link of the week: the art of war
Attempted murder suspect, victim were romantic rivals
An arrest warrant was issued for Valerie Walls, 27, suspected of assaulting a 29-year-old San Bernardino County woman between 7 p.m. and 7:30 p.m. Tuesday.
The victim suffered deep slicing wounds to her upper torso area and she lost a lot of blood, Desert Hot Springs Det. Sgt. Radames Gil said Wednesday. The victim was able to get to the K-Mart store, where she sought help and authorities were called, Gil said.
Walls and the victim were romantically involved with the same person, Gil added
we all do it. whether conscious or not, every second of every day we spend on earth we’re doing it. you did it with millions of other sperm twenty six years ago in the back room of your mom’s shanty, when that pint of md 20/20 convinced her to finally let her uncle’s leadfoots jenkins squirt his “kind milk” inside of her. as a toddler, you did it with your dad for your mom’s attention, at least until you grew older and focused your energy on your siblings. you did it for a spot in that college you’re still paying off loans for, along with that job that allows you to spend three hours a day on vsb, and that apartment you lay your head in every night, dreaming about the champ of ways to do it better. shit, that air you’re breathing? you’re doing it with trillions of other organisms for that as well.
we can’t help doing it, even if we do want to. competing is in our nature, as fundamental to humanity as oxygen and stacey dash.
this everlasting competition extends to the dating arena. each of us are equal parts free agent and general manager, constantly evaluating, being evaluated, and battling for spots on the right team. with more intense focus than kobe in a snizzles anus the 4th quarter, we’re as cutthroat as anton chigurh. we lie. we cajole. we run game. we rock wonderwaterbras and subtlely twirl our benz keys while we’re walking in the mall. we sabotage. we throw salt. we’re subtle, tactless, implicit, and direct. we start trojan wars, and gleefully shank boat ninjas outside of kmarts.
a couple questions, good people of vsb.com:
1. in regards to romance, how do you compete? (notice, i’m not asking “if” you compete, because everyone does. stop lying to yourself. you aint special and sh*t)
2. has there ever been a situation where you’ve openly competed, or have been openly competed for?
3. have you ever been shanked outside of a kmart?
remember, we’re all fam here. just me and roughly twenty-five hundred of your closest friends. dont be scurred to tell the truth and sh*t.
—the champ
486 comments
“dreaming about the champ ”
aren’t those called nightmares?
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PBG {September 18th, 2008 at 12:30 am}
“old broads”-1
Champ-0
Get him, Hedo. I’m still kinda salty behind all his age-isms in the last post.
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:16 am}
“Get him, Hedo. I’m still kinda salty behind all his age-isms in the last post.”
your arms are too short to jab the champ
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PrettyBrownGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 10:45 am}
*shakes tiny fist*
Don’t get got!
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Jeandra {September 18th, 2008 at 11:08 am}
I agree, those who think they aren’t competing are just completely dilusional. At work, my staff is predominately female; i’m competing when i hit the door probably showing slightly more cleavage than the rest of the staff. I’m competing when I give a director or manager that extra smile that enables me to call them directly when I want something instead of going through the process like everyone else.
When I’m in a situation where my personal perception is there are better looking women than me in the area, I’m competing when I make myself more friendly and more approachable then the so called dime. We are ALL running like jamaicans in china from the moment we open our eyes.
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 4:38 pm}
“We are ALL running like jamaicans in china from the moment we open our eyes”
good simile
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Jeandra {September 18th, 2008 at 4:51 pm}
I have my moments.
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sisanda {September 18th, 2008 at 8:51 am}
***dannan nan naaaaanan here comes the chubby sidekick to the The Champs rescue in hopes of some redemption for his Awesomless life***
When you dream about the Champ, and he doesn’t even pay attention to you in yo dream, that’s the nightmare, then you wake and realise he’s not there, that’s the daymare, then you realise you may never meet/touch/suck the Champ that’s the Lifemare. So do tell me oldbroads what are you suffering from?
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:17 am}
lol…thanks and sh*t.
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WuDaMan {September 18th, 2008 at 9:18 am}
No offense but **oooooooooooooooo**
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Monk {September 18th, 2008 at 9:28 am}
This is funny as shyt…LOL!!
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Peyso {September 18th, 2008 at 10:00 am}
Got em!
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The Comeback Girl {September 18th, 2008 at 10:01 am}
thats not nice
***takin notes…where you live again…S.Africa???***
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sisanda {September 19th, 2008 at 2:36 am}
I’m just sitting here…waitin and wondering…what you’d do when you find me…hmmm…I’ll give you the coordinates, you just make sure you bring the peaches, syrup, and beef gravy…then you can punish me Laaawd!!!
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KindredSmile {September 18th, 2008 at 10:06 am}
CTFU!
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PrettyBrownGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 11:01 am}
Ummm…that would be exhaustion. Dealing w/youngin’s wears me out. I always expect a paycheck @ the end.
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Intellectual Hedonist {September 18th, 2008 at 10:26 am}
I’m not salty at all about my age or the Champs jabs. I give as good as I get.
And why do I feel like I’m in the school yard after school and errbody is around us trying to edge us on like you want to see a fight, REALLY?
The Champ and I are cool, but y’all need to stop gassin ish…
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The Comeback Girl {September 18th, 2008 at 10:59 am}
i was ready to fly to S. Africa and shyt and make it do what it do on dat @zz…Sisanda got me a few times on Dr. Phil.. :)..its all love tho
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Intellectual Hedonist {September 18th, 2008 at 12:34 pm}
@Comeback, thanks for the support and ish, but it ain’t that serious. If it were I would’ve gone to the burgh and handled it.
I don’t deal with 2nd parties, don’t need no witnesses.. LOL!!!
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 12:59 pm}
“If it were I would’ve gone to the burgh and handled it.”
…….
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miss t-lee {September 18th, 2008 at 2:16 pm}
“I don’t deal with 2nd parties, don’t need no witnesses.. ”
Exactly, you do dirt, 1 deep. haha!!!
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Intellectual Hedonist {September 18th, 2008 at 4:13 pm}
I do my dirt all by my own
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sisanda {September 19th, 2008 at 2:32 am}
1st off you have to admit on some level that it was kinda funny, but it’s all in the (cane) spirit.
2ndly my lifemare is that i may never meet you wisebroads, and thus will have to settle for mediocre youngins with short skirts and high expectations. (truth)
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How do I compete?? Ha!
big words, doe eyes, moxie, tight pants, lip gloss and soul food cooking.
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WuDaMan {September 18th, 2008 at 8:29 am}
You know PBG I was wondering about your name ‘PBG’ I mean is it a take off of pbj cuz g can sound like j if it is followed by an i or e. I said all that to say. after that post I riggity-realized that I think I liggit-e-lub U.
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PrettyBrownGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 9:58 am}
Didn’t we have a Wu-translator in here yesterday?? I think I’ll be needing those services today. Please and thank you.
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8th Wonder {September 18th, 2008 at 10:16 am}
“You know PBG I was wondering about your name ‘PBG’ I mean is it a take off of pbj cuz g can sound like j if it is followed by an i or e. I said all that to say. after that post I riggity-realized that I think I liggit-e-lub U.”
-translation-
Hey, PBG, is PBG a spin off of Peanut butter & jelly?, because a G can sound like a J if it is followed by an I, O, R, or E. I’m saying all of this, simply to tell you I’ve realized I e-love you.
-Explanation-
Wu likes food, so PBG took him to the happy place of PB&J.
*Coughs into open hand*
That’ll be $500.00.
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PrettyBrownGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 11:05 am}
I got you on payday after next, 8th Won-dra.
I hate peanut butter AND jelly. I know of no happy place where they are. But if he says so, I do still know how to make a decent PB&J sandwich.
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Peyso {September 18th, 2008 at 12:43 pm}
u put peanut butter on both sides or one?
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WuDaMan {September 18th, 2008 at 2:16 pm}
aight that depends on if you are going single decker or double decker.
I start w/ the jelly cuz it’s easier to rinse off than PB, & growing up You could get a go to hayel card for putting PB in the J jar or vice versa. then dry the knife or spoon n spread the PB.
Where as the double decker you go (this is a profile of the finished product) bread PB, J bread PB, J bread. oh yeah
Serve it up w/ a cold glass of milk (plain soy for me lactose intolerance)
WuDaMan {September 18th, 2008 at 2:22 pm}
Word? **evil grin** step into my office **pulls out concord grape n bread from cubicle fridge and natural creamy PB** You know the PB&J is umuricoh’s favorite sandwich. You can serve it to n e and every one. (it’s even vegan safe so long as you check the bread and PB ingredients)
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Intellectual Hedonist {September 18th, 2008 at 4:16 pm}
I’m with you if by “concord grape n bread from cubicle fridge and natural creamy PB” you mean, Welch’s grape on whole grain with Skippy creamy.
WuDaMan {September 19th, 2008 at 10:41 am}
Hecks yeah welch’s whole grain but no to the skippy you seen the sugar they put in there and they may be one of the brands that use lard to keep it *cough* smooth. I use a natural creamy panutbutter. You stir it that first time and leave it in the fridge. That encourages the oil to remain solid.
Monk {September 18th, 2008 at 5:50 pm}
WuDaMan says,
“I start w/ the jelly cuz it’s easier to rinse off than PB, & growing up You could get a go to hayel card for putting PB in the J jar or vice versa. then dry the knife or spoon n spread the PB.
Where as the double decker you go (this is a profile of the finished product) bread PB, J bread PB, J bread. oh yeah
Serve it up w/ a cold glass of milk (plain soy for me lactose intolerance)”
As I stated down-thread, a woman who pays attention and can make a sandwich JUST as we like it will always have one-up on the comp.
I’m not the P&J brotha, but ham and turkey on wheat with provolone, light mayo, and a leaf of lettuce (if available) delights my taste buds. Submarine style is preferred, but slices of bread is suffice also.
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PBG {September 18th, 2008 at 7:54 pm}
Epic tangent on PB&J…something I absolutely HATE! Peanut butter stinks and jelly texture is…ewww.
I don’t think I’ve made a PB&J sandwich since my 14yr. old still needed my help in such matters. My 9yr. old is like me. He loathes the stench of the peanut as well.
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WuDaMan {September 18th, 2008 at 2:31 pm}
I TRY SO HARD. I feel like the e-equivilant of this guy http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iP2I-y6kBVs fast foreward to 8 seconds in. or even this xtended clip http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3P2MHMNxbsw&NR=1 **whispers** Ocho Pan meat me around the e-corner we can get rich to this.
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8th Wonder {September 18th, 2008 at 3:53 pm}
Boy please, I’m taking 100% for translating your ish
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WuDaMan {September 19th, 2008 at 10:43 am}
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=isfmKb_RP7U
How I compete? Gotta leave the ladies satisfied..so they either 1. lose their common sense or 2. come back for more or 3. tell their friends how good it was.
I’ve been competed for. It happens most when I have more than 1 female at the same night spot and I make it clear that I am taking the best offer of the night.
Hell, I weight my options every open weekend. I hate making a hasty choice on weds. and then have to pass up a better offer at the last minute (friday evening). I encourage competition. It’s a free agent society. If they don’t make my team.. they can always try out next year.
Oh yeah..I had a near shank experience. It’s more of a nick.. she tried to get me..but this brotha was too quick for that.
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SouthernGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 12:38 am}
“Oh yeah..I had a near shank experience. It’s more of a nick.. she tried to get me..but this brotha was too quick for that.”
Oh hell…..please elaborate…
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 1:08 am}
He prolly told her “If you don’t make my team.. you can always try out next year” so she swung at him with a blade in her hand.
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PBG {September 18th, 2008 at 1:12 am}
LOL…I was wondering if he came w/a big, shiny bow on his head or just a pocketful of store credit.
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SouthernGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 1:18 am}
was she from the N.O.? lol
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 1:45 am}
now dudes.. I have straight cut a dude before.. but it was his fault.. we were kicking it right? he came to me on the baby, baby I love you right? he and a friend moved intogether said friend and he fell out.. I co signed on the apartment while away at school ( I know it was dumb but I was real young, I out to sue they a$$ for letting me sign a lease under the age of 18) long story short, I got a summer job, his side chick worked there, recognized my pics from the apartment and approached me..at work…. it went down hill I came home asked him about it he acted a fool we got to tussling etc etc.. I aint no fool he was a big guy so I left, came back sliced the waterbed, his tires (all except 1) bricked the back windshield, and left the water running in the tub, kitchen, and bathroom sinks.. flooded the apartment. A week later he called me told me he forgave me, he understood because he had totally disrespected me etc etc I fell for it went to meet him and that ni$$a straight tried to choke me to DEAF!!! LOL I had to slice his a$$ up to get him up off of me….Learned a whole lot of lessons from that one….
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 1:48 am}
you shoulda gutted his a$$.
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 2:04 am}
you shoulda gutted his a$$.
pretty much did.. according to his friend (you know how ninja’s lie.. he had to get 22 stitches across the bottom of his stomach where I cut him..
I felt bad about it but Karma is a bytch.. that apartment complex garnished my check about 4 years ago for the damage to the apartment and early lease termination.. LMAO
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PBG {September 18th, 2008 at 1:56 am}
Shazaam, Shay-d! You went in on his azz!
I would’ve never thought of that water running thing. That was sheer brilliance.
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 2:01 am}
I would’ve never thought of that water running thing. That was sheer brilliance.
A woman scorned…. I should have known he was a lame because that ninja had a water bed but oh well.. you live and learn…I bet he hasnt had a nother one!!
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 9:33 am}
I would also like to note that although it felt good at the time.. he was not worth, I wouldnt recommend doing anything other than walking away now. All that drama adds a whole other level of crazy to your life that is just not necessary
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8th Wonder {September 18th, 2008 at 10:21 am}
“I should have known he was a lame because that ninja had a water bed…”
Right. Ole Leon Phelps lookin boy.
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SouthernGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 2:01 am}
just…wow. that is the perfect reason and time to cut a muthaf*cka
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Monk {September 18th, 2008 at 8:12 am}
This is tough to read so early in the morning. I need to listen to some happy music now.
*playing N. Bedingfield*
“I gotta pocket, gotta pocket full of sunshinne…”
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:19 am}
“sliced the waterbed, his tires (all except 1) bricked the back windshield, and left the water running in the tub, kitchen, and bathroom sinks.. flooded the apartment.”
……………………….
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 10:01 am}
sliced the waterbed, his tires (all except 1) bricked the back windshield, and left the water running in the tub, kitchen, and bathroom sinks.. flooded the apartment.”
……………………….
hey, I was young, stupid and full of anger plus you specifically asked for these examples. Be careful what you ask for
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 10:29 am}
“hey, I was young, stupid and full of anger plus you specifically asked for these examples. Be careful what you ask for”
lol…you’re right. i did, and i’m glad you shared, because i’m trying to create seating arrangements for the vsb bbq, and i need to know who to place as far away from me as possible
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 10:34 am}
lol…you’re right. i did, and i’m glad you shared, because i’m trying to create seating arrangements for the vsb bbq, and i need to know who to place as far away from me as possible
first how you gone ask for examples and then when I open myself up and trust you with one of my most trying experiences you use it against me? I tell you about a ninja..Second.. that was over a decade ago.. I have since grown up and mellowed out a lot.
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 11:08 am}
“first how you gone ask for examples and then when I open myself up and trust you with one of my most trying experiences you use it against me? I tell you about a ninja..Second.. that was over a decade ago.. I have since grown up and mellowed out a lot”
hmm…i just checked my voicemail and someone named “guilt trip” left a message, and wanted to meet. i’ve never met them before though, and have no intentions on meeting them in the future, so i’m not gonna return the call.
lol…ok. i’m gonna stop. you can sit wherever you want at the vsb bbq.
Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 11:24 am}
hmm…i just checked my voicemail and someone named “guilt trip” left a message, and wanted to meet. i’ve never met them before though, and have no intentions on meeting them in the future, so i’m not gonna return the call.
The fact that the phone rang means it almost worked.
hey I am a mother.. I am trying to perfect the art of the “guilt trip” its a very necessary weapon.
I think I am off to a good start!!!
Philosopher Queen {September 18th, 2008 at 1:16 pm}
I’m going to write a novel and you guys are going to make me rich!
I’ll call it a novel to protect the freaks, criminals, and innocent youths
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Monk {September 18th, 2008 at 6:02 pm}
I’m ready for the VSB television show as long as P, Champ, and Liz are ready to take it there.
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Intellectual Hedonist {September 18th, 2008 at 6:06 pm}
Can you imagine.
Weekly special appearances by Genius this week, Goodeness next week….etc.
Whole hot mess,
I’d watch
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1. by wearing low cut tops and leaning forward strategically across the bar/hot wings/rice and stew i just threw down in the kitchen cos my mother told me the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach (this also gets me “psst! come here” ’s by ninjas in moving vans, but i take it all in my stride).
2. one aspect i find interesting about the competition aspect is when motherfuggers use jealousy as a tactic…. i’ll admit, i’m guilty of this, but it’s recently been used on me and i realised i really truly dislike it. but i can’t help but indulge anyway, somewhat like my relationship with r kelly’s music pre-chocolate factory. i think this may be because i like playing mind games, which i KNOW is messed up, but i like the mental stimulation.
3. i am yet to be shanked outside of a kmart. i wonder if she’ll tell that story to her grandkids….
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 12:59 am}
“i just threw down in the kitchen cos my mother told me the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”
I cooks my a$$ off too because (1) I’m a southern girl and (2) I like tasty dishes and, yeah (3) it keeps a dude’s interest if he’s lucky enough to get served. But in relationships, I don’t see utlizing your culinary skills as competing. I see that as acting right. *Braces herself for the backlash*
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PBG {September 18th, 2008 at 1:04 am}
I agree w/you VeeDot. You will get no backlash from me. We both may get get kicked out of the Tea Party, though.
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puff {September 18th, 2008 at 1:30 am}
But in relationships, I don’t see utlizing your culinary skills as competing. I see that as acting right.
i’m in college - plenty of cute but broke and hungry a$$ motherfuggers mean that the cookery skills are competition.
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 1:32 am}
But aren’t the dudes competing for the one who can cook rather than her competing for them.
If you put a pot on a stove…a man will show up.
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puff {September 18th, 2008 at 1:42 am}
maybe this is what i meant (i haven’t slept a lot lately, which is why i’m probably not making sense). and maybe this is why i have this one motherfugger calling me every day now asking me if i’ve cooked
happy puff because he’s fuego (shout out to t-pain)
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blackberry molasses {September 18th, 2008 at 9:54 am}
you ain’t neva lied…
the time that me and my girls threw down for easter in college… tell my WHY there were 20 random ninjas in our apt?
broke a$$ hungry muhfuggers…
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 1:02 pm}
“broke a$$ hungry muhfuggers”
this was actually the original title of vsb.com, before liz (aka “the boobs behind the boys”) convinced us otherwise
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Intellectual Hedonist {September 18th, 2008 at 5:31 pm}
LIZ aka BBB
Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 1:51 am}
don’t see utlizing your culinary skills as competing. I see that as acting right. *Braces herself for the backlash*
no backlash but , this is a new day and age and a lot of women cant cook so this is a skill that gives you one up on the competition. I can cook. I throws down and I use to cook for my best friends roomies/frat all the time (they bought the food I cooked they cleaned up..helpe keep me fed all through college) .. them ninja’s all tried to get after me the night I made those mashed potatoes from scratch with that milk and sourcream…LMAO
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The Comeback Girl {September 18th, 2008 at 8:13 am}
“don’t see utlizing your culinary skills as competing”
it could. alot of cooking blogs (sadly with black women) think 8000 different variations of boiling pasta (lasagna, fettucini, spaghetti etc) is actually cooking. So if a woman is throwin some Barefoot Contessa (or mama and grandma remixes**) on dat @zz I can see where it would be competing.
**everything that mama and grandma cooked CANNOT be eaten erry day less we all want to look like houses.
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shay {September 18th, 2008 at 12:44 pm}
girl the mashed potatoes always gets em, lol
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Monk {September 18th, 2008 at 8:19 am}
“But in relationships, I don’t see utlizing your culinary skills as competing. I see that as acting right.”
I appreciate you V-Dot for realizing this, but it can become a competitive situation also. For example, a woman who can REALLY cook vs. one who’s constantly screwing up the simplest dishes. Someone’s gonna have the upper-hand.
I will say this though, as long as you can make a freakin’ sandwich and you take the time to know exactly how I like it and what I like on it, you’re good. I’m not that picky.
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Intellectual Hedonist {September 18th, 2008 at 10:35 am}
“I see that as acting right.”
You know as independent as I may seem on the outside, when I am in a relationship I straight up fall into the traditional woman role.
example: my ex worked till 11pm on the regular, I would wait up for him, usually have dinner waiting in the microwave so he could heat it up or if I had eaten out would start dinner for him an hour or so before he came home. I would do other things too but this really is my mom’s upbringing. To this day my dad doesn’t have to go foraging through the kitchen regardless of the time he gets home from work.
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Philosopher Queen {September 18th, 2008 at 1:20 pm}
I’m a southern girl too and when I first started adult dating I thought that stretching my culinary muscles was just acting right, but now, I’ll totally show off and show out in the kitchen if I know I have an appreciative audience.
So yeah, it’s competing
And southern girls definitely have the upper hand!
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Precious {September 18th, 2008 at 6:44 am}
I feel you on food being the way to a man’s heart, that’s a given. And it seems to be becoming rarer each day to find a woman that can cook a hearty southern meal (thanks momma and granny!)
I’m also a lil thick in the thighs, so that’s seemed to help a sista along the way.
Never shanked anyone…it’s not that deep. I have a 401k and j.o.b . that affords me the freedom to do too much for me to put that in jeopardy…no peni is that great (if it is I don’t want it!)
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:21 am}
“by wearing low cut tops and leaning forward strategically across the bar/hot wings/rice and stew i just threw down in the kitchen”
my kind of broad and sh*t
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Only if the men knew that the open competition is rarely RARELY about his stupid @zz…its usually the same reason he’s actively instigating it…sheer winning. And then after you’ve won—- your spoil becomes…..spoiled…and then NEXT!!! I really wish men would get that. Thats a yaya secret that I might lose my life for disclosing tonight.
its the adrenal high-brooke valentine- of it all. and I like I;ve said before, everything that I ever gotten that was truly meant for me, was for me.
the rest was all sport. LOL
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SouthernGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 12:56 am}
lol. alright…you can’t let all the secrets out the box *keeping my eye on you*
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The Comeback Girl {September 18th, 2008 at 8:16 am}
*** gives back my butter cookies***
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Monk {September 18th, 2008 at 8:25 am}
So you go hard to win the Championship, but you don’t wish to remain champ?
Or are you playing to one-up the next competitor even though you could care less about the prize?
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Suga&Spice {September 18th, 2008 at 8:28 am}
You keep this up and your Ya-Ya Membership status may have to come under review.
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sisanda {September 18th, 2008 at 9:17 am}
I really don’t care for the reason as long as i get mine….at the end of the night/day/hallway we’ll both be glad you came
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:26 am}
“Only if the men knew that the open competition is rarely RARELY about his stupid @zz…its usually the same reason he’s actively instigating it…sheer winning. And then after you’ve won—- your spoil becomes…..spoiled…and then NEXT!!! I really wish men would get that. Thats a yaya secret that I might lose my life for disclosing tonight”
this goes both ways. this is the latent reasoning behind the situation where the guy is “perfect” and persistent…until he hits a couple times, and the woman is nexted quicker than kim porter
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The Comeback Girl {September 18th, 2008 at 10:26 am}
“Only if the men knew that the open competition is rarely RARELY about his stupid @zz…its usually the same reason he’s actively instigating it”
thats exactly what I said. “Kim Porter” was just the necessary evil to get his rocks off and win…competition is never about a person.
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Intellectual Hedonist {September 18th, 2008 at 10:38 am}
@ Comeback Girl… I can relate
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super real talk.
i do not compete.
at the tender age of 24 i decided to drop out of the gene pool. so far, so good.
it seems that i’m much happier than the rest of you too. (can you feel my soapbox belittling you?)
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:27 am}
“i do not compete.”
yes you do.
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1. I kills ‘em with my southern charm. And being blessed in the chest doesn’t hurt either. Hey, you gotta work with what you got.
2. Hmm…I didn’t quite openly compete so much as get momentarily get caught in the middle of some make up to break up sh*t. He was campaigning hard and I decided, unfortunately, to give the brotha a chance. She moved out, it was supposed to be over but…she still got perfume sitting on your dresser, coming by my room (this was in undergrad) with her girl to “talk” to me *insert side eye, b*tch please*, coming by your spot when I’m there, lies are being told about where you were and who you were with (her), etc. etc. He wasn’t worth so it and two crazy ninjas deserve each other so b*tch, to quote whitney houston pre-crack is wack, I bow out.
3. I haven’t had a chick try to cut me yet but I’ve seen some sh*t on the streets of New Orleans, involving a posse of chicks, a lighter and a can of hair spray…
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 12:57 am}
“I haven’t had a chick try to cut me yet but I’ve seen some sh*t on the streets of New Orleans, involving a posse of chicks, a lighter and a can of hair spray…”
Chicks in the N.O. don’t play…
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SouthernGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 1:10 am}
nope…we sure don’t. even my best friend from shreveport tells me she’s scared of me sometimes.lol
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 1:14 am}
I used to think there were some rough girls at 35 and that 3rd Ward girls were hard core. lol. Then I moved to Chicago and saw the G-Queens in action…
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SouthernGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 1:21 am}
crazy chicks are in all area codes. let’s not discuss (certain) Kennedy girls…but i caught some flack being from the 9th ward myself. lol.
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 1:25 am}
I’m from the 7th and nobody thinks we can fight. hahaha. But I still thought some of them 35 girls were rough.
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Nut {September 18th, 2008 at 5:44 am}
I’m from the 7th and nobody thinks we can fight. hahaha. But I still thought some of them 35 girls were rough
I’m from the 7th too and the girls at 35 were nothing compared to the broads @ John Mcdonogh (the mac); those ladies believed in the art of the shank
Uninspired Muse {September 18th, 2008 at 11:27 am}
Damn. Dont discount them N.O. East chicks. Those girls have to be crazy just to be left alone. Chef Hwy transfer my ass.
“blessed in the chest”
I second that. If you got some serious chesticals, there really is no competition.
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SouthernGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 1:36 pm}
“Damn. Dont discount them N.O. East chicks. Those girls have to be crazy just to be left alone. Chef Hwy transfer my ass.”
Damn. I almost choked on my jelly beans. Do I have it twice as bad since a grew up in the lower 9 and then moved to the east? lol.
Leila {September 18th, 2008 at 1:12 am}
or DC…
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PBG {September 18th, 2008 at 1:18 am}
Tell ‘em what it is in DC, Leila. Not even a game…
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The Comeback Girl {September 18th, 2008 at 8:07 am}
“Tell ‘em what it is in DC, Leila. Not even a game…”
***rosary beads and holy water***
DC chicks take the best of the north and the south ( alittle bit country a little bit rock and roll)
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:29 am}
“3. I haven’t had a chick try to cut me yet but I’ve seen some sh*t on the streets of New Orleans, involving a posse of chicks, a lighter and a can of hair spray…”
**reminding self to never bag any women from new orleans***
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SouthernGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 11:16 am}
lmao. don’t say that! you know you need that cajun spice in your life…
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Monk {September 18th, 2008 at 6:31 pm}
Bad Ending Relationship + Violence + the voodoo factor = Caution tape + Police sirens + Hospital or Funeral Bills.
Yep. I’ll be stayin’ out of the N.O. for a while. They still bury n*ggas on top of the ground, right??
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I dont compete..nor have i ever competed for a man’s attention. I figure if i have to work for it..its not worth having. If he wants me..dont wait for me to bat my eyelashes and flip my skirt , just approach me. I have never had a problem meeting or keeping a man. And most times i will get rid of them first. But some men (25-35 in age) like that “game’ stuff. So if your into that , play on playa.. at my age, I really dont have time for the BS.
-signed,
the old, crabby, but undoubtably hot chick. lol
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SouthernGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 12:53 am}
agree. but can i get an estimate on “old” cause i was never really down for all the game playing. i try to avoid it and if i happen to somehow find myself in it, like the situation above, i am trying to get out of it.
-the not sure how old, old is and also undoubtably hot chick
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 12:57 am}
I am 33. I don’t think I’m old but some youngins like Luvvie (callin her out cuz she’s out of town) like to say that I am.
To this I say: I am hot. lol. I can pull em young and old and I know tricks young girls ain’t learned yet.
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PBG {September 18th, 2008 at 1:09 am}
“I am hot. lol. I can pull em young and old and I know tricks young girls ain’t learned yet.”
*PBG tambourine shake*
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SouthernGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 1:16 am}
lmao. go girl! that’s not old at all. i have some girlfriends that age.and we all go through the same sh*t. i don’t know how old luvvie is but i’m 27 and also pulls em young and old. and most of em still can’t act right. *pulls up chair for next lesson*
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Philosopher Queen {September 18th, 2008 at 1:23 pm}
**also pulling up chair with notebook and pen in hand….
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im_the_sweetest {September 18th, 2008 at 8:42 am}
V.E.G> I WAS TOTALLY WONDERING WHERE G CHAT ADDICTED LUVIE WAS?!?!! and not that 33 is old (just….. older) than the rest of us spring chickens.
At 24, I like southern is sitting front row for my next lesson.
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aja {September 19th, 2008 at 1:28 am}
im 38.
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Shelia {September 18th, 2008 at 5:26 am}
Aja, I feel you. I leave the game playing for the kids.
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em {September 18th, 2008 at 7:00 am}
Cosigning…
Once I dated a guy and his ex girlfriend had the audacity to call me, tombout, “leave my man alone”. I was dumbfounded. I had to ask myself some hard hitting questions. How did this heffa get my number; dahell she calling me for? So I broke up with old boy. I didn’t need that kinda stress and sh*t. Well, he flaked out on me and asked why did I want to give up on our relationship? AND where he comes from that sort of drama was common, he was used to women getting into some fray over him.
That’s why I only date white men…j/k!!!
kinda…
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Shelia {September 18th, 2008 at 9:25 am}
Em, you did the right thing because obviously, he got off on the drama. In fact, it sounds like he set it up.
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Intellectual Hedonist {September 18th, 2008 at 1:47 pm}
That’s why I only date white men
ROTFL!!!! LMAO!!!!
Wooooohooooo
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:33 am}
“I dont compete..nor have i ever competed for a man’s attention.”
yes you do, and yes you have. now, maybe you didn’t consciously compete, but obviously, for every guy you’ve been with, something about you stood out or made you special enough to approach/bag/wife. you’re not the only woman on earth though, so you were competing with other candidates.
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aja {September 19th, 2008 at 1:41 am}
yea yea..whatever.. lol
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I’ve honestly never competed for a man.
Something I won’t do. I don’t have the energy. lol.
I did jack one though: in h.s. I took Keisha’s prom date two week’s before prom cuz I liked him. He and I ended up going together. She told everyone she was gonna kick my a$$. I thank God she didn’t.
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 1:16 am}
wait a minute what are you guys defining as competing? I thought it was more like.. there is an attractive, employed unattached man at work/school/ church etc and what do I do to compete with the other women who might also be attracted and vying for his attention.. not like dude got a girl and I want him or I got a dude that some girl trying to get etc etc…
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 1:18 am}
I’m seein it as competing with another chick who has her claws in him
I only told the jack story cuz it was my one and only brush with a possible cutting incident.
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 1:28 am}
ohhhh…..I have got to fighting a couple of times almost about a dude but not quite .. more about the principle of the situation.. most ot the time it was over some random dude that bought me drinks etc at a bar/met at a library/ walking across the campus etc.. I hate being confronted about dudes… period. Dont ask me if I know him, dont call my dayum phone asking me “who is this” definitely do not approach me loudly in public.. the peer pressure of everyone looking at us will force me to have to kick your a$$… and trust.. peer pressure will get yo a$$ TOW UP!! LMAO
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 1:34 am}
“peer pressure will get yo a$$ TOW UP!! LMAO”
Girl it will. I was in countless fights in school cuz folks were eggin me on. Freshman year of college I ran up 9 flights of stairs (not sure why I didn’t take an elevator, lol) with a crowd running behind me, pumping me up, to fight a girl.
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SouthernGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 1:57 am}
omg! was that you on canal street with that lighter?!?? lol. did you even have the energy to fight after running up all those stairs?
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 5:09 pm}
Oh not Forrest Gump!!!
8th Wonder {September 18th, 2008 at 9:42 am}
Why did this make me think of Forrest Gump and the legion of fans running behind him?
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puff {September 18th, 2008 at 1:34 am}
wait a minute what are you guys defining as competing? I thought it was more like.. there is an attractive, employed unattached man at work/school/ church etc and what do I do to compete with the other women who might also be attracted and vying for his attention
yeah, that’s what i thought too. after a disastrous occasion where one chick thought i was trying to steal her dude (who i had never met, btw, but she thought it was a good idea to give him MY number i guess so he could call me to talk about her or some dumb ish) i stay far far away from men who have even a jumpoff. this face is too pretty for prison - or for getting slashed.
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:34 am}
“wait a minute what are you guys defining as competing? I thought it was more like.. there is an attractive, employed unattached man at work/school/ church etc and what do I do to compete with the other women who might also be attracted and vying for his attention.. not like dude got a girl and I want him or I got a dude that some girl trying to get etc etc…”
both.
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I grew up playing sports and just have a competitive nature when it comes to just about anything. I’ve never had to compete for a guy, but I’ve had to put some women in place who were real disrespectful.
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:36 am}
***see my reply to comment number 8***
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How have I won in the past.. mostly by just being me..I am a cool, down to earth no frills kind of girl. I drink with the best of them and dont get embarrasingly f*cked up, I talk shyt, can watch a game and discuss politics, play a mean game of spades, I am fearless, honest and always the same on top of all that I aint hard to look at and I have a nice a$$ to waist ratio…..so most of the time when I have competed I got the guy by being easiest to be with, when I said no strings, I meant no strings, when we go out I didnt constantly ask about other girls etc, we kicked it, you had a good time with me and wanted to do it again..
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puff {September 18th, 2008 at 1:37 am}
preach. this is how i’m living now (and hopefully i’ll get on the michelle’n'barack status as a result when i’m a lil older and hopefully employed assuming the economy doesn’t completely go to sh*t and whatnot).
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 1:40 am}
I like beer and football and basketball AND have a penchant for 4 inch heels and dresses. I find that men like this combo…
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Naturally Alise {September 18th, 2008 at 1:45 am}
that plus a extra value menu combo and a bag of Combos ‘and they’ll be ready to marry a ninja’…
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 1:54 am}
AND have a penchant for 4 inch heels and dresses. I find that men like this combo…
well I am a shorty so I am always in heels on top of the fact that Big butts+flat shoes= NO NO
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shay {September 18th, 2008 at 12:54 pm}
i find that high heels make me saunter like a hussy, a characteristic only suitable for activities that take place after sundown… in the daylight i could start a small parade ala the pied piper with some wedges on… the kid is a problem!
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 1:04 pm}
i love hussies
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:39 am}
“I like beer and football and basketball AND have a penchant for 4 inch heels and dresses. I find that men like this combo…”
***preparing to auction v.e.g.’s email address on ebay to the highest bidder***
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Peyso {September 18th, 2008 at 10:14 am}
*definitely will be bidding*
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 11:38 am}
LMAO. I NEEDED a good snort this a.m.
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Lies, untruths, and false propaganda, if any woman here says she has never competed for affection/attention…. note that comptete does not mean you had a unicorn jousting match to the death or other such foolywangtasticness, you may be subtle or not hard core cometitive, but competitive nonetheless. It is all a part of the dating dynamic and such I think…. nothing wrong with a little friendly comp….
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 1:16 am}
“Lies, untruths, and false propaganda”
I don’t remember doin any competing. lol.
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PBG {September 18th, 2008 at 1:16 am}
Who could beat you in unicorn jousting match anyway, Mama…ummm…errr I mean “Naturally Alise”?? *wink,wink*
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Naturally Alise {September 18th, 2008 at 1:27 am}
lol, now go eat your vegetables….
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The Comeback Girl {September 18th, 2008 at 8:31 am}
” unicorn jousting match to the death ”
you are super talented with the various uses of unicorn in a sentence. LOL
I think some women are super passive. In the past I’ve either been all in or all out. And its in its proper perspective. Ive competed before, but I play to win and I realized that it was no longer about the guy-it was about the win.
You know kind of like the my little pony (unicorn collection) they did circa 84. All the girls HAD to have it. But then two weeks after christmas everybody’s my little pony unicorn was missing its head. it became more about “HAVING” and less about “the pony”.
…those don’t make for long love affairs with super duper happy endings. Someone’s gonna still be looking for the “rush…rush”…tyra b. style.
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Monk {September 18th, 2008 at 6:41 pm}
““rush…rush”…tyra b. style.”
Wow!! I’d never thunk someone would mention her or one of her songs in a post…lol. I did her first video.
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:41 am}
“Lies, untruths, and false propaganda”
in other words, “the thought process of every woman on the planet” (except naturally alise, of course)
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Philosopher Queen {September 18th, 2008 at 1:27 pm}
@ Champ: Booooo! There are some of us that do think logically and keep our looniness to ourselves.
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I compete by not competing. I don’t chase. If a chick is interested, she’s interested. I’m a very good listener with strong advice, and a pretty good understanding of women. That intrigues some chicks. But really though, this one is gonna be lopsided. With the number of good men apparently being very small compared to the number of women out there, it’s pretty safe to say this post will be dominated by the tactics of women. That’s okay though, cuz I’m sure I will have many a good laugh about the comments throughout the day.
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Precious {September 18th, 2008 at 6:48 am}
I can support this post…but your self proclaimed positives (good listening skills, etc.) allow you to compete with others, even if that’s not your intent. They are qualities that are sought after, typically, and by default make you a competitor…even without your consent.
I think a lot of people are in the competition…some are just more active in the festivities. However, that does not make them the winner in all cases…
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Slim Jackson {September 18th, 2008 at 9:20 am}
Touchè. I guess I can’t escape it.lol.
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Precious {September 18th, 2008 at 1:45 pm}
You can’t…but it’s appreciated and probably (I am assuming) makes the wins a lot more rewarding, and any loss a lot less important…you’re really just doing you.
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:41 am}
“your self proclaimed positives (good listening skills, etc.) allow you to compete with others, even if that’s not your intent. They are qualities that are sought after, typically, and by default make you a competitor…even without your consent.”
in a nutshell
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Ok…change of direction…
What do I do to seem attractive/catch a guy’s eye/make sure he wants my digits?
Well, I have big green eyes and give the best Puss-n-boots look ever and that works. And I have dimples. They make some dudes melt. lol.
I am also sarcastic and I found that men like some light hearted verbal abuse when they first meet you.
I have also walked past a guy, looked him dead in the eye and said ‘dayum’ and walked off. They always follow behind after that.
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SouthernGirl {September 18th, 2008 at 1:24 am}
“I have also walked past a guy, looked him dead in the eye and said ‘dayum’ and walked off. They always follow behind after that.”
*dying* I’m gonna have to try that.
co-sign on the lighthearted verbal abuse.
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Naturally Alise {September 18th, 2008 at 1:30 am}
You are my hero ! But I exxagerate and sh*t a lot… lol
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 1:30 am}
“But I exxagerate and sh*t a lot… lol”
*hangs head sadly. takes of ‘Hero” t-shirt.*
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Naturally Alise {September 18th, 2008 at 1:43 am}
lol, naw, but u are my hero and shit because exuding that confidence is what is up!
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 1:30 am}
I have also walked past a guy, looked him dead in the eye and said ‘dayum’ and walked off. They always follow behind after that.
LOL you know saying F*ck wit ya girl.. will work here also… I am determined to bring this saying back to the forefront.. Hi My name is Shay.. F*ck wit ya girl!!!!!
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 1:34 am}
I will try this and report back. lol.
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puff {September 18th, 2008 at 1:45 am}
f*ck wit ya girl…. bwahahahahahahahahahhaahhaa…
but this is hot theoretically, yet in my head when i see it playing out it’s snoop from the wire i see saying it…
the effect is somehow just not the same.
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 1:47 am}
Yeah. It sounds a little too butch. lol.
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 1:58 am}
Yeah. It sounds a little too butch. lol.
but its the contradiction that makes it hot.. Picture it.. you in your hottest fit, banging shoes, face made up, lips on beam… looking at dude deep in his eyes.. his eyes moving down your body and slowly back up and when he gets to your mouth you say f*ck with ya girl.. very seductively.. first he is going to lose his mind because the f* word is going to throw him off gaurd because he was thinking about it in another context at that time anyway.. then he is not sure what it means.. do you mean literally?, what is that.. he dosent know, he is confused.. yet intrigued….
I am determined I tell you..
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V.E.G {September 18th, 2008 at 2:05 am}
LMAO. I will try it.
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No More Heroes {September 18th, 2008 at 9:08 am}
Well, coming from a man who has experienced that I have to say that is entirely accurate. You got the reasoning down and everything. Impressive.
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:44 am}
“but its the contradiction that makes it hot.. Picture it.. you in your hottest fit, banging shoes, face made up, lips on beam… looking at dude deep in his eyes.. his eyes moving down your body and slowly back up and when he gets to your mouth you say f*ck with ya girl.. very seductively.. first he is going to lose his mind because the f* word is going to throw him off gaurd because he was thinking about it in another context at that time anyway.. then he is not sure what it means.. do you mean literally?, what is that.. he dosent know, he is confused.. yet intrigued….”
nah. still too butch, lol. i’d fear i was about to get driven to a kmart and shanked
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 9:49 am}
nah. still too butch, lol. i’d fear i was about to get driven to a kmart and shanked
Man up
Peyso {September 18th, 2008 at 10:18 am}
i’d fear i was about to get driven to a kmart and shanked
hahahahahahaha, true
Suga&Spice {September 18th, 2008 at 8:39 am}
I have also walked past a guy, looked him dead in the eye and said ‘dayum’ and walked off. They always follow behind after that.
This is one of my moves and it works everytime. They always follow
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I will definitely salt some cat’s game so that I can slide right in there and scoop his target…whether it be making a funnier comment, proposing the freakier activity, etc.
I try to be careful about it, b/c I HATE suping up the head of someone who’s not my girl. It always comes back around to bite you.
I’ve definitely had women compete for my attn, even close friends…outlaughing the other one at a joke of mine, extra praise for an outfit or idea, unnecessary hugs/contact. It gets to the point where I’m questioning how cool I actually am, b/c things are sooo skewed in their company.
- http://www.mrswagger.com
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:47 am}
“…outlaughing the other one at a joke of mine…”
lol…this one kills me every time. i mean, i know i’m funny as hell…but i’m not that funny.
wait, nevermind. i am that funny.
lets just forget about this entire comment
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Peyso {September 18th, 2008 at 10:20 am}
The worst is when a jawn that you ARE NOT FEELING AT ALL, is doing this. What do you do then?
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Dom {September 18th, 2008 at 10:51 am}
leave.
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Peyso {September 18th, 2008 at 12:50 pm}
but what happens when ur trying to get at the other friend but your witty banter, keywords (credit, car, not crazy, ivy league degree) and general good looks is attracting the troll friend?
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 1:05 pm}
leave
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Peyso {September 18th, 2008 at 1:44 pm}
i think i got it now
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 4:45 pm}
cool. but just in case you haven’t…
…leave
in regards to romance, how do you compete?
I don’t purposely compete. If I meet a guy I’m interested in, I make sure that I’m approachable. If he approaches, he does; if he doesn’t, he doesn’t. During the “get to know me” stage, I am me–the good/the bad. I don’t play games (unless its dominoes, spades or scrabble).
has there ever been a situation where you’ve openly competed, or have been openly competed for?
Usually when the guy feels he has to compete, he uses his money and/or sex skills to entice me to forget anyone else. Those things are grand but if he doesn’t have the “overall” package that includes substance, it doesn’t keep my attention on him. All I think about is he’s stupid to think that it will.
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:51 am}
“Those things are grand but if he doesn’t have the “overall” package that includes substance, it doesn’t keep my attention on him”
which means that he’s competing against other guys who potentially have that total package
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Shelia {September 18th, 2008 at 3:19 pm}
“which means that he’s competing against other guys who potentially have that total package”
Not necessarily because he might be the only guy that I’m hanging out with at the time–but to look at it from your point of view, if it was a competition, he eliminated himself from the roster.
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I compete by being me. Love me or leave me alone.
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miss t-lee {September 18th, 2008 at 8:43 am}
I concur.
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Shelia {September 18th, 2008 at 9:27 am}
Monk, I agree.
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In general, I try not to compete with anyone. If your happy with what you have then you don’t have to compete with the world for anyone else, unless some certified suicidal dude trys to come after whats mine, now that could be a shank moment but I’ll be the one with the shive. It’s better to be yourself and let God work it out, faking to get someone will never be a good look in the long run.
- J.M.
MrSwagger.com
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:54 am}
“It’s better to be yourself and let God work it out, faking to get someone will never be a good look in the long run.”
you’re competing just by being yourself though, lol. even if you don’t want to play, everybody is in the game
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Precious {September 18th, 2008 at 1:51 pm}
Right. Competing does not mean that you are putting on anything “false”, or lying (although that may be how some compete). Doing you is your strategy with or without true “intent”.
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Monk {September 18th, 2008 at 6:54 pm}
Indeed.
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I PROMISE I’ve never competed! (maybe that’s the problem- why I’m single now!).
I have too much pride. One of my mantras is that you can’t make anybody like you.
If a man can resist all this charms and decides to choose someone else, then he doesn’t have good judgment anyway. (LOL!).
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The Comeback Girl {September 18th, 2008 at 8:20 am}
“If a man can resist all this charms and decides to choose someone else, then he doesn’t have good judgment anyway. (LOL!).”
I agree Nick..ideally (and not for sport) it messes up the natural order of thangs.
plus i think when there is a real connection…can’t no chick or dude really come and trump dat. Thats what Im REALLY looking for. The kind of situation where no OTHER really matters.
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Shelia {September 18th, 2008 at 9:28 am}
“The kind of situation where no OTHER really matters.”
Comeback–that’s what I’m talking about. When his mind is on me and not some random chick.
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Nicki Sunshine {September 18th, 2008 at 9:54 am}
AMEN girls. That’s exactly what I need in my life.
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Monk {September 18th, 2008 at 8:48 am}
“I have too much pride. One of my mantras is that you can’t make anybody like you.”
Pride Schmide. There’s nothing wrong with giving a guy SOME rhythm so he may pick up on the fact that you’re interested. If pride prohibits you from doing this, well…I have nothing else to say. The art of flirting and throwing subtle clues, wearing ‘fits that you know will attract the opposite sex, an inviting facial expression are all ways people compete. You’ve never done any of these?
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 9:29 am}
Pride Schmide. There’s nothing wrong with giving a guy SOME rhythm so he may pick up on the fact that you’re interested. If pride prohibits you from doing this, well…I have nothing else to say. The art of flirting and throwing subtle clues, wearing ‘fits that you know will attract the opposite sex, an inviting facial expression are all ways people compete. You’ve never done any of these?
let me cosign this.. . yes we compete every single day. We compete with the european standard of beauty, we compete with video ho big buttitis, we compete with chicks that feel dropping the draws and dropping, deeply intense toe curling knowledge on the first date will make him yours, you compete by going to the gym to fight off them thunder thighs that run in the family. trust, most things you do to make yourself attractive, marketable. you do these things for the express purpose of being the type of roni that stands out in crowds.. in fact writing on this blog that you dont compete is a way of competing against the other chicks that openly admit to doing it…. I mean there have been too many comments about the lack of good men, for anyone to say that they dont compete. He.ll I am married and I still have to compete….
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im_the_sweetest {September 18th, 2008 at 10:02 am}
word life shay….. word.
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Peyso {September 18th, 2008 at 10:22 am}
to steal one of champ’s phrases
“that’s deep and sh*t”
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Naturally Alise {September 18th, 2008 at 10:35 am}
“purpose of being the type of roni that stands out in crowds”
…that was a cute reference
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MsSula {September 18th, 2008 at 10:48 am}
In a nutshell.
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Monk {September 18th, 2008 at 7:05 pm}
Why are we still referring to models who appear in videos as “video hos”?? Are we THAT closed-minded?? That stereotypical??
Wow!!
Talk about competition, it’s funny how it fit’s into this situation.
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Dom {September 18th, 2008 at 9:31 am}
The art of flirting and throwing subtle clues, wearing ‘fits that you know will attract the opposite sex, an inviting facial expression are all ways people compete. You’ve never done any of these?
This is the part that makes the most sense to me. Anyone saying they never competed is not being entirely honest. We ALL compete. Women do it when we make sure we come out the house looking right for that night on the town with our girls, men do it when they decide to get a place of their own instead of living in thier Mamma’s basement, etc.
If we didnt compete in one form or another then we really wouldnt care about how good we look or smell, wouldnt keep our hair did and our nails done.
I know when Im in a relationship I dont really give a damn about what I look like unless Im seeing my boo that day.
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 9:56 am}
thank you, monk and dom.
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 10:56 am}
thank you, monk and dom.
so you just gone ignore my pearls of wisdom cause I cut a ninja tires and shyt.. awww naww….. Champ, say it aint so!!! LMAO
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The Champ {September 18th, 2008 at 11:11 am}
thank you, monk and dom…and shay-d-lady
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Nicki Sunshine {September 18th, 2008 at 9:56 am}
I flirt all day… but to me, “competing” has nothing to do with flirting… “competing” is me tryin to convince you that I’m better than that chick over there.
I will not convince any man of that… he should be able to see it.
And an aside; I keep myself beautiful because it keeps me feeling good, not to impress anyone in particular. I’m single right now, and I won’t step out of the house any less than lookin a 9 (can’t be a 10 all the time!). LOL .
Another one of my mantras: “You never know who’s watching.”
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 10:04 am}
if you do this..
I won’t step out of the house any less than lookin a 9 (can’t be a 10 all the time!). LOL .
because of this
“You never know who’s watching.”
it is competing….just my opinion….
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Nicki Sunshine {September 18th, 2008 at 10:07 am}
I don’t think so, and I’m sure some will disagree, because who am I competing for????
Plus there are NO good prospects in Kentucky… I’m convinced of it. LOL.
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Shay-d-lady {September 18th, 2008 at 10:21 am}
I don’t think so, and I’m sure some will disagree, because who am I competing for????
uhh.. whoever might be watching? LMAO
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Nicki Sunshine {September 18th, 2008 at 10:25 am}
What if no one is watching???? “You never know who’s watching ” isn’t referring to any one in particular, just means you never know; it could be a man, it could be a woman; it could be a teennager (best compliment came from a teen girl in a drive thru.. Unexpected).
In the words of Carrie Bradshaw, “the world is my runway.”
We are beating a dead horse… We’re just not gonna agree on this one!!!!