I’ve never really dated anybody who was much older than me. In fact, the “oldest” chick I’ve ever dated only had me by a couple of months. And by a couple, I literally mean 2. Then again, you probably knew that since a couple can really only be 2 as opposed to a few which can be quite simply 2 or more, though not really 5. You see, 5 is a handful, but one is the loneliest number that you’ll ever know.
Exactly.
So, the fact remains that despite not dating an older woman, I’ve witnessed a few situations where some of my compadres both hanglow and nohanglow have done so with outstanding results. In fact, it often intrigued me. My standing rule was that I’d date nobody older than 42 (when I was 25). I figure that 18 years my senior, basically a standard American education (I shall call this measure of time a graduation), was old enough to have the insight to teach me a thing or two.
With education in mind, today, VSB P, your friendly neighborhood 3 and crime fighting loverman, will tell you just why you should date an older dust muffin.
1) They’ve seen more pr0n than you
This facet cannot be emphasized enough. Did you all know that pr0n used to have storylines? It wasn’t all just 5 minute segments with a ridiculous lead in where some “random” woman is walking in a thong, a hangar, and a paperclip in her mouth and is all of a sudden open and ready for some stanky leg. Actually, I guess after your done it’s the stanky leg. Before hand, it should all be zestfully clean. What happened to Zest. Anyway, they can put you in scenes and roleplay with the best of them and the more pr0n you’ve seen, the more moves you know. The more moves you know, well, the more you know the moves.
That was dumb.
2) They don’t have ridiculous expectations
On the fo shizzle, a 50 year old woman isn’t out to play games and figure out life. She’s probably got a solid 20 years left and only maybe 10 before she dries up into a ziploc bag. You see, she’s single (or married and plotting her husband’s Lifetime Movie) so she’s in and out and down for one thing.
Smores. And if you have time some of that good lovin. You don’t have to play games. You just do what you do. You and your crew.
Believe it or not, that was an actual lyric from a popular rap song.
My guitar gently weeps for big face huuuuunids.
3) You don’t really have to mentally exasperate yourself
Or even used words like exasperate. Older jawns (Philly what up) don’t care about your mental acumen. They appreciate for you who you are because well, all that mental gymnastics is for marraige and chemistry. All they want is the big bang and I’m pretty sure we covered that in physics. So let’s get physic-al.
Man, I’m corny.
4) They can probably hand-dance
I don’t know why but I feel like all old people can hand dance or step. I imagine that even somebody 5 years older than me can do all kinds of amazing moves on the dance floor and jazzercise. This is weird. But I mean, it’s fun to watch, right?
5) They can regale you with stories of dinosaurs the olden days
And what better way to get to sleep after schlumping a fossil than to drift off to the dulcet sounds of Masterpiece Theater-in-training.
So, good people of VSB, have you ever dated older (and I don’t necessarily mean senior citizen)? Why? What’s the oldest person you’d consider dating? If you won’t date an older person, why not?
Whatcha say, whatcha say, huh? Get money.
-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL, HE A 3
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I thought the older women thing would work out in my favor but my old head was feenin’ for a relationship harder than jawns my age. She was about 8 years old than me so maybe I needed to add a few more years of separation to experience some of those points you made.
@aceklub,
next time, instead of 8, try 80 years older. women that age are generally so surprised to still be alive that they’re not as concerned about long-term commitments.
@The Champ,
I’mma pray for your soul Champ. You not right.
40. Anything over 40 makes me itch. My ex is 40. At 41, the chance of for-old-times-sake-sex become impossible unless I dope up on Benadryl to stop the allergies.
@Ms. Smart,
Anything over 40 makes me itch
does this apply to other parts of life as well? do you only go 39 on the highway? if a channel is 41, do you refuse to watch it? i’m curious and sh*t
@The Champ, Naw. There’s something about saying I’m ‘talking politics’ with a man over 40 seems so creepy.
So do you have something against snappin ya fingers?? and doing your step? I mean, after all… you can do it all by yourself. lol
anyways. My age limit is probably 10 years older than me at the moment. I mean, any guy much older than that probably has kids and ex-wives (or wives).. Plus, they can’t seriously want a real relationship with a 21yo college senior. I’m great and all, but what can I bring to the table to a 45yo man who probably has a kid close to my age?
@Selah,
When I was a 21 year old college senior, I dated and ended up moving in with a 33 year old man. It was a learning experience, to be sure.
I do believe that every young girl needs to date an older man, at some point. I don’t think tying yourself down to him is wise (lesson learned) but a few dates and conversations here and there will do the mind – and body – good.
Interestingly enough, when I was 31 I dated a 43 year old and found him to be very limited in his thinking and only marginal in his ‘abilities’. Go figure. I dumped him for a 25 year old. I kid. I already knew the 25 year old.
@V.E.G.,
i see what you’re saying. I am attracted to older men (particularly all my ex’s fathers lol) … but the one time I did “date” this dude he was talkin to me bout daycare, gas bills and other random old person-ish… i was like uhmmmm BYE. lol perhaps when the right one comes along…
and was what you had with the 25yo an actual relationship?
@selah,
“was what you had with the 25yo an actual relationship”
Yeah. I dated (dinners, concerts, met the fam, stuff like that) the 25 year old for quite some time when he was 22 and I was pushing 28. lol. He moved away for work and then popped up back in town, a few years later, when I was dating the 43 year old. We reconnected and the 43 year old was outta there.
AND, thankfully, I’ve never met these older guys with ex-wives.
@V.E.G.,
the 25yo put the older one to shame. smdh. lol and yea… ex-wives just scare me. that’s a whole lotta baggage that I’m really not interested in. Nerp. I saw Stepmom. LOL
@selah,
lol at “gas bills” being old people sh*t
@The Champ,
Yeah. I never knew paying basic utilities was an old person thing. Guess I was old at 19.
@The Champ,
lol. he was havin troubles with his gas bill. i’ve never even paid one plus he was too old to be having those “troubles” soooo I was quite uninterested.
@V.E.G.,
“I do believe that every young girl needs to date an older man, at some point. ”
That’s what Imma tell my man Denzel. He’d be doing a public service.
@Cheekie,
lol
@V.E.G., lol. The oldest guy that I ever dated was 11 years my senior. I was 20 and he was 31. He was a great guy, but it didn’t last long. Now I’m 31 and I tend to attract guys between 25-30.
@Selah, I’m sure a tender thundercat such as yourself could give ol’ fella the much needed second wind he’s been denied by staying with bitter ol’ Geriatric Getrude all these years. What can you bring to the table you ask: The opportunity for ol’ fella to dedicate his last meaningful thrusts to you? Where, you wonder: Dead smack on that there table. =)
All jokes aside. An older man who can land a younger woman (and not feel like she’s just waiting for him to check out so that she can cash out) will have a renewed sense of self-worth. This could be very beneficial to the young woman’s sanity, body image (since he’ll be glad not to have prune tatas on his menu) and hell, she’ll probaly score the appreciation and respect these young bwoys forget to dish her way. OR he could be crazyyyy, derannned. I’m just saying…
@Frederico Savage,
LOL!!!! I think you’ve just convinced me to hit up the old person home down the street. Bingo night, anyone?
*still giggling at prune ta tas. lol
I have dated a few older men, with the greatest age difference being 12 years. One of my very good friends is an ex, who was/is six years my senior.
I don’t have a preference for older men but I do like men who have done some ish in their life – been a few places, etc. It seemed like, for a while, those guys tended to be older. As a bonus they also had a sense of maturity about them (though, that can be deceiving. The 33 year old I dated when I was 21 was a big baby. Just didn’t realize it till later).
However, in recent years, I started meeting guys nearer my own, guys in their late 20s to mid 30s, who have some life experiences and are pretty interesting people. Thank God. I didn’t want to be in my late 40s changing some old fool’s Depends.
@V.E.G.,
“I didn’t want to be in my late 40s changing some old fool’s Depends.”
LOL yea, i think at some point you have to think about the future. A man 15 years your senior is gon be really old as H E double Hockey sticks waaaayyy before you. And then things stop working. smh.
@V.E.G., LOL! That’s the only set back to dating older. He will be OLD before you are so you have to be ready for all the old age illnesses & what nots.
Well I have yet to date someone significantly older than myself. Right now I’m 18 and the oldest I’m willing to go is probably 24 <– even that seems kind of old to me. But I think its preferable for a woman my age m to date guys that are 21+ just because guys my age are so immature (well most of them anyways)… && they're broke lol
@Anonymiss,
Right now I’m 18 and the oldest I’m willing to go is probably 24 <– even that seems kind of old to me
it is. put it this way, while they might be attractive to you, you probably don’t want to seriously date a 24 or 25 year old who’d actually date someone who could still be in high school
@The Champ,
high skoo chicks always had the 20 yr old guy that had cars n shii i hated them untill i was the 20 yr old guy with the car n shiii gettin at the breeezys
@BLUNTBLAZER,
LOL.
When I was still in my twenties, I dated guys 7 – 10 years older. Now that I am not, I’m dating guys 7-10 years younger. Actually, if I stay on this pace I’ll be damn near cougar-ific any day now.
@OneChele,
*rawr*
@OneChele,
Actually, if I stay on this pace I’ll be damn near cougar-ific any day now.
lol, i think you’re already there
Good Post, P!
Now that I’m steam-rolling toward 30 (Virgos stand UP!) I find that I’m really attracted to men around my own age to a few years older. I think the oldest I would go would be 10 years my senior. I haven’t been attracted to men that are a lot older than I am since high school. I’ve dated a few and have found them to be rigid and controlling. GTFOHWTBS! I’m not really sure what a much younger dude and I would have in common. Like it might be fun for a while – but then I would prolly have the strong urge to send u home. I’m old and have old people concerns like daycare and gas bills (c) Selah lol. And i like to do old stuff like live bands, and art house flicks. And garden lol. I know my cougar days are right around the corner. I accept it.
@pgh muse,
I know my cougar days are right around the corner
this is actually a tshirt both men and women could rock.
In my experience, dating a few women older than me definitely taught me what I wanted and didn’t want out of a relationship. I guess most relationships can do that though. At the time when I experienced these relationships (mid-to-late 20′s), I did gain more insight into the female psyche (if that’s possible) as oppose to previously dealing with mostly college-aged women. It definitely helped in stepping my game up a bit.
@Monk,
I did gain more insight into the female psyche (if that’s possible)
you know, i see what you’re trying to say, but i think you could learn just as much about the female psyche from a 21 year as 31 year old.
i mean, women don’t get more “female” and sh*t as they get older, unless there are pills and sh*t involved
i dated someone who was 26 when i was like 18? still friends today, he says he shouldve knocked me up when he had the chance and was mad i wasn’t allowing him to. lol. would i do older man again? probably not right now.
i’m kinda into an old soul right now, 21 yrs old and very similar to me, so i’ll stick to that and see where it goes.
@jana.love,
i dated someone who was 26 when i was like 18?
i’ve always wondered, how do 26 and 18 year old couples meet? i’m just asking because you obviously couldnt have met at the usual places (work, school, nightclub, etc).
also, what type of dates do grown-ups who date teenagers go on? like, all imagine a couple like that doing is taking trips to foot locker and the gap and f*cking in the backseat of his explorer
@The Champ, LOL! Very true. Those have to be the cheapest dates ever!! He cant take her out drinking so he gotta grab a bottle and go home, she can use her student ID at the movies, buying gifts from Forever 21…..I think I finally understand why dudes date younger LOL.
@Yaa,
I cant hate I’ve did worse chicks be lyin bout they ages
5years is my limit! I just can’t do older than that. Lately I’ve been finding older men ( 30′s and 40′s) very attractive… but I just can’t go older than the 5 lol. I’m in my 20′s so I have to have a good balance of maturity and youth.
@GEELA,
I’m in my 20’s so I have to have a good balance of maturity and youth.
personally, i prefer a good balance of t and a, but to each their own
Tryna’ call out the Tales From the Relationship Crypt, eh? RUDE!
I have dated more than my fair share of older men. The one I’m with now is 4 years my senior, and I don’t even think that counts. I’ve dated men as much as 20 years older than me. In fact, I think only ONE dude I was with was my age… and he annoyed the f*ck out of me.
Maybe I’m an old soul, or maybe I’m a walking stereotype, but I prefer older men. I find the conversations stimulating, there is less (not NONE, but less) bullshyt in the way of playing games… and since they are older and have had some time to get their ish together and experience life, they sure know how to treat a lady.
But, I did have to deal with ex -wives, children the same age as me and the like. Well, that was with one… and I cut that mess off quick.
And no… Viagra was never needed. I pick Stallions.
@blackberry molasses,
I pick Stallions.
another uni-sex shirt
@The Champ,
I so want an ” I Pick Stallions” t-shirt. Must be done!
@The Champ,
OMG **does happy dance**
this is my first t-shirt!! do i get a prize?
@BlackBerry Molasses,
this is my first t-shirt!! do i get a prize?
yup. a plate of deez
@The Champ,
no thanks. i’m allergic to ‘doze’
@blackberry molasses,
I completely agree. The best thing to do in this situation is to make the expectations known up front. I have only once dated someone who was my age, and that was an effen disaster. Would have rather experienced Hurricane Katrina and Rita on a 2×4 plank.
Older men are stimulating and the conversation is terrific. Also when doing business they’re a wealth of knowledge and have access and trains of thought quite unlike your own!
@SmoothMvs,
“Would have rather experienced Hurricane Katrina and Rita on a 2×4 plank. ”
Dayum. That was one bad relationship.
The oldest guy I’d date would be no more than five years older than me. Older than that starts to feel a little creepy to me… like he could smell like moth balls… like I’m getting too close to his kids’ age, like he’s looking for a younger girl fantasy.
He!!, I’on know why. There’s just a mental block up that won’t let me go any higher.
@Nicki Sunshine, or he could be looking for someone that he really likes? who’s company he may enjoy?
@T. Troy Stewart, He’s gonna have to find it with someone other than me… I know my assumptions aren’t right, but I can’t help it!
@Nicki Sunshine, you never know. the only thing worse than missing out on something because of the limitations that society places on us are the limitations that you’ve set.
@T. Troy Stewart, ***So let’s just pray my current bf is the final one so my shallow behind won’t have to worry. *** LMAO
@Nicki Sunshine, I just called my uncle
Uncle: What’s her man got to do wid me?
Me: Um, you know you’re quoting 90s rap songs…
Uncle: Hey, boy, I don’t mess with you for watching West Side Story all the time do I? Tell that Roni what I say.
Me: Roni?
Uncle: Stop cockblockin’, tell her!
@T. Troy Stewart,
BWAHAHAHA @ the above exchange.
VSB: Where real life mackin’ blends in with e-macking seamlessly.
@Nicki Sunshine, Your assumptions are right. Guys who date younger women are trying to fulfill a fetish/fantasy. It could be a generally harmless one, like dating a girl w/ nice feet or it could be creepy because they don’t have a fetish/fantasy – they have a sickness known as pedophilia.
@Nicki Sunshine,
“like he could smell like moth balls.”
Either that or he tries to act young by wearing the new trendy clothes or listening to the most recent artist. It’s just not a good look.
@Ivy St., My uncle is in his late 50s and has half of one leg and he still acts like he’s 30 years younger. The last time I called him his answering machine music was, ironically enough, Stanky Leg. I am not making that up.
@T. Troy Stewart, See Troy?? lol..
That is the worse.
What if he wears gym socks with his deacon church shoes on the weekends?
What if he wears a gold chain with his man cleavage?
@Nicki Sunshine, my uncle does sport his Mr. T starter kit…hey Nicki, you been hooking up with my uncle?
@T. Troy Stewart: LMAO. NOOOOOO. See that’s what I’m saying though. Those are the old men that come after me.
@Nicki Sunshine, I hear you Aunt Nicki
@T. Troy Stewart,
NOT stanky leg for the man with half a leg.
*dying 1000 tiny deaths*
@Nicki Sunshine,
thas real if you close to they kids ages it aint gonna work I dated one chick wit 15 yr old 6 ft giant shaq lookin kid ………………that shi aint work I gotta be the tallest in the house dammmit
@BLUNTBLAZER,
that shi aint work I gotta be the tallest in the house dammmit
*confused look* i just can’t with you today, BB. lol
@Gem of the Ocean,
shii i mean if you my height at 15/16 than yo gone be 6’4 at 18 and if i aint known you since birth you competition ninja
@BLUNTBLAZER,
BB, you been in the purple sticky already huh?..got me DYIN! LMAO
@Smiley Face,
gran daddy purp gotta love tha bay area i jus go to the store to get my veggis
LOL…I started at 13 years and worked my way back to my own age (30) eventually *giggles*.
I don’t think anything was really that much different dating the oldest man…he had his moments of armcandyitis, but nothing shocking. I do think I dated him to see what all the fuss was about though…meh, nothing special in my opinion.
Age marks your years on this earth, not how you lived them.
@Smiley Face,
LOL…I started at 13 years and worked my way back to my own age (30) eventually *giggles*.
i’m confused and sh*t
@The Champ,
confused by what , lol? the oldest man i’ve dated was 13 years older than me, then as i dated more, their ages became closer to mine. now my fiance is the same age as I am which is 30.
@Smiley Face,
i’m slow before i have my toast
all I have to say is that I am glad that I don’t date anymore
@T. Troy Stewart,
lol…Amen
@T. Troy Stewart, my sentiments exactly.
@T. Troy Stewart,
Don’t rub it in or anything.
*grumbles about the harshness of the dating pool*
@Cheekie, sorry…
enjoy that ish, now Cheekie…don’t even think about settling down until you’re in your 30s…but, most importantly, have fun…NOW
@T. Troy Stewart,
Oh yeah, I definitely feel ya. I’m having fun and enjoying the singledom. It has its setbacks, but for the most part, I’m enjoying it.
@T. Troy Stewart,
fuq that im 28 its time I found my 95 % and ima tryna knock her up hella bad.
@BLUNTBLAZER, what’s the hurry?
@T-Roy,
Im pushin 30 hard dawg i dont wanna be a old ash dad plus im tired of the fast life dont wanna be a playa no mo ya kno
So, good people of VSB, have you ever dated older (and I don’t necessarily mean senior citizen)?
Yep, older normally by a few years, oldest was about 7 years older.
Why?
It just worked out that way over the years, though I’d prefer someone who was my age, give or take a few months.
What’s the oldest person you’d consider dating? At this stage in the game, about 41, and that would be pushing it.
Older? Older? Oh hecky naw. I’d be scared it would be all shriveled up and smell like moth balls/ben gay.
@miss t-lee,
Ben Gay is NOT the way to get in the mood. Firstly, because it’s called Ben Gay. Secondly, the smell…it reminds me of my grandma who raised me, so…NOT AN OPTION.
@Cheekie,
Exactly.
@miss t-lee,
Don’t knock it til you try it…there is something about an older man. There focus is more on your satisfaction,then say people your age. Although I’m a giver, I’ve learned that they beat me on ALL levels.
@SmoothMvs,
co-signage. MAJOR co-signage.
I think its something about being able to make a young woman go completely batsh*t. Whatever, I’ll take those benefits, please and thank you. And their focus on you inspires you to greater things, so its a win-win.
(disclaimer: this sentence only applies to Stallions)
@BlackBerry Molasses,
Yes ma’am…real woman want to please the man they’re with, and vice versa…he makes me bring my A game everytime the clothes come off or up, or pushed slightly over, or whatever…
Older men just know how to handle the “experience,” and know how to get it all “up outcha”
IMO of course.
@SmoothMvs,
Hmmmm.
I will keep that in mind….lol Every old kat who had tried to holla @ me was either my Dad’s age (59) or way past, and it was just not gonna work.
Straight sham wow action.
@miss t-lee,
My guy is 25 years my senior…and there isn’t a moth ball, geriatric, or ben gay in site! All MAN and knows how to twerk it..lol
On another level, there’s the respect that older men give. I opened my own door once, and he politely let me know not to make the same mistake again. I paid for a vacation, he was not happy, we went, but he went over and beyond on the activities while we were there.
And when I don’t feel like being bothered, he doesn’t bother me. There’s no checking in, what are you doing, where you been, who you been with. Its hey babe how was your week? Good? Great!
Perfect effen relationship, that isn’t one!
@SmoothMvs,
I am glad that you have found happiness.
@SmoothMvs,
I have that in a man who is 30..same age as me…guess that’s why I’m locking his azz down getting erm i mean married next year
@SmoothMvs,
“There focus is more on your satisfaction,then say people your age.”
Ding ding ding
@SmoothMvs,
why did i automatically think of billy d and fuq that why the dos exis dude tryna bite and be the 2000 version of billy d fuq that
@BLUNTBLAZER,
Nope nothing like that more like Barack (fineashell) Obama… actually its the same age difference. I’m 25 he’s 48. Let Michelle come up slippin, I will go in for the kill…I’m tryin to figure out what that be like!
@miss t-lee,
Wait till you get older…
The smell of linement is gone make you Hoe Nay. LOL
@WuDaMan,
*laughing loudly*
Nosir!!! I don’t like it.
I was 16 and he was 23. When we met, I saw nothing wrong with ‘talking to’ an older man, but at 17 when it got physical and my mother called his phone threatening him, I knew I was in love. Sadly, his manipulation of my mental made me think that I was ready to live this life he had set up for us (without my permission!) I should’ve known; all his friends would clown and I never felt comfortable all the way. He was reliving his high school glory days when hip hop was still brand new; whereas I heard Grandmaster Flash and was like ‘Who?’ Long story short, we were in two totally different places – I hadn’t seen or done half the shit he had, and this negroid (who, by the way, would’ve given me mildly ugly children) was trying to shoot seeds up in my ass since HE was ready to have a child!! Do I sound bitter? I hope not. I am a little salty on my neck cus I’m sweating in this heat, but that’s neither here nor there. As long as one party doesn’t try to take advantage of the other, I’m all for it. Good day.
@suigeneris, when I was 23, I was an idiot and mildly ugly. I think I used to date you.
@T. Troy Stewart,
Bwah! You’s FOOLISH.
@BlackBerry Molasses, I used to love H.E.R.
@suigeneris,
welcome and sh*t
well somebody’s dating these “old” dudes and it ain’t the “old” sistas because they’ve smelt those vapors already…somebody’s out there hitting up these cats for their AARP
@T. Troy Stewart,
aarp is the new “she’s legal”
@The Champ, no doubt!
@T. Troy Stewart,
its a recession Cougars got dough
@BLUNTBLAZER, not the Cougars I know…they’ve been downgraded to pumas round here.
@T. Troy Stewart,
naw they jus old alley cats then dog
I definitely need a cougar in my life.
@Dorian G.,
Cosign. If I can find a cougar with an @ss it will be all good.
I am 46, and I’ve dated older men all my life. Problem is – the ones I dated/married thought they knew it all lol. So then I met this young man bout 15 years my junior who can rock my world, hold up his end of the conversation, and knows when to leave…. (That doesn’t sound good – does it lol)
IMO it depends on the person and the mental connection. And as a final point – we cougars do have something to offer.
Happy Tuesday VSB…
@BeBe La Strange,
welcome and sh*t
The oldest guy I’ve dated, and still kick it with from time to time is 17 years older than me. He’s 44, I’m 27. He’s divorced, has children…but he’s like ridiculously cool…rides motorcycles and shizz…iDig motorcycles.
I think he and his friends are all having mid life crises…it’s funny. They all kick it hard like they’re in their 20s. But at the end of the day, he doesn’t ask me for shizz, I don’t expect anything from him, and we get along just fine! Let the good times roll!!!
@This Just In…Like Beyonce..Like Trinaaaaaaahhh,
Let the good times roll!!!
***edit***
Let the good times and the cialis roll!!!
@The Champ,
You’d be amazed that most of these men don’t need Cialis, Viagra, and the such…if they know what they’re doing by the time it gets to the stick and move, you’re already worn out!
@The Champ,
that shii did sound like a viagra commercial *viva viagra* lol sorry sits down
@The Champ, LMAO!!!!!! Luckily, we don’t even go there…I’m glad b/c if he suffered from E.D. (LOL!!) he would be judged immediately…and I wouldn’t feel comfortable riding his bike anymore…no pun intended.
*I laughed the whole time I typed this response*
I was in a 5 year relationship with an older woman. I don’t know if this counts but when we met she was almost 30 and I was 24. One thing I learned from her is that age does not equal maturity. I dated older women before her and it was fun. I guess it worked out with them because they didn’t take me serious because I was young. One thing I can’t do is get into a serious relationship with a younger woman. Whenever I see these relationships over time it seems like it gets to a point where the younger woman still wants to live life and the older man just wants to sit at home and drink warm milk.
@Humble_One,
Whenever I see these relationships over time it seems like it gets to a point where the younger woman still wants to live life and the older man just wants to sit at home and drink warm milk.
are you referring to human beings or cats?
@The Champ,
LOL. Human beings. Its funny because the woman wants to live and the man just wants to stay at home and chill.
@Humble_One,
tru on the weekends i jus smoke, chex, sleep, eat, shii, shower, chex from the couch to the bed to the kitchen etc
@BLUNTBLAZER,
please go SAT DOWN!!!!
@gem,
dammmmmit i will *takes seat on couch puttin fire to a spliff*
i’ve dated older men in my time, and it never really worked out. when i was 19 i was with a 26 year old, but he was, lets just say, batsh!t crazy, so i guess it wouldnt have mattered the age gap.
that was the biggest gap, and surprisingly i finally settled with my husband who is like 6 months older than me. i like the idea of us growing together.
@MrsVboy1 aka shay,
that was the biggest gap, and surprisingly i finally settled with my husband who is like 6 months older than me. i like the idea of us growing together.
this is sweet and sh*t
@MrsVboy1 aka shay,
“that was the biggest gap, and surprisingly i finally settled with my husband who is like 6 months older than me. i like the idea of us growing together.”
Aw. I like this idea as well. Co-signage.
Due to the fact that I look like I’m still in h.s….I have YET to seriously date someone that was significantly older than me because they don’t think I’m of age (the oldest I’ve dated was two years older). And the older ones that do wanna holla, it’s only because they’re infatuated with the fact I play ball and don’t look like my name is Kenneth….or they think because I LOOK young, that I’m young-minded. *sigh* I can’t win.
@K to the…,
“I can’t win”
“the fact I play ball and don’t look like my name is Kenneth”
sounds like you already won
LMAO yeah I have dated older, wouldn’t do it now being that I am older ……@ 35 I like more of an equal now ages 37-40, and things on an even keel with far more in common etc.
Youngins always be trying tho, LOL, sometimes I think and ask myself could I really go there?, would they be able to stimulate my mind, I’m not interested in just physicalities, most guys in theri 20′s are still in full out player mode…that naked pic I saw of Santonio Holmes 25 yo self makes one think twice, thrice tho LMAO
@OrangeStar616,
I’m not interested in just physicalities, most guys in theri 20’s are still in full out player mode…that naked pic I saw of Santonio Holmes 25 yo self makes one think twice, thrice tho LMAO
no sex talk about steelers allowed and sh*t
“You see, 5 is a handful, but one is the loneliest number that you’ll ever know.”
Naturally, this reminds me of a Fresh Prince of Bel Air clip when Will and Carlton were in jail and that butch jail cell guy starts singing outta nowhere with an operatic voice. One of the best moments in TV, IMO.
“Did you all know that pr0n used to have storylines? ”
LOL, right. It was usually some pizza guy entering to deliver…um, what he delivers. Insert bow, chica, wow and wow. Now, with our short-arse attention span, it’s all about cut to the chase.
I’ve never dated anyone much older than me nor have I really considered it. I usually only consider people in my age range. I’m 25 and the highest I’d go in range would be early 30s…maybe. Interestingly enough, a lot of older guys usually hit on me. I say it’s interesting because I have a baby face and am usually mistaken for someone much younger (I’ve gotten high school age, recently).
Maybe it’s because my body is all woman with the curvy thickness.But yeah, the older guys (sometimes my mother’s age) glance my way, even when I’m with her. My Ma was notorious for pimpin’ out the older guys when she was a young buck, though, so maybe it’s in the genes? lolUm, yeah, it’s less interesting and more pedophile-y, given that I’m often mistaken for an underage chick. *side-eye*
@Cheekie, 25? I bet you’re just as cute as gay ferrets frolicking in the snow.
@T. Troy Stewart,
Yeah, that’s what everybody says. Verbatim.
@Cheekie, the gay ferrets part, too? See, I told you that I was from Chicago, too. I’ve retained some of the local lingo
@T. Troy Stewart,
LOL, right.
Nah, I was just joking. You have a unique way with words. It’s like poetry.
@T. Troy Stewart,
Ninja nobody i kno from the chi eva said that shiii lol
@T. Troy Stewart, they say it on the far east side of the Chi LOL
@T. Troy Stewart,
LOL @ “they say it on the far east side of the Chi”. HAAA!
@Cheekie, hey thank you! that made my day…Imma remember that when I hit you up to buy my novel
@T. Troy Stewart, ‘
“I bet you’re just as cute as gay ferrets frolicking in the snow.”
LMAO! For some odd reason this made me laugh but what would this look like?
@Ivy St.,
Like Cheekie, naturally.
ETA: Seriously, though…I imagine two fabulous ferrets with S-curls running around in pure white snow as the Brokeback Mountain guitar theme fades in and out in the background. I’m probably accurate.
@Cheekie, yes.
@Cheekie,
“two fabulous ferrets with S-curls running around in pure white snow as the Brokeback Mountain guitar theme fades in and out in the background”
Thanks for putting this visual in my head.
@Cheekie, in my vision, the ferrets had California yaki, with blond streaks…but everything else sounds just about right.
@T. Troy,
Ferrets with hairstyles such as Califorinia blond-streaked yaki or S-curls = 76 % gay.
Combo of both = 87.7 % gay
@V.E.G, it’s an odd visual. Especially an odd one to have whilst at work.
As the resident youngn’ who is constantly apporached by older men, I had to comment on the subject! I generally only date older guys, although not for any of the reasons you’ve listed above. Except maybe #1. And oh, those moves! I digress…
The most I’m willing to go is ten years older than myself, which my current guy is. Anything beyond that is a little too freaky for me. Mostly I enjoy the chill vibe older guys have and the fact that they don’t generally try that slick sh*t them young boys do. They really do have a different way they treat women and are always respectful. There’s no guessing games when the bill comes, they’re checking in even on “boys night”, know a lot more about politics/world affairs and they genuinely want you to have a life outside of the relationship.
I would also like to point out that there are a few things on the downside too. Its rare to find an older guy who isn’t trying to teach you something or tell you what to do, it can piss your family off and creep out your friends, and god forbid you go too old and experience impotence in person. Yecht!
@Dom,
As the resident youngn’ who is constantly apporached by older men
you aint that young and sh*t
@The Champ,
You just saying that so yo a** don’t feel old LOL!
Ole CPT has gone no more than 10 up. I think the older ladies between a 3-6 year stretch were my best bets. Like when I was 27, she was 33, etc. They don’t give you that much grief and unless they are pressed to pop out some youngins before they get too old.
Now when you start going past 40…it gets a bit difficult. One because I still have youthful looks and I don’t want to look like I’m dating my aunt. Two because sometimes those 40 year old bodies just doesn’t screem sexy. There are exceptions to the rules however…but very few.
@CPT Callamity,
“Two because sometimes those 40 year old bodies just doesn’t screem sexy. ”
LMAO!!!! Yeah…seeing gray hair in places where YOU don’t have any is…weird. *blank stare*
@CPT Callamity,
“because sometimes those 40 year old bodies just doesn’t screem sexy. There are exceptions to the rules however…but very few.”
I notice this at 31. Maybe because I’m in Detroit but the women in their late 20s and 30s here have the bodies of women in their late 40s.
@Humble_One,
Yeah probably…
I’ve had a few ladies in the 37-38 range that actually kept it tight and right.
@Smiley Face
Grey pubics…*smh*…yeah I’m not quite comfortable with that…
@CPT Callamity,
“because sometimes those 40 year old bodies just doesn’t screem sexy.”
This idea bothers me. I mean it is hard to keep your good looks and physique too long. Especially after having kids, it’s hard to look “sexxy.” I can see where you are coming from but with age, are looks still THAT important? I mean, though you say you have some youthful charm, I’m sure I wouldn’t mistake someone who is 40 for being in their 20′s. i thought wine got better with age. :/
I just hope that when I am 40, I don’t get traded in! *leaving for a 10 mile run*
@CPT Callamity,
thas wha im sayin gravity aint mountain lions best friend
I tend to date older guys. When I was in high school I was going out with a guy in college. As a junior in college, my boyfriend was 8 years older than me. I used to say that 10 years older than me was my limit (my mom told me that old men give you worms….) but I was recently dating a brotha 11 years my senior. I’m not against going out with men my age, I don’t ever get approached by anyone in the age range.
I need to find out what it is about me that attracts these geriatric men. Being 28 and getting approached by crypt keepers soliciting me to change their depends and watch them gum their vegetables is not whats hot in the streets……I won’t be on cougar status, more like Anna Nicole status…
@CoCoPuffs,
“I need to find out what it is about me that attracts these geriatric men.”
LOL! Well you can guarantee they won’t be pressuring you to run or work out with them.
@CoCoPuffs,
My Auntie used to tell me all old me could give me was worms also…the jury is still out on that!
“Did you all know that pr0n used to have storylines? ”
I forgot to comment about this earlier. LOL
A plumber knocking on the door offering to “clean your pipes” does not equal a storyline PJack.
***thoughts about the age discrepancy and sh*t***
—the oldest i’ve gone in three years, and the youngest is five, and i haven’t noticed any perceptible difference between them. i couldn’t date someone much older or younger because i’d feel like i was either a predator or prey.
—i will say that this is one of the few times where women enjoy the benefits of a perception double standard. while its cool for a woman to openly profess to preferring and dating men much older, a 28 year old guy who exclusively dates 18-19 year old women is looked at as a creep.
basically, in the minds of (seemingly) many women, it’s cool for men to date much younger women as long as that much younger woman happens to be me, lol.
wet blanket aside, i have a couple questions for the women who dated much older men when they were younger.
***cutting and pasting comment from above***
how do 26 and 18 year old couples meet? i’m just asking because you obviously couldnt have met at the usual places people meet (work, school, nightclub, etc)
also, what type of dates do grown-ups who date teenagers go on? like, all i imagine a couple like that doing is taking trips to foot locker and the gap between random bj’s in the backseat of his explorer
@The Champ,
“how do 26 and 18 year old couples meet? i’m just asking because you obviously couldnt have met at the usual places people meet (work, school, nightclub, etc)”
That’s a great question. Because I got this image of a 26 year old creep prowling high school proms where they wear Gucci jogging suits.
@Cheekie,
lol my homie went to prom 6 times lol
3 after he graduated sounds like you heard of him
@BLUNTBLAZER,
lmfao…I probably have.
@The Champ,
The problem with the scenarios here is that when you are young you really don;t know sh*t, you don’t have that exp that lends to wisodm and good sense yet, you’re green thats why its Lame when a man goes after a girl still in her teens just of out her teens, she green and naive about alot of things no matter how grown she may think she is.
@The Champ, how do 26 and 18 year old couples meet? i’m just asking because you obviously couldnt have met at the usual places people meet (work, school, nightclub, etc)
Answer: The grocery store, while said 18 year old was doing the grocery shopping for mother, pretending to be independant.
@The Champ,
When I was 19 I dated a guy 29. We met in the local public library. I asked to see ID cuz he had such a baby face.
Later I found out he had three babies and two baby mamas. This is the same guy who told me I was selfish for not wanting kids at 19. He was/is nucking futs.
@The Champ,
16 yr olds and 21 yrs old meet at the park. Everyone goes to the park!
@The Champ,
meet at a store chick is 18 with the body of a 25 yr old she lies about her age you get the # she tell you her real age a months later after you dam near already found out
@The Champ,
*steps forward*
I will say that as a woman who has exclusively dated older men (range: 4-20 years) , there are some “rules” to this game that I learned along the way:
1. I was squarely of legal drinking age before I seriously started dating and screwing older men. Before that… well… you know. COLLEGE.
2. My interests and career in general placed me in situations where I was more likely to meet and socially engage with older men.
3. I ran from the ones who looked like they had “Daddy Wannabe” written all over them. You can tell by their approach because rather than actually talking to you they are ‘talking to’ you. Telling you how they can take care of you, what they can do for you, blah blah yakkety smakkety. I don’t need your d@mn SS/Pension check. I gots my own.
4. Superficial as it may sound, I looked for evidence of physical fitness and good grooming. A man who took excellent care of himself naturally took excellent care of me. Also, they ‘fooled’ me into believing they were much younger than they were. Not on purpose, but they generally looked about 7-10 years YOUNGER than they were. **BONUS**
And as far as the dates… let’s just say FABULOUS.
@BlackBerry Molasses,
MAJOR CO-SIGNAGE! Major!
If and when you get yourself into that situation. It is all about EXPECTATIONS. It is in your best interest to ask up front what the intentions are. When the older says: I just want to have fun, not date, no relationship, not be tied down! Believe them! If they say they want to take care, be exclusive, and have you like a possesion, BELIEVE THEM! Older people have no problem telling you what they do and do not want out of your “time together.”
@The Champ, i think 26 and 18 yr old couples meet at Point Park, the Black Family Reunion or Kennywood (or anytown USA amusement park).
as far as dates, I think they do a lot of movies, illegal club hopping, and of course bjs in the back of the explorer, as you suggested.
i just remembered that when i was in high school a girl in my class who was 15 years old was dating a 23 yr old. All i remember was that he looked like Big Daddy Kane and I kept thinking ‘he’s cute, but he’s soooo old’. When I informed my older brother of the age gap, he had a long talk with me about statutory r@pe.
What’s the oldest person you’d consider dating?
The oldest I would go is early to mid 40s.
If you won’t date an older person, why not?
I would date an older woman but I wouldn’t get in a serious relationship with one. I still want the option of having a family and most older women have “been there done that”.
I dated a woman 12 years older. It was interesting, because I’m not used to having to plan around her kid who was around 16 years younger than me. I think I learned my lesson trying to cougar hunt.
Be careful what you wish for you just might get it.
I have always been attracted to older men, when I was a senior in H.S., I dated a guy that was 23, and so did all my friends. We never dated the guys we went to school with they sucked!!!! In Miami that was and probably still is the thing to do (thanks Trina), find yourself an older man with money and let him spoil you.
My BF now is 8 years older than me and mentally he is right where I need my partner to be. Sexually he is too, but that is another story for another post.
Before I met him I dated a guy 3 years younger than me and it was the pits from the jump. We had absolutely nothing in common to talk about, the chex was amazing though, but mentally he was a dud.
@Complex Simplicity,
“We had absolutely nothing in common to talk about”
This sounds like my ex. He was 6 years younger and me and the chex was the best part of the year and a half we were kickin’ it…
@miss t-lee, You made it for a year and a half? You are a better woman than I could ever be! Three months later I was out!
@Complex Simplicity,
I was d**kmatized.
@miss t-lee, Apparently!
@ Complex Simplicity,
It happens to the best of us sometimes…lol
Well I am 25 years old and currently dating a 48 year old. My experience has been quite wonderful to be honest. It was a business relationship that turned into something else. He does have the ex wife, 4 children, one who is my age, but that never comes up. We only discuss his youngest as she she’s a girl going into high school, and his only girl. For the last few months she has been getting completely hooked up in the fashion game…hehe…I have a shopping problem.
I don’t expect anything from him. We have gone on a couple vacations, 2 I paid for, so its not a sugar daddy thing. We talk occassionally mostly via text and email, and we still have more of a business relationship than anything else.
The sex is the f*cking best! So the way I see it, it’s a win win situation.
@SmoothMvs,
dam do u eva meet the daughter thats your age?
@BLUNTBLAZER,
I haven’t met any of them, and have no intentions on meeting them. He has 3 boys: 25, 23, and 20 and a 13 year old daughter. When I go shopping or am out with her, I pick her up some things. No different from what I would do for my little sister. She’s cute as hell, and well if I can provide her with a sense of fashion, I’m all for it.
I have always preferred older men. For me, I finished school when I was 16…by 20, I had a car a job, a home… and men my age were just learning to wash their butts. Also when I lost my virginity.. It was taken by an older man who gave me the 150.00 dolla detail carwash!… I got head the first time I ever got naked in front of a man…. and well… yall know, in the mid-late 90′s… teen-aged ninjas were not really.. hell ninjas period, were just coming around to the entire oral sex thing. I am just now getting to the point where I am even attracted to men my age…… You can get any better than a man in his 30′s! lol!
@SmoothMvs,
Go ‘head girl with yo bad self! I ain’t mad at ya!
It makes me wonder. If older women are cougars, then what are men? Daschunds?
I’m asking since women usually are felines and men are of the bow-wow variety.
@Cheekie,
Ol Yeller!
@Cheekie,
It makes me wonder. If older women are cougars, then what are men? Daschunds?
vultures
@The Champ,
Your answer wins. Perfect.
@SmoothMvs,
welcome and sh*t
I think my mother ruined me to dating older men. When I was a teenager, my mother said to me, “Baby, if an older man wants to date you, you have to wonder-why is it that he can mentally relate to you, but not a woman his own age?”
That has stayed with me my entire life. The oldest I will go is about 5 yrs my senior, after that I start freaking out a little. I recently met a gorgeous guy that I was truly feeling, who was 8 yrs my senior. I decided to let go of my mental blockage and give dude a chance. When I asked him what he did for a living, his response was, “Why are you asking me bougie questions?”
I’m now back to dating men my own age.
@8th Wonder, “Why are you asking me bougie questions?”
Well damn.
@pgh muse,
Okay! For real!
@8th Wonder,
When I asked him what he did for a living, his response was, “Why are you asking me bougie questions?”
LOL and that made you go back to younger men, why, they’re better at b.s.ing you?
@T. Troy Stewart,
I know that you will deal with b.s. from any man, regardless of age. But I’d at least like to deal with normal b.s., lmao!
@8th Wonder, too-shay.
@8th Wonder,
lol @ boughie questions!
@8th Wonder,
“When I asked him what he did for a living, his response was, “Why are you asking me bougie questions?””
LMFAO @ “bougie questions”. Low standards like a mug. Like, what would be a “down question”?
So, I’m intrigued. What types of items do you gather from that shopping cart you’re pushing around on the daily?
@Cheekie,
LOL girl, I didn’t spend time trying to figure it out.
@8th Wonder,
“Why are you asking me bougie questions?”
*crying*
Did you throat punch him?
@miss t-lee,
I blinked, lol!
@8th Wonder,
The blank stare works wonders.
@8th Wonder, my mother was the same way with me. plus, men that are a decade older than I am are too close to my brother’s age and *that* creeps me out too. In my experience, I think a man that’s five years older than a woman is a decent age gap because men tend to mature emotionally much more slowly than women do. I believe this is a result of biology too, due to the fact that men can continue to have children well into their 70′s (sometimes with the help of pharmaceuticals-lol), so they’re not conditioned to think of settling down with the same limited window of fertility. That being said, none of the guys I’ve dated who were older than me were emotionally mature or any more capable of expressing their feelings than men my age. These somewhat older men possessed similar reserve and indecisiveness towards issues such as long-term commitment, career objectives and ultimately what makes them happy. And as much as I hate to admit this to myself, there is no magic formula when it comes to age. I think it comes down to meeting the right person at the right time. No one can predict that an older (or younger) man will offer a woman the emotional reciprocity that she is seeking at any stage in her life.
@Miss Patterson,
damn. way to drop a big ole bucket of knowledge and sh*t
@Miss Patterson,
great points, saks 5th!! my brothers are all more than a decade older than me, so i too have an issue with dating men closer to my brothers’ ages than mine.
tho older men dont generally try to holla at me like that, i do tend to attract a lot of older (and mostly married) men to engage in general conversation with me — esp men that go to my church. it’s weird.
anyhoo… i too agree that age doesn’t necessarily equal emotional or mental maturity. i’ve met PLENTY of guys 5-10yrs older than me who acted like teenagers and were dim-witted.
in the end i think it really matters on if you’re lookin for a sexually fulfilling arrangement (“no strings attached” aka no commitment) or a long-term relationship. various factors should be weighted. what do you want and what do they have to offer?? older men may be more mature and well established, but have other baggage you dont want to deal with (ex-wives, kids, ED, retirement, whatever). what are you willing to deal with?
I’m comfortably in my 30′s now, and all I can say is getting at youngstas is easy.
In terms of cougars, I ‘dated a 44 yr old. She was unhappily married with children. Sex was great, but all it really did was stroke my ego. Most dudes I know, wouldn’t try to have a real relationship with a chick 10+ years their senior
” Man, I’m corny. ” – AGREED!
My grandmother used to tell us when we were teens that old men gave you worms LOL. I guess this was her attempt at stopping us from falling prey to some dirty old man LOL!
I seem to date dudes around my age but I have dated 5-7 years older (in the upper 40-ish range). The guys that I have dated in this age range seem to know where they are in life and arent reinventing themselves at 45!! Not all of my encounters have been positive though because a lot of them are also stuck in their ways as they approach 50. So you have to be a cool 40-ish and we have to have common interest in order for it to work.
The thing about going older is that there is a danger of going too old & it gets creepy dating someone your parents age. I have seen some attractive looking older dudes and wondered if my attraction was some deeply rooted longing to have my dad around me type of thing.
My 40 year old brother is currently dating a 23 year old. It bothers the hell outta me because I have a 20 year old daughter!! My child and the chic were giggling in a corner together at our last family gathering. It was just too much for me!! I want to tell her that my brother has worms but he’d try to kill me LOL!
@Yaa,
pops told my old chicks gave you worms and yeast infection shii still haunts me
@BLUNTBLAZER, LMAO!! I really thought old men had worms!! It’s so mean now that I think about it LOL. She also told me only whores wore red polish & fishnets. I just wore both for the first time last year & I felt cheap LOL!
The oldest age gap I’ve had is 5-6 years. When I was 23, I dated a 29 year old. Unfortunately, I don’t recall any benefits in terms of compatibility, but he was a good a$$ cook. I’m not sure that has anything to do with age, though.
I’ve never dated anyone yearsyounger than me. I don’t think it’s intentional, it’s just that the
opportunity has never presented itself.
I don’t have an issue with dating older guys. It seems my range is between 5-6 years my senior. At this point in my life, I nee someone that knows what they are doing and has a plan. For that reason older is better than younger. I will NOT date a guy that is younger than me. It seems odd. I feel bad just looking at a guy that might be an undergrad and I am only 3 years removed.
@Ivy St.,
But honestly, the maturity levels between those three years are tremendous. You’re making the right decision, lol
I’ve gone both routes. When I was 30, I dated a guy 17 years older than me. When I was 32, I dated a guy who was 24 years old. (Now that I’m 35, I’m not dating at all…go figure)
But to paraphrase Dom, older guys don’t seem as interested in running games. They just want somebody to spend time with, spoil, and enjoy intelligent companionship. (Plus, I’m sure it doesn’t hurt his self esteem to have a relatively young thang on his arm.) Older guys have always seemed more stable, more mature, and more willing to let you lead your life than younger guys or men my same age.
On the other hand, the younger guy was a ton of fun and so lively and energetic that it made me feel 20 again. I think that was the attraction. Always out on the town, ripping and running.
For me, it comes down to a choice of what you are looking for in a relationship at that particular time. But if you can find it all in a man of any age, go for it. I don’t set any limits on age for myself (as long as its legal, of course.)
Aight I’m an aquarious earth horse looking for any combination of a fire or metal tiger or dog. But if you not a gemini aries sagitarious or libra we gone have to look past the glass to see what other numbers you bring.
Oh yeah I got w/ a wood tiger. Sh*t fell apart she kept breakin me up. No bueno. I ain’t scared o no numbers but I would like to have chilrens.
@WuDaMan,
Oh yeah msn had an article up on this topic last week. Dudes was like older biddies are mad entertaining but not as ‘hot’, and then the converse for younger women.
@WuDaMan,
“Aight I’m an aquarious earth horse looking for any combination of a fire or metal tiger or dog. But if you not a gemini aries sagitarious or libra we gone have to look past the glass to see what other numbers you bring.”
o_O… what?
@Smiley Face,
you too?!
yeeeeaaaahhh
sah dah taye
@WuDaMan,
“sah dah taye”
sepatown
@Smiley Face, to really answer your question. I am refering to the chinese zodiac. Which is based on your year of birth on a lunar calendar. I was born early in 1978.
@Wu Da Man,
aaah,okay, gotcha…I am an Earth Lamb then I guess
@WuDaMan,
you been watching PootieTang again!? What’d I tell you about that?
“I’mma sine yo pitty on de runny kine”
@BlackBerry Molasses,
I gots to say na nay no
@WuDaMan, what brand of astrology do you subscribe to? wood? i’m not following. break it down.
@Miss Patterson,
The chineese zodiac has two parts to it. The element (earth wood fire water metal) and an animal counterpart. The elements are on a cycle that changes every two years. The animals are on a lunar anual calendar. So I’m trying to date someone either 8 years my sr or jr of the four selected signs. I took aisan Humanities.
@WuDaMan, cool. thanks wuda. i’m going to look up my chinese element now. as far as the animal part, i think i’m a rabbit.
@WuDaMan, I swear your posts should come with a manual.
@Yaa,
Public privlaged information
@WuDaMan, hahahahahaha I’m a Gemini Tiger Seven (^_^)
a rather potent and thorough combination if I do say so myself LOL
@OrangeStar616,
Wait what’s your seven for? & what is your element?
@WuDaMan, 7 numerology, the divine number of completion..I need to go look up my element in the chinese joint but of course in the west we are both Air folk, you fixed, me mutable….
@OrangeStar616,
My life path # is 9
@OrangeStar616,
You know what you should tweet me. Tweet me & maybe I’ll be your ‘more people’ on your “potent and thorough combination”
@WuDaMan, I’m a Wood tiger and I don’t Tweet, LMAO @ more people, word is bond, my fellow Wu Gambino!
@OrangeStar616,
oh em gee. Saright.
@WuDaMan,
lol…I’m a fire tiger Taurus/Gemini cusp who’s lucky element is metal.
I like long walks on the promenade, whale watching, star-gazing, and eating cheese with white wine at 7-star restaraunts.
…let me stop. I’m a nut. But it just stood out that you were into astrology and sh*t.
Dam you crazy with the Mountain Lions (chicks 40+) thas a lil too long at the tooth for me playa.
Im 28 but since the time it was 21 my cut off was 32 my cut off still is 32 it used to be 30 untill i met this bad 32 yr old chick.
Oldest chick I eva had was 32 and I was 20 I knew her since i was 15 tho my teenage years was hyphy she was hella fine.
Anyways Perks for hangin with Cougars/Mountain lions
- You get to do shii ya otha patnas cant: think ya olda chick got a car, apt all that mayne we was kickin it at her spot all tha time, drinkin, chokin plus she always got patnas that wanted some yung meat aka my patnas.
- Bread/skrilla/paper- if you bag one get one with bread i mean ya gottta thats rule #1 if she aint got no bread it aint worth it.
- Major love- think stella gettin her grove back they cant deny you they know you can leave and replace them with a yunger chick hella quick so they do whateva it takes to keep you. You’re yung. hint hint: ROSIE PEREZ in yung come get me im still waitin for you think bout it I can be ya yung cabana boy call me.
- No games- they dont play games like yunger chick they too old for that shii they keep it real they will cook for you take care of yo ash jus like mama
I was gonna blog on this (still may) but you beat me to it. Everytime I think of this subject I think of The Love Below album “Pretty Pink, Baby Blue”.
Usually I date women older or younger. For some odd reason, me and women my exact age generally do not click romantically.
I have dated older women–usually I keep one or two around. I think they have an infatuation with my baby face and how it does not match my voice, mannerisms, etc. It’s like an opportunity to live out those fantasies.
The longest time: When I was 19/20 (Junior year) and she was 25/26ish. She wasn’t ‘extra’–if I said I would be running late the answer was ‘cool’ in contrast to “Why?”. She put me on to wine and opera (just sent me an email that this season is the 75th anniversary of Porgy & Bess).
Older women are insatiable (word to Prince). Sometimes, I would be interested in simply watching t.v. or just talking, but then she would take me over…She was into ‘new’ stuff at the time-she had a trunk, so it was my first time experiencing light S&M-it was invorating. That’s when I learned (about myself) that I really enjoy power. That’s another convo (lol).
Younger girls-I’m more selective with them. Younger girls usually talk to much, I try to choose only those whose maturity stand far and above the norm. I gauge more on maturity than a particular number for age, but the average has been around 22/23. Usually anything younger only wants me to toss them around my sleigh bed for a few months.
All of this is (of course) pending how you define ‘dating’.
Bond. BlkBond.
@BlkBond,
you scare me….o_O…that ^ just read like the prologe of a Jaid Black novel, lol
@BlkBond,
I think you should still blog about it…I wanna hear the unabridged version…lol
@miss t-lee,
You too?
@8th Wonder,
Twin…you already know….
NONE of those made me want to date an older man! lmao
When I was 26, I dated a 44 year old black accountant who flew me to Miami.
Now that I’m 28, my 46 y.o. white oncologist beau wants to fly me to Madrid.
Don’t sleep with them or accept their proposals of marriage. Older men play for KEEPS.
Guys my own age are still sampling women and postponing commitment.
Well…I guess I do my dirt all by my lonely…
I’ll start off sayin I’m an extremely unconventional person. Nothing is taken as is…I ask why things are or aren’t a certain way. Every relationship I entered into was non-exclusive until we BOTH decided to make it so. After a series of every woman I was seeing proving to me they belong to the same satanic cult, I decided this was the best approach for me.
While this approach didn’t stop the satan worshippers from infiltratin my defenses, I at least felt betta bout not wasting 6 months on a chick to realize she is NOTHING like how she portrayed herself. We grown…lying is for children. I dated in stages, gradually expanding my horizons until I realized I love all women (non satanic women). Long story short, I found wut works best for me…her?45…me? 26. And true, there are more bangin chicks out there, but my days of dating a chick cos she fyne but I can’t stand to be around her for more than a couple rounds are done.
She? Insatiable, extremely educated, very much accomplished, no noise makers, generous, understanding, knows how to and LOVES to cook, open minded, well traveled, while every now and then the estrogen takes over and she tries to put deez nutz in her purse…its at a minimum and it gets checked immediately, great conversationalist and bottom line loves to laugh and have fun… and she puts up my gas…wut did I do? Wife’d her.
@Jus Me,
Wow
@Jus Me, I ain’t know you was Usher! Mayne, I got celebrities commenting on my blog and sheet!
@Brandon St. Randy, LOL…ain’t no Ursh over here. It jus hit me like, if u got everything u want from a chick, is her age THAT much of an issue? I’m sure some would respond with a resounding YES. Either way, at one point I wouldn’t even date women with kids, but found out I had, wut I’ll refer to as the capacity to marry one and raise hers as my own. Then realized I had the capacity to jump in the pool so to speak, and see where this goes and I did. And for the record, by no means is she busted, she just ain’t as tight as she once was but hey…the intangibles weigh more to me than her lookin like a tight chick 20yrs younger…but thats Jus Me…
so i’m a petite 21 gonna be 22 and i realised that i really got it in for older, (physically bigger) guys. MOST of them got their ish together. but my thing is..they know what they want! and they hella freaky too! something about an older dude gets me all hot and bothered! anyway, right now i’m seeing this 33 year old guy and yes, he has a 5 yr old daughter but he’s well travelled, very smart and has a plan. that’s my problem with younger dudes…they ain’t got no plan. everything is short-term and i’m the type of girl who needs to know where i’m going and what i’m gonna do. + i’m allergic to drama
I was on and off dating a 38 year old (I was 22). We had alot in common, and we enjoyed each other’s company. Not to mention, he was fine as h*ll!!!
But the thing that kept bugging me was that one of his closest friends’ youngest son graduated 2 years before I did…and I knew him. Talk about uncomfortable times at a barbecue.
I mean everything was great on a friendship level, but when it came to even holding his hand, I felt like I was with someone who was more of my dad than anything (at the time, my parents were going through a nasty divorce that I was stuck in the middle of, so his support came off more paternal than peer), so I felt it wasn’t working out.
But hey, I say if I’m single by the time I hit 27, and he’s available, then I’m all for trying it again. But until then, I think I should stick with people closer to my place in life. Its nice to be around someone well established, but its kind of weird when you’re eating ramen and living with your parents (I’ve since moved out), and your guy is eating caviar on his boat (no kidding). Definitely don’t need someone taking care of me. That is what my parents are for, and what I’m capable of.
(sorry for the novel)
I guess it depends on what you consider “older.”
I was born in 76, anyone born between 1973 and 1979 is “my age” to me. So, I date anyone born in that stretch, so 3 years older to 3 years younger.
ehhh, I’ve found that women can be dumb rather they are 38 or 18. Older chicks usually are independent….but they have kids. ewwww. hopefully their kids are grown.
Well, I usually attract older guys. I have never dated anyone my age. And younger guys just don’t tickle my fancy. They tend to be a bit too emotional for me. But, it seems that older guys LOVEEEEEE lying to me about their age.
I’m 20 – been off and on talking to another guy for about 2 years. He said he was 30. I was cool with it. We never made anything official because it was always the wrong time. We finally decide to make something of it. I gave it up for the first time ever on my birthday (July 10th – yes, until about 9 am that morning i was a 20 yr old virgin). I’m going to be perfectly honest and say it was more to do with getting it out of the way and humoring the curious cat than me thinking he was the one. After, while we’re eating birthday cake butt a** nekkid he decides to reveal to me his actual age like he was talking about the weather or something. “Yea, so since I got you a bday cake for your 20th, what you giving me for my 46th?” SAY what now? I ask to see ID, and sure enough the man was born in ’63, not ’79. To top it off, he told me he didnt have any kids. He shows me a picture of his daughter who is sure enough 25. His excuse: “I didn’t lie about that…she’s not a kid, so therefore i dont have any kids.”
I shoulda known something was up when i saw that lone gray hair down there. lmfao.