in public- in their presence. That’s foul.
* don’t make fun of any weird soundtrack that husband/ wife makes during copulation (yes- even if it’s “Choo! Choo! Coming in” and so on and so forth).
@Wanjiru,
“don’t make fun of any weird soundtrack that husband/ wife makes during copulation (yes- even if it’s “Choo! Choo! Coming in” and so on and so forth).”
I am sorry…if someone is ‘choo choo’ing’ during the do, I’m making fun of that. lol.
@iloVEGrits,
lol cosign!
Thou shall not use thine girls to spy on her man.
its one thing if they see him and volunteer the information…its something else entirely if one of your girls works with ol’ boy and you have her clocking and watching him on some ol James Bond, Mission Impossible sh*t…
@ESQuared,
great point
@ESQuared,
If your girl actually agrees to spy on him, then she’s dumb as hell also! I suppose friends like that deserve each other!
the code is sacred, and may all infidels who defy this law be smite down by the hand of the Creator!!
Seriosuly, we all have lapses in judgement, I’d say chronic abusers should be put on notice
@streetz,
smite is one of my 10 favorite words.
@The Champ, LOLOL word! Its so appropriate… bytchass dudes must be smite down! they are the detriment to our gender and all things sacred
Preamble from the Pops Code:
“What i’m about to tell you ain’t meant to be written down”
So i really can’t add much….lol
B!tcha$$ is not gender specific! Seriously!
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