i’m soooooo grown
*taken from dictionary.com*
grown-up
1. of, characteristic of, or intended for adults: grown-up movies; a grown-up discussion.
2. having or showing maturity in outlook, attitude, or appearance: a grown-up attitude toward work.
ask 10 people and you’ll likely get 10 different definitions of this term. some will probably make it age-specific, while others might define it with harder to detect variables such as maturity and accomplishments. for me, grown-up is a state of mind, a general way of thinking that leans heavily on common sense, tactfulness, and practicality. thing is, the varied definitions of what makes a grown up a grown up make courting, dating, and relationships much more difficult than they already are.
in an attempt to somewhat subside this confusion, I’ve decided to help everybody out and name four simple behaviors that every grown-ass man and grown-ass woman should practice. (i could probably name forty-four, but our lovely managing editor takes a shot of jack every time i get too long-winded, and i’m trying to keep her on the wagon)
1. GROWN-ASS MEN…should never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever brag about their penis, bedroom manner, or sexual exploits. never. ever.
let the women you’ve been with in the past be your pipegame A&R’s and penis politicians. trust me, if you’re doing what youre supposed to be doing, they”ll gladly volunteer
2. GROWN-ASS WOMEN…should never allow themselves to be defined solely by their sexuality
basically, a grown-ass woman should know that a long sleeved dress shirt, jeans, and an appropriate heel on her worst day still owns three times as much potential sexiness than some jeans revealing three inches of butt cleavage, accompanied by a fishnet turtleneck with pink piranha nipple clamps. a grown-ass women should always know that their sexuality will always be the implied yet powerful elephant in the room, and knows she doesn’t need to acknowledge it by “yee-hawing” loudly and riding the elephant through the doorway like it’s Seattle Slew.
3. GROWN-ASS MEN…should never try to “out-sexy” a woman.
we’re all are ugly and awkward. we can never be as outwardly sexy as a woman is, so stop trying. the things that women do seem to find sexy in us aren’t going to come across in a picture of you donned in tight spandex, sticking your ass out and smiling “seductively” on a chopper.
if you’re still unsure about how you should look when taking a picture, use this as your own personal cheat-sheet..
yes
NO!!!!!
4. GROWN-ASS MEN AND GROWN-ASS WOMEN…should never repeatedly get fired from jobs
i’m not talking about company downsizing or basically getting yourself fired because you have a serious issue with your superiors’ shady activity, but grown-ass men and grown ass women should never repeatedly have their employment terminated because of incompetence or chronic lateness or screwing the janitor in the break room. i have a friend who’s not yet 30 years old, but has already been fired from jobs at least seven or eight times. the reasons have varied, but they all come down to the same basic point that she needs to grow the hell up. this may seem like an odd topic to bring up on a relationship blog, but if you can’t hold a job for longer than six months, there’s no way in hell that any serious adult romantic relationship you’re in is going to last.
anyway though, vsb, what other qualities/characteristics would you name? what makes a grown-ass up a grown-ass up, and what else shouldn’t a grown ass person ever do?
—the champ
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Superb weekender!
A grown-ass up should never, ever, never, ever, ever, ever:
- Suggest things to do that cost money and not be able to pay their own way. Example: “Wanna go to the movie? Oh, I don’t have any money.”
- Have music ringtones. When I call or when their phone rings. NO EXCEPTIONS. Period. End of discussion.
- Should not talk alot of crap about their past significant others anytime the individual is mentioned or referred to. The person was your choice to beginning with, be gracious about the parting of ways!
- Whine about what they can change. Grown ups should know how to problem solve and figure things out to some degree. Constant helplessness and stupidity is infantile. There comes a time when immaturity just isn’t endearing anymore.
- Sit in front of the screen watching 106 and Park or Gossip Girls every week unless it somehow relates to your field of work.
- Forward stupid ass prayer texts/emails or porno text/emails in mass. Or anything that is done in chains. What the hell is wrong with you.
- Wear shirts that say: NO BITCHASSNESS , or pants that read: JUICY across the buttox. C’mon.
- Revolve all their recreational, down time activities around drinking, smoking, fucking and getting high. It makes you appear like… a slothy bum.
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Nut {July 11th, 2008 at 2:58 am}
Boogs said
- Forward stupid ass prayer texts/emails or porno text/emails in mass. Or anything that is done in chains. What the hell is wrong with you.
High micky ficky five. This should be a law. Why the chain email, why? There are so many other ways to waste time at work, lol.
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 7:55 am}
Boggs nice list. im defenitely witya on that ringtone shit. i always said when i takeover earth i’m gonna outlaw all thes silly-assed ringtones and shit. MUAHHHH HA Ha ha ha!
looks like you been waiting to get this off your chest.
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As Is {July 11th, 2008 at 8:05 am}
” Wear shirts that say: NO BITCHASSNESS , or pants that read: JUICY across the buttox. C’mon.”
YES! THANK YOU! LOL
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 8:40 am}
“- Have music ringtones. When I call or when their phone rings. NO EXCEPTIONS. Period. End of discussion.”
this makes me smile and shit
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 8:47 am}
- Forward stupid ass prayer texts/emails or porno text/emails in mass. Or anything that is done in chains. What the hell is wrong with you.
Yeah…I had to cuss out one of my homeboys about the nasty texts…I was like WTF is wrong is you? Don’t send that ish to my phone.
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Nut {July 11th, 2008 at 10:29 am}
I’m with you Miss T lee. My friend sent this disgusting text and I opened it in the grocery store with my kids in tow and it was like donald duck saying some foul stuff. I was so embarrassed. I got so many looks. I didn’t realize that it was going to be so loud. I mean to be honest I didn’t even know my phone did that. I know it’s sad.
So i guess another would be…..
No grown ass person should own a phone that they have no idea how to operate.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 11:49 am}
“So i guess another would be…..
No grown ass person should own a phone that they have no idea how to operate.”
……..
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AroundHarlem.com {July 11th, 2008 at 2:43 pm}
LOL @ “No grown ass person should own a phone that they have no idea how to operate.”
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tiffany {July 11th, 2008 at 9:26 am}
“Have music ringtones. When I call or when their phone rings. NO EXCEPTIONS.”
nah… exceptions made for any music recorded before 1990. and maybe for rappers over age 25. (yes i have rick james’ “give it to me baby” as my ringtone.)
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Umm Yeah {July 11th, 2008 at 11:02 am}
Umm thats Bamma.
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Tiffany In Houston {July 11th, 2008 at 12:18 pm}
Well color my 35 year old mortage paying ass juvenile too because I love ringtones as well. LOL!!!
Now ring back tones are ridiculous!
And grown folks put their phones on vibrate in the office, BEFORE they get to work. My ring tones are off the clock only.
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Raqi {July 11th, 2008 at 9:34 am}
I am guilty of the ringtones. I like to identify who is calling before I walk across the room to grab my phone. I guess 40 ain’t that grown up then. LOL
I have “what a man” for the hub and “if I could” for my son.
Those two are usually calls I don’t want to miss.
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ForReal {July 11th, 2008 at 9:50 am}
I loooove ‘If I could’. I could cry just thinking of it. And I ain’t even got any kids! LOL
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 9:52 am}
“I like to identify who is calling before I walk across the room to grab my phone”
You and me both sis.
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Leila {July 11th, 2008 at 10:31 am}
I’m guilty of ring tones too. I love them.
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Tay {July 11th, 2008 at 11:11 am}
Ringtones don’t really bother me so much as Ring Back Tones.
After a certain age…when I call your phone, I should not be hearing Pastor Troy or DJ Unk screaming in my ear b4 u answer the phone.
When I hear that, I do not think grown-up.
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Mimi {July 11th, 2008 at 11:05 am}
- Suggest things to do that cost money and not be able to pay their own way. Example: “Wanna go to the movie? Oh, I don’t have any money.”
OMG! I had this done to me this weekend! Good thing I am a WONDERFUL friend! lol
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Cheryl {July 11th, 2008 at 12:10 pm}
- Have music ringtones. When I call or when their phone rings. NO EXCEPTIONS. Period. End of discussion.
BOOO!!! HISSBOO!!!
Whatever. I pay the damn bill on that phone, and bought the damn phone. If I want BABY GOT BACK to play every time the phone rings, then guess what? I have ringtones and callback tones. Who you are determines what you hear and what I hear.
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The Comeback Girl {July 11th, 2008 at 12:26 pm}
“- Forward stupid ass prayer texts/emails or porno text/emails in mass. Or anything that is done in chains. What the hell is wrong with you. ”
MINUS the porno…the only person that should be allowed to do this is your mama…you know the computer with all the graphics and praying angels is rather…bells and whistles to them…mama’s and daddys get a pass for praying angels and chain emails.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 2:48 pm}
“the only person that should be allowed to do this is your mama…you know the computer with all the graphics and praying angels is rather…bells and whistles to them…mama’s and daddys get a pass for praying angels and chain emails.”
lol…my mom doesn’t even get a pass with those anymore.
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Haha! First, let me start by saying that Im SO mad the photo is Slickem of Pretty Ricky popping his a**! I’m even mad that they have a song relevant to this post: “Age aint nothing but a number.” And its damn catchy too! (FYI I think this could go for women too. That classic black girl pose, the one with the hand on the hip and the booty all in the camera? Yeah, leave that in hs please)
Anywhoo, I totally agree with the list. Number four is VERY relevant and the observation is on point. If you cant keep a job then you certainly arn’t ready for even the most simple relationship with the opposite sex. Steady employment improves your state of mind and allows you to handle the basic necessities in life, like eating or having a roof over your head.
If a person is claiming to be a Grown Ass Man I expect him to have his sh** together in all aspects of his life. I’d expect him to be able to take care of himself both mentally and physically, and to be handling his business on a daily basis by keeping the drama and immaturity away from his personal life.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 8:41 am}
“Haha! First, let me start by saying that Im SO mad the photo is Slickem of Pretty Ricky popping his a**! I’m even mad that they have a song relevant to this post: “Age aint nothing but a number.” And its damn catchy too”
lol…i’m mad you know his name and the title of one of their songs
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Dom {July 11th, 2008 at 11:34 am}
Im 23, what can I say. My old roomate used to BLAST that song non-stop in college. Every time I hear it I have to laugh!
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 11:50 am}
lol…you’re excused then
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My friends and I have a different definition for the term “grown up.” We were staying at a hotel and there was some dried “grown up” on one of the comforters.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 8:42 am}
you and your friends are nasty heffas. (read: “i’d like to meet you and your friends”)
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Kitsune {July 11th, 2008 at 10:36 am}
My friends in question are male & female. Now what!
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 11:51 am}
nevermind
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A “Grown Ass Man” should never ever ever ever ever ever EVER have to constantly repeat that he is “A Grown Ass Man” …if u have to constantly repeat it clearly something is not right…
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 8:37 am}
I 2nd this emotion.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 8:43 am}
not even if its tongue in cheek?
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 8:50 am}
Definitely not.
I mean, say that ish on the inside if you have to, I don’t wanna hear it.
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Tay {July 11th, 2008 at 11:18 am}
“A “Grown Ass Man” should never ever ever ever ever ever EVER have to constantly repeat that he is “A Grown Ass Man” …if u have to constantly repeat it clearly something is not right…”
Hello! That goes back to saying “I have a big/My oussie is the best..” There is no need for bragging or stating things that should be shown. So if you a grown man then I should see it in your actions, your mannerisms, etc…
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A grown up should never ever shuck and jive when it’s time to apologize for being wrong. If ya grown and ya know you did something wrong let ‘em hang and own it.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 8:44 am}
this is huge. grown-ups need to take responsibility and not shrink from accountability
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Tiffany In Houston {July 11th, 2008 at 12:20 pm}
Word.
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A Grown ass man and or woman should have :
GOOD CREDIT!
Dang..pay ya bills on time or dont create them if you cannot pay them!!
My people : Dont buy shit u KNOW cannot afford!!
Nuff said…
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utc115 {July 11th, 2008 at 3:05 am}
I like this one Aja but I messed this rule up when I was in college so now I am paying for it.
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Nut {July 11th, 2008 at 3:06 am}
Does an education count as buying something you can’t afford? @ aja. I don’t know many people who could pay for college out of pocket. Alot of people have bad credit because of student loans.
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AroundHarlem.com {July 11th, 2008 at 6:41 am}
Education does not fall into the category of frivolous spending.
Also, some people have bad credit because they do not pay their student loans. Not because they got them.
From my experience, student loan people are the most flexible creditors.
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aja {July 11th, 2008 at 2:59 pm}
Reply to nut: Yes most of us who have attended college had to take out loans to fund our education but, hopefully most of us picked a career where we will be able to make the kind of money we need to pay those loans off. Great credit makes the world go around and your life alot easier in these hard times. Its hard to get the things you desire in life with a low credit score. (i.e. house, apt., car…etc.)
Trust me..ive made some bad credit mistakes…not necessarily by buying things that I wanted instead of needed, but by not being smart about using credit cards with high ass interest rates. And thank Sweet Minty Jesus..I have paid all of that off!!!
I feel so free…sigh..
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Nut {July 11th, 2008 at 9:50 pm}
I know I finished paying mine off last year @ aja. It felt like I lifted a ton off my shoulders. I’m still sensitive about it I guess, it seemed like it took forever. I don’t do credit card debt because of that reson. I only use my credit cards to repair my car and credit. I will only use it if I have to money to pay it off in less than a month. I’m workin hard on being a responsible consumer but when I go out shoping for shoes I can’t take them with me, it’s my rule.
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 8:01 am}
aja wait till life slaps someone you know God forbid you, with something like a divorce etc. that negatively affects their credit. …but i’m sure you have a list of exceptions now. i’ve seen mf’ers have to start from below ground zero trying to get their financials back at 1.
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 9:46 am}
@GK - (raising hand) I am happily divorced and thanks to the ex-husband (he was my voodoo priest and I… his faithful concubine)… my credit score looks like gas prices…
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 10:24 am}
i hear ya goody. credit score high as giraffe pus** huh. …but it’s the dudes who usually get the raw end of the stick on this 1. family court system skewed in favor of the woman. i know dudes who have had their ass handed to them behind this shit. i’m not sure it works in reverse but i think women can get credit in their husbands name. …and i’ve known women to run up credit and empty bank accounts on some sucker punch shit. i can’t say if these dudes did something to trigger this behavior but i can’t recall a dude who has been this vindictive. men usually let it go at whatever cost just to be done or grovel to get back or lacy peterson that ass. life is some crazy shit.
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 11:07 am}
@GK ~ kind of…gas is like 4bux, yeh?…high for gas…low for credit…lol
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 11:20 am}
oh i thought u were saying it’s high cause gas is high but you meant almost literal like credit score low like 4. dayum girl. thats alright. work on it. shit happens sometime. work on payin shit off. i had to cancel a few trips this summer to pay back debt and i’m still not done. ima do some of the trips though, fuc* that.
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K. {July 11th, 2008 at 9:48 am}
One can bounce back from all that you mentioned though. I had some devastating ish on my credit due to a car accident (long story) but now I’m back on track.
But there are so many people out there who just don’t care to pay their bills on time or honor their debts even though they have the money!!! I avoid them like the plague.
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aja {July 11th, 2008 at 3:06 pm}
0oo suga..trust and believe..ive been smacked up, flipped, and rubbed down…OH NO!
I’ve came from down there and worked my way back up…It took a good while..but all I know is..I dont EVER want to be down there again..
I dont want anyone to have to go through that if they dont have to.
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Deviant {July 11th, 2008 at 9:35 am}
shit happens that messes up your credit. It is not always due to irresponsibility.
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K. {July 11th, 2008 at 9:40 am}
But the key is, are you cleaning it up? Some people are on some “I have bad credit” and don’t care.
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shay {July 11th, 2008 at 12:24 pm}
word, you would be surprised how easy it is to get your credit back on track…
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AroundHarlem.com {July 11th, 2008 at 2:49 pm}
True, but I find that those who complain most about bad credit are the ones who were irresponsible.
Most responsible people just handle their business to reverse their situation.
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I may be fishing to deep on this one but a Grown man should not
-still be residing with their mama without a valid reason. Valid reason being mom or dad are terminally ill and need their help.
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 8:39 am}
*tabernacle*
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 8:46 am}
you know, in theory i agree, but practically speaking, this could be the quickest way to homeownership.
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kamakula {July 11th, 2008 at 9:16 am}
+1
In fact, me and my boy have had discussions on this with me saying I’d not discourage my kids from living at home after college provided that they are saving for their own homes.
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southernabelle {July 11th, 2008 at 1:24 pm}
@ home ownsership- I agree Champ…
In a nut shell- you know you grown when you considers others BEFORE yourself…sexually, $$, emotionally- it all falls in line -I have a homie- just mae 36 yrs old- only thinks about self…immature as hell- age has nothing to do with it — priorities- your day to day decsions–makes you a grown ass women or man - not how much money you make..ish..a soda machine can hold and keep money- what do you do with it ? how are you giving back ? there is a lineage to being a adult…whats yours ???
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 2:50 pm}
“…a soda machine can hold and keep money”
good line
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AroundHarlem.com {July 11th, 2008 at 2:52 pm}
“you know, in theory i agree, but practically speaking, this could be the quickest way to homeownership.”
This is vital info that needs to be disclosed almost immediately so that one doesn’t get lumped into the loser category.
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Bougie1 {July 11th, 2008 at 9:45 am}
Yes!! That should be the only reason you are at home!! That is not an attractive trait if you are 24 and above! Who wants to chill at your momma’s house???
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 9:59 am}
lol..i wonder where “making weekend trips to your parents house to steal food” fits in all of this
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Bougie1 {July 11th, 2008 at 10:03 am}
LOL @ “making weekend trips to your parents house to steal food”
I don’t even live in the same state as my parents… However when in COLLEGE please believe I took food, cleaning items, etc. I shopped at my parents house like it was WALMART!!! LOL
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soulfirelp {July 11th, 2008 at 10:15 am}
i hit up mom’s for supplies occasionally myself
*heehee*
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Leila {July 11th, 2008 at 10:35 am}
and doing laundry!
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 11:53 am}
“and doing laundry!”
**hanging head in shame**
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southernabelle {July 11th, 2008 at 3:01 pm}
..I don’t LIKE chilling at my parents house- but as a grown up– I do it…cuz they like it….they just want me there….again — another grown ass act….for someone elses benefits…ish is not always about you….( unda my breath…selfish azz nuccas )
and if my mama wanna fed me while Im there..ish I eat…if she wanna send me home with some extra…so be it…
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A grown ass person should never try to impress anyone y driving their mother’s car.
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Suga&Spice {July 11th, 2008 at 8:21 am}
WTH???
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gigi {July 11th, 2008 at 9:44 am}
I meant while driving their mother’s car. Happens all the time in LA.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 8:49 am}
lol…yeah. stunting with someone elses shit will get you ejected from the game, and banned from the league forever like roy tarpley
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A grown-ups should never:
*Over-accessorize - There’s no need to have 5 rings on your hands, 4 gaudy chains hanging from your neck, 3 earrings in each ear, 2 turtle doves, and a partridge in a pear tree.
*Have bad hygiene - This is self-explanatory.
*Be TOO trendy - There’s nothing wrong with keeping up with the hottest fashions for the season, but as a grown-up, you should have developed an individual sense of style without relying on rappers to dictate what’s hot to you.
*Be caught without some formal attire in your closet - Grown ass men should at the very least have one suit in his wardrobe and women should at least have one dress. Of course you should probably have more, but at the bare mininal, own one. (Notice I said “own”, as in, not “oh, I can just borrow one from a friend”).
*Grown men should never walk around ice-grilling everyone trying to prove their macho-ness. It comes across as immature and and puts your inner-pussy on blast.
*Not have a bank account and be actively working on your savings. Even though many adults work check-to-check to pay bills and survive day to day, a grown-up should at least throw a lil’ sum’n sum’n off to the side.
*Never be completely close-minded to others ideas and view points. You don’t have to neccessarily agree and there’s nothing wrong with standing firm on your beliefs, but when you’re not open to hearing the opinions of others, it’s kind of like holding both hands over your ears and saying, “yaah yaah yaah, naah naah naah”.
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Conscience {July 11th, 2008 at 8:08 am}
LMAO!!!! @ “It comes across as immature and and puts your inner-pussy on blast.”
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 8:10 am}
good list Monk.
“…a grown-up should at least throw a lil’ sum’n sum’n off to the side. [savings]
1/10 of ALL you earn is yours to keep. [save] A.G.Gaston (regardless of who you owe.)
close mindedness is a pet peeve of mine quite certainly.
Will Smith is Jada Pinkett-Smiths’ fashion accessory. (bracelet, hand puppet etc.) LOL!
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 8:39 am}
“*Over-accessorize - There’s no need to have 5 rings on your hands, 4 gaudy chains hanging from your neck, 3 earrings in each ear, 2 turtle doves, and a partridge in a pear tree.”
Can you tell this to my step-mother?
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 11:54 am}
““*Over-accessorize - There’s no need to have 5 rings on your hands, 4 gaudy chains hanging from your neck, 3 earrings in each ear, 2 turtle doves, and a partridge in a pear tree.”
Can you tell this to my step-mother?”
is she from the midwest?
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 1:11 pm}
Sadly…born in raised in TX.
*sigh*
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Deviant {July 11th, 2008 at 2:11 pm}
Its not her fault then. Dont take it out on Texas
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 2:19 pm}
I’m from here…I don’t do that gaudy ish.
I’m not taking it out on the whole state…she’s the one that’s tacky…lol
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Deviant {July 11th, 2008 at 3:29 pm}
My uncle lives there and I like Screw and UGK so Tejas is cool with me.
The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 8:51 am}
“the entire list”
**Ezekiel 22:14**
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Raqi {July 11th, 2008 at 9:59 am}
Be TOO trendy
A Grown Ass Woman should rock her own style. With poise.
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tiffany {July 11th, 2008 at 10:00 am}
“Be caught without some formal attire in your closet … (Notice I said “own”, as in, not “oh, I can just borrow one from a friend”)”
er, why invest money in a garment that you might only wear once for all of 4 hours if you can borrow / rent one? shooot, unless you catch a super-duper sale (like a $180 dress for $29.80 :-D), it’s a bit silly IMO.
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Tay {July 11th, 2008 at 11:22 am}
Very good list Monk…
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Dang. You stole my thunder.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 8:51 am}
who?
is it important? should we help you find it back?
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I absolutely love this list! Especially #1 &2! Pipegame A&R! Hilarious! Do I have anything to add….? It’s a few things I’m a little shaky on and a few things that I have on my grown-ass woman list:
*Shaky
-Grown men and their sneakers/gym shoes-at what age does this obsession subside? Or does it? Someone school me on this!
-Ringtones-I think this one depends for me. I don’t have “Bust it baby” on my phone, but I have “Hey Mama” for when moms calls!
My Grown-ass woman list!
-Have a bank account (Monk touched on this)
-Not have to show t&a to be sexy (this has already been touched on)
-If you can afford to buy it and still be able to eat next week, fine!
-Some type of goals and aspirations!
-Always working for the better you!
-Never let people know what you don’t have!
I’m sure there are a few more things, but I just got to work, so I’m not 100% focused! LOL!
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No More Heroes {July 11th, 2008 at 8:53 am}
I dont know about all men but I know for me, I have made a nice side hustle with the sneaker game. With the right connections, you can luck into some limited edition kicks for cheap and flip them on ebay for substantial amounts of money. I would hope that additional legal income outside of the 9 to 5 would qualify as Grown Man Business.
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As Is {July 11th, 2008 at 8:59 am}
Got cha!
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 9:12 am}
“I dont know about all men but I know for me, I have made a nice side hustle with the sneaker game. With the right connections, you can luck into some limited edition kicks for cheap and flip them on ebay for substantial amounts of money. I would hope that additional legal income outside of the 9 to 5 would qualify as Grown Man Business.”
a friend of mine does this on ebay. he goes to all the sneaker shops in the burgh, buys up the sale shit, then puts it on ebay for the regular price. makes probably an extra g or two a month doing this.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 8:55 am}
“Never let people know what you don’t have!”
after you get settled at work, please expound.
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As Is {July 11th, 2008 at 9:06 am}
Ok, I learned this a year or so ago. I had this part-time gig when I graduated from college. Being that it was after college, I had those “after-college” bills, car insurance was sky-high, all kinds of stuff. So at work, if they had fundraisers, selling $20 or $30 tickets, I would usually say, “I ain’t got it!” There was a lady I worked with, mean as hell, would talk about me behind my back like, “her ass always broke!” True enough, I was, but I was trying to be a “grown ass woman” and handle my business. So, a friend of mine flat out said, “don’t let people know what you have and what you don’t have.” To make a long story longer, people I worked with that I wasn’t cool with shouldn’t know all my business. As soon as she said it, it stuck! Kinda hard to explain, but I carry it with me to this very day! It’s kinda like “never let them know how much doe you hold.” It’s not their business! LOL! Feel me?
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 9:14 am}
lol…yeah, i feel you. nobody needs to know all your business about your finances and shit
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 9:23 am}
As Is, it’s a favorite pastime of niacuz to sit up and try to count other peoples money.
fuc*em and feedem cake! (FAFC)
as you were….
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 9:55 am}
I have been saying FAFC since you said it weeks ago…that and the Boondocks quote about b*tches and smiley’s and shit…
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 10:06 am}
that’s right goody good good, FAFC! FAFC ma.
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shay {July 11th, 2008 at 10:18 am}
word. up. i have a friend always running her numbers down to people and wonder why nobody believe her when she say she broke. i learned never let nukkuz get up in your pockets cuz then they wanna tell you want to do with it.
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Tay {July 11th, 2008 at 11:27 am}
“i learned never let nukkuz get up in your pockets cuz then they wanna tell you want to do with it.”
If that ain’t the truth, I don’t know what is. That happened to me recently. So I had to check him… how are you gonna fix your mouth to tell me what to do with my finances when you ain’t had a job in over 2 yrs and getting over on the government by pretending to be a day-care? N*gro please! Go fall off a cliff.
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 9:03 am}
As Is: “Never let people know what you don’t have!”
i like this one i’m not sure it makes you a grown ass man/woman. i know kids who have the presence of mind to personify this one but i likes it nonetheless. just shuting the fuc* up can do the trick sometimes too.
the poker faced assasin.
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As Is {July 11th, 2008 at 9:08 am}
LMAO! I feel that. But you know how people be out here, stunting! Rims, no crib, iced out grills with cavities!
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Nut {July 11th, 2008 at 10:42 am}
As is said
LMAO! I feel that. But you know how people be out here, stunting! Rims, no crib, iced out grills with cavities
Nut replies
Just because them gold caps are covering your brown ass teeth doesn’t hide a thing ; we can smell yo nasty breath. I’m in the A this is a big big problem!!!
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jess {July 11th, 2008 at 2:20 pm}
Shoelove tends to follow people through life. Obsessions do fade (often, not always) into a hardcore appreciation for good shoe game… but … I have to appreciate a good sneaker collection and i HAVE to love someone who can pull them off effortlessly, weaving in and out of semi-formal and casual attire (If anybody doesn’t know now, Im very anti-new balance, so those don’t count as ‘game’… sorry, dc.. but yes, those are running/gym shoes). I might be biased because Nike SB/Dunks, Pumas and Adidas are different to me than jordans, air maxes or (shudder) new balances.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 2:51 pm}
“I might be biased because Nike SB/Dunks, Pumas and Adidas are different to me than jordans, air maxes or (shudder) new balances.”
elitist!!!!!!!!!!!
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 3:23 pm}
Are we breaking down tennis shoes now?
Really?
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jess {July 11th, 2008 at 3:48 pm}
hahaha. what can i say. speaking from the sneaker lovers perspective, so yes we are
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Grown Ups
1. Should do what they say and say what they do. If you said you were going to be somewhere to help out with a project then be there.
2. Should not have to be worried about having cloudy piss when interviewing for a job.
3. Should not have parts cut in their head in 2008 or have any colors that one can find in the crayola crayon box. (aside from brown and black)
4. Should know what size they wear. (I think this is self explanitory)
5. Should not wear jewelry that displays your name. Ninja do you not know what your name is?
6. Should use your damn health insurance if you have it. (doctor, dentist, optomotrist) If you are paying for it please use it.
7. SHOULD READ! You just might learn something. (and I am not talking about Essence, Jet, Ebony, Vibe, The Source, etc. but an actual book with chapters)
8. Should not have any type of music as a ring tone or ringer when someone calls you. I had to reiterate this.
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 8:41 am}
Good list.
I was with you til #8.
I love my Public Enemy ringtone…lol
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 8:57 am}
“8. Should not have any type of music as a ring tone or ringer when someone calls you. I had to reiterate this.”
at this point, if i call somebody and they have a ringback song, i just hang up. i dont even care if its a song i actually like
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 9:01 am}
Wait…are you talking about the ring back tones(when you call the person you hear music)? I don’t have one of those…I hate that ish…lol
I’m talking about when the phone rings on my end..lol
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utc115 {July 11th, 2008 at 9:25 am}
I have a answerback ringtone and most of the time I forget what it is until someone asks me what it is. Its India Arie This TOO shall Pass. Its like holding music……I likey.
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 9:34 am}
That’s a great song…
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 10:06 am}
ok…I feel you on the caller tunes (although I have them..baby cham “ghetto story” and blackalicious “make you feel that way”)..but I have been entertaining the idea of taking them off…right now they are assigned to certain folks so callers other than the speed dial clique get the “ring” ring…
what I NEED is a caller tune especially for the people that I “part company” with… like”
“doo doo doo the owner of the number you have dialed has already asked you not to call ever again, as long as you’re black…hang up already…damn!”
or something along those lines…you know, for the DNA section of the phone…
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 10:41 am}
goody that special call tone or answer message for people you have exiled is funny.
when i was younger my cells’ answering service was: (in an official voice) at the sound of the tone leave your credit card number, 3 digit security code and expiration date followed by your social security #. beep.
i might have had one or two fools start leaving it until the light bulb went off. LOL!
i also have paypal it’s like an online billing service/bank etc. anyways, i sent a paypal payment request with an “official” sounding note [as a joke] and this chick said she thought it was a bill and paid it online. she put $50.00 in my paypal account. LOL!
i gotta stop tripping. LOL!
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Monnie {July 11th, 2008 at 11:48 am}
“i also have paypal it’s like an online billing service/bank etc. anyways, i sent a paypal payment request with an “official” sounding note…”
I received some of these emails before (and not as a joke). It had me like WTH?!
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shay {July 11th, 2008 at 10:23 am}
yo it took me forever to figure out what those things were, i always thought i got the voicemail
**addendum to the grown ass list**
ixv. dont have music in your voicemail, and if you must have your voice as the message, sound conversational and not 900-numberly
i used to call my cousin and hang up like damn, this chick dont never have her phone on, thinkin her caller thingy was her voicemail message starting, lmao
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 10:34 am}
“not 900-numberly”
I can’t help it…I have a deep voice (for a chick).
It’s a blessing and a curse…lol
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 2:52 pm}
“5. Should not wear jewelry that displays your name. Ninja do you not know what your name is?”
this should expand to tattoos
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 5:52 pm}
I was thinking it should be expanded too…BUT we are speaking on grown ups…name-ttoos are typically mistakes people make in their youth…permanent mistakes…so you really can’t hold their grown-up-ness hostage for youthful ignorance…no matter how badly you want to…
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southernabelle {July 11th, 2008 at 3:06 pm}
Good list….
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A Grown Man Should Never:
Not own anything worth owning
Not have some form of cash currency in their pockets.
Bitch and moan about having his feelings hurt.
Be prettier than the woman on his arm.
Not afford a decent pair of shoes
Not have friends
Not have a hobby
A Grown Woman Should Never:
Not be prepared to pay for her portion a meal
Compromise her integrity just to be with and/or say she got a man
Not know what it means to act and dress like a lady
Not own a bra
Borrow each others clothing
Not have own or read a book outside of a tabloid magazine or some dingy romance novel
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Suga&Spice {July 11th, 2008 at 8:53 am}
@Raqi-A Grown Ass Woman should know her ACTUAL bra size. As a big breasted chick I cant stand to see a woman in the wrong bra size. Know your band AND cup size. Go get fitted!!!
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Raqi {July 11th, 2008 at 9:28 am}
LOL Ain’t nothing worse than seeing women with the quattro boob syndrome.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 10:01 am}
“LOL Ain’t nothing worse than seeing women with the quattro boob syndrome.”
what the hell is this? sounds like something they’d feature on one of this spanish channel news shows
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Raqi {July 11th, 2008 at 10:20 am}
The quattro boob syndrome is when a woman’s bra is too little and she has these two little extra humps at the cleavage or on the side at the arm pits.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 11:57 am}
“The quattro boob syndrome is when a woman’s bra is too little and she has these two little extra humps at the cleavage or on the side at the arm pits.”
some questions are better left unanswered
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 10:09 am}
or even worse…when them joints are elbow boxing…it just looks like it hurts (and not in a good way)…seeing that madness always ake me stand up a little straighter…even bra-less they don’t hang that low…
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 8:58 am}
you know, i’d extend the “no hobbies” thing to women. there are tons of “hobbyless hoes” out here, whose only pastimes are watching tv, shopping, and f*cking. its like damn, learn how to knit or something
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 9:10 am}
hobbyless ho’s Champ. LMBAO!!
dam did somebody shit on your maypops and fried apoyo.
what vexes me is when the only life they have is their man so he becomes her hobby. unhand me you codependent trick. nope and coughing up some ass won’t be the remedy neither. LOL!
you must know a woman or 2 who has really pissed you off with this one. this commentary smells angry.
heh, heh, heh, heh (he inhales) whooooo!
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 9:18 am}
“you must know a woman or 2 who has really pissed you off with this one. this commentary smells angry
man, i can name like 4 off the top of my head.
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 10:11 am}
“unhand me you codependent trick”
***Mount Zion Christmas Pageant***
this is dudes too…really…be for real…don’t you have some hoops to shoot or something?
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 10:21 am}
“this is dudes too…really…be for real…don’t you have some hoops to shoot or something?”
Or some Madden to play with ya boys…peace!!!
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 11:59 am}
“this is dudes too…really…be for real…don’t you have some hoops to shoot or something?”
i’ve always maintained that any guy that doesnt have an male friends is suspect
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 12:51 pm}
i’ve always maintained that any guy that doesnt have an male friends is suspect
***chest bumps Champ***ME TOO!!!! I say the same thing about females…with no female friends…somebody is working on getting the GOOD one to get him a “philly cheese-shrimp” sammich!
The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 2:54 pm}
“***chest bumps Champ***ME TOO!!!! I say the same thing about females…with no female friends…somebody is working on getting the GOOD one to get him a “philly cheese-shrimp” sammich!”
if you make that a shrimp and bacon club from the cheesecake factory then it might be your permanent pass out of the corner
GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 3:48 pm}
@CHAMP…I really think you would like my pescatarian spin on the classic philly cheesesteak…but I will acquiesce to your Cheesecake Factory (chain) request…but I don’t want permanent corner-free-ness…I like earning my way into (and out of) the corner…it gives me a strange sense of e-purpose…lol…
ForReal {July 11th, 2008 at 9:13 am}
Crying laughing @ “hobbyless hoes”
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 9:16 am}
You definitely need something to do outside of your realtionship. Call Jo-Ann—take a craft class, basket weaving, something!!!!
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Raqi {July 11th, 2008 at 9:30 am}
The Paris Hiltons of society.
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Bougie1 {July 11th, 2008 at 10:07 am}
Hobbyless Hoes??!! LOL
LOVE IT!! I will now start calling chicks i know that!!
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soulfirelp {July 11th, 2008 at 10:28 am}
lol
yeah that one is a classic Champ
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Leila {July 11th, 2008 at 10:46 am}
“here are tons of “hobbyless hoes” out here, whose only pastimes are watching tv, shopping, and f*cking. its like damn, learn how to knit or something”
LMAO! The same thing goes for guys. I get turned off the only thing that a man does is watch tv, drink, and f*ck.
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AroundHarlem.com {July 11th, 2008 at 3:21 pm}
Is reading VSB an acceptable hobby?
*Just wondering ’cause I have spent waaay too much of my free time reading these responses ……. LOL*
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Nut {July 11th, 2008 at 10:06 pm}
Me too @ AroundHarlem. It’s sad because right now I’m responding to you and chances are your not going to read this. VSB is crack.
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Bougie1 {July 11th, 2008 at 9:53 am}
Love it!! Totally agree!! I have a friend who is always asking can she borrow my clothes, the other day it was a suit for an interview!! DUDE what’s up with your wardrobe or closet if you need to borrow MY suit!!
A grown man and woman should ALWAYS have a nice tailored black and/or gray suit!! And one not from EXPRESS!!!!
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 10:04 am}
I don’t lend out my clothes.
I wish one of my friends would.
“EXPRESS!!!!”
I loathe that store. You might as well get it from the International Male Catalog.
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Bougie1 {July 11th, 2008 at 10:09 am}
Yes! but there are people who treat this damn store like it’s the BE ALL END ALL!!!
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 10:16 am}
EXPRESS!??!?! (barf)
you can “catch me in the mix from beauty to thrift shop”… I shop boutique…(and Wal-Mart and shit, lol…) but a suit need not come from the mall…NOTHING should come from the mall…the mall is for amateurs! but I digress…back to gaggin on EXPRESS…and feeling shame for not owning a suit…
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southernabelle {July 11th, 2008 at 3:15 pm}
I feel you Good– the mall is for whimps…when you can go anywhere and FIND something fly..you gots skillz…YOU make the clothes the clothes dont make you - thus addressing all the clothes comments..you can be trendy or in style and do you..be grown and sexy in your own skin..FTD (f*ck the dum)..I like to be fly and ish anytime I can..but dats me…but I know what the term age appropriate means.. and thats the truth ruth !
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 10:14 am}
(hanging head in shame) the rumor mill is grinding about re-structuring my department…and I realized yesterday that I need to dust off my “interview clothes” only to realize…I need a suit…
(standing in my cube) Hi…my name is GOODENess…and I am a grown ass woman that doesn’t own a suit…
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shay {July 11th, 2008 at 10:26 am}
HEY HEY HEY… i fux with some express… it does what i need it to do… now if i bought a suit from h&m, i wouldnt tell a soul…
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 12:05 pm}
i bought a 9.99 skinny tie from express a few weeks ago and a 5 dollar belt. although i dont expect them to last me past september, they still were good buys
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D*Boy- D*Stroy {July 11th, 2008 at 2:01 pm}
Another great post. Boogs you really killed it, by the way– great additions! I didn’t get to read everyone’s so I apologize in advance for any duplications.
1. A grown man/woman should not wear Crocks (those rubber clogs with holes in ‘em). I don’t give a f*ck how comfortable they are.
2. A grown man should not call his mother “mommy”.
3. A grown man should never wear capris/pedal pushers/ or 3/4 length pants. Unless you are an equestrian, that is. Otherwise, put on pants or shorts… but stay out of the gray area.
4. Grown men shouldn’t be dressed in full matching sports regalia (ie basketball shorts and jersey). If you are casually cruising the mall in a knicks jersey with matching shorts. Shoot yourself in the crotch. Matter-o-fact men shouldn’t have outfits. of any kind. period.
5. A grown man should not eat an ice cream cone in public by himself. I don’t know why… but it just looks crazy to me.
7. A grown man should never get turned away from a club because he is not dressed appropriately. You’re going to the club in Air force ones and a durag? really?
8. A woman should never wear her hair in a dooby wrap in public.
9. A grown man/woman should never live with their parents and have a nicer car and clothes than their benefactors (aka parents). Save some of that cash for a crib instead of spending on dumb sh*t.
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Ra {July 11th, 2008 at 2:07 pm}
“A grown man should not eat an ice cream cone in public by himself. I don’t know why… but it just looks crazy to me.”
All I can do is LMSAO
“…have a nicer car…”
Or have a landlord AND a land cruiser
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 2:22 pm}
3. A grown man should never wear capris/pedal pushers/ or 3/4 length pants. Unless you are an equestrian, that is. Otherwise, put on pants or shorts… but stay out of the gray area.
Hilarious, but I agree.
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philly2dc {July 11th, 2008 at 2:35 pm}
3. A grown man should never wear capris/pedal pushers/ or 3/4 length pants. Unless you are an equestrian, that is. Otherwise, put on pants or shorts… but stay out of the gray area.
……………Can you please come to philly and shout this from the top of City Hall
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 3:04 pm}
“4. Grown men shouldn’t be dressed in full matching sports regalia (ie basketball shorts and jersey). If you are casually cruising the mall in a knicks jersey with matching shorts. Shoot yourself in the crotch.”
this might be the funniest thing i’ve read all week. full outfits should be completely done away with after your 11th birthday.
shit, i remember just a few months ago when one of my boys had a cookout, and one of the cats there made the unfortunate decision to wear an entire fubu harlem globetrotters outfit. mind you, this cat is 30 plus, and like 6′5 240, so everything about it was wrong. at one point, i think we just took turns to see who could clown him the funniest/snarkiest
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D*Boy- D*Stroy {July 11th, 2008 at 3:11 pm}
“one of the cats there made the unfortunate decision to wear an entire fubu harlem globetrotters outfit”
LMAO! I can’t stop laughing!!! Why? Why do n*ggas do this stupid sh*t. Don’t they realize how ridiculous it is to go to a bbq dressed as if they are heading to Madison Square Garden to wow crowds with their basketball trickery!?!? This is why we can’t be taken seriously as a people.
miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 3:15 pm}
“shit, i remember just a few months ago when one of my boys had a cookout, and one of the cats there made the unfortunate decision to wear an entire fubu harlem globetrotters outfit. mind you, this cat is 30 plus, and like 6′5 240, so everything about it was wrong. at one point, i think we just took turns to see who could clown him the funniest/snarkiest”
Fubu?!
Nuff said.
I would have been clowning.
miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 3:16 pm}
D*stroy…
I want you to know I just had to put my head down on my desk for about 2 minutes to laugh.
AroundHarlem.com {July 11th, 2008 at 3:26 pm}
LOL @ A grown man should not call his mother “mommy”
Also, please call yourself Tom not Tommy, Bill not Billy, Bob not Bobby, etc.
If you are a Jr. only your family should call you Junior. Tell other people your real name.
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D*Boy- D*Stroy {July 11th, 2008 at 4:26 pm}
“Also, please call yourself Tom not Tommy, Bill not Billy, Bob not Bobby, etc.”
LMAO!!! Word-up!
Dom {July 11th, 2008 at 4:44 pm}
5. A grown man should not eat an ice cream cone in public by himself. I don’t know why… but it just looks crazy to me.~~~This has me in tears. I had to excuse myself to the hall to laugh at this one!
8. A woman should never wear her hair in a dooby wrap in public.~~~ This needs to be a damn billboard! I saw a chick with her head wrapped IN the club. WTF, dont you wrap your hair FOR the club?
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D*Boy- D*Stroy {July 11th, 2008 at 4:55 pm}
“I saw a chick with her head wrapped IN the club. WTF, dont you wrap your hair FOR the club?”
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hilarious!!!
Nut {July 11th, 2008 at 10:16 pm}
3. A grown man should never wear capris/pedal pushers/ or 3/4 length pants. Unless you are an equestrian, that is. Otherwise, put on pants or shorts… but stay out of the gray area.
……………Can you please come to philly and shout this from the top of City Hall
D can I get a shout out in Atlanta too. The worst is when the socks are almost touching the pants/ shorts whatever like male leg warmers. Not sexy. Can we add men with braids? I’m sorry I just don’t think grown men should wear braids. I might get roasted on this one
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soulfirelp {July 11th, 2008 at 10:30 am}
i agree girl
even if u have to buy it piece by piece it called invest in yourself ladies
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Leila {July 11th, 2008 at 10:42 am}
“Not own a bra”
There are women who don’t own bras??? That’s just wrong. I would also add that not every woman can rock the braless look, especially the dresses with the long slit in the front that goes down to the stomach. Your body must be bangin to rock that look.
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I missed you folks this week, I had to earn my paycheck.
-A Grown Ass woman does not share all of her relationship business with her girlfriends/momma/auntie etc.
-A Grown Ass Man should not be sharing the intimate(including sexual) details of our relationship with his momma.
-A Grown Ass Woman should have at least one failed relationship in her past that she is not bitter about.
-A Grown Ass Man makes his own damn decisions without getting outside consultation for a minimum of 3 folks. Make a damn decision and stick with it.
-A Grown Ass Woman should know how to have a disagreement without resorting to insults. Nothing discredits an arguement more than thowing in an unnecessary ‘dumbass’, ‘motherfucker’, or ‘punk/bitch ass negro (by using this one you also run the risk of being put threw a damn wall)
-A Grown Ass Person should haven real quality furniture that they purchased and did not get from a family member
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 8:48 am}
-A Grown Ass Man should not be sharing the intimate(including sexual) details of our relationship with his momma.
Wow…do you actually know someone who does this?
Icky, just icky.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 9:01 am}
yeah…this is disgusting.
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Suga&Spice {July 11th, 2008 at 9:03 am}
My ex used to do that dumb shit. And he mother would bring the shit up while she and I were fixing Sunday dinner for the family. Imagine peeling potatoes at your ‘in-laws’ and having the mother mention how you smacked her son during sex.
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 9:05 am}
That is just bizarre.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 9:23 am}
“Imagine peeling potatoes at your ‘in-laws’ and having the mother mention how you smacked her son during sex.”
how does one even segue into that discussion.
you “can you please hand me the big spoon so i can stir the mac and cheese and dig it out the pan?”
his mom “from what i’ve heard, the mac and cheese wasnt the only thing getting dug out today”
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D*Boy- D*Stroy {July 11th, 2008 at 2:03 pm}
his mom “from what i’ve heard, the mac and cheese wasnt the only thing getting dug out today”
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Leila {July 11th, 2008 at 10:54 am}
“Imagine peeling potatoes at your ‘in-laws’ and having the mother mention how you smacked her son during sex.”
WHAT????
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Mimi {July 11th, 2008 at 11:34 am}
That is just horrendous!
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 9:15 am}
A Grown Ass Woman should know how to have a disagreement without resorting to insults. … or ‘punk/bitch ass negro (by using this one you also run the risk of being put threw a damn wall)
heh, heh, heh (inhales) whoooo!
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 9:21 am}
A Grown Ass Woman should know how to have a disagreement without resorting to insults. … or ‘punk/bitch ass negro (by using this one you also run the risk of being put threw a damn wall)
You do have to learn to argue the intelligent way. Even my crazy azz knows which buttons NOT to push..lol
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Suga&Spice {July 11th, 2008 at 9:31 am}
are you laughing at my statement or my typo? lololol
If its the typo..negro you knew what I meant
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 10:20 am}
-A Grown Ass Woman should have at least one failed relationship in her past that she is not bitter about.
ok…I am not bitter about ANY of my failed relationships…can I have “grown up” extra credit for this? it should balance out my bad credit, suit-less-ness, and ringtone addiction….
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 12:06 pm}
“ok…I am not bitter about ANY of my failed relationships…can I have “grown up” extra credit for this? it should balance out my bad credit, suit-less-ness, and ringtone addiction….”
***extra credit extended to goodygood***
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dam that second pic. just smells gay. i know he’s probably not but it’s a bad look. too many cameras and recording devices around catching niacuz in awkward situations these days. everybody is recording shit.
with that said i will kill niggaz dead…. jigga
1. GROWN-ASS MEN…should never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever brag about their penis, bedroom manner, or sexual exploits. never. ever.
ok Champ I’m guilty of your #1 (sexual exploits) just yesterday even as documented by vsb.com. although it was inspired by yesterdays subject matter and an attempt to show 1 example in my life of how a woman had a shitty attitude about her percieved sense of entitlement and how unecessary caking to impress is puss. im still guilty though. i’m not sure i’m regretful but ima live with it. LOL!
you right, “long dick stories” as we callem are not a good look however i believe most people are ok with women sharing and bragging about their sexual achievements/stunts and believe me they do. (about hers not his)
my best friend [who is more like a brother to me than my own kin] and i, do sometimes trade “long dick stories.”
bad khan [slaps wrists]
now let’s see what would i add to the list:
grown ass men and women SHOULD genuinely embrace that knowledge, intellect, education, wisdom, maturity, humility etc. is more of a process and not so much a destination. if we are entitled to have a sense of entitlement about anything these should rise to the top.
until destinies collide,
originalis abstractus blackness
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 9:02 am}
“ok Champ I’m guilty of your #1 (sexual exploits) just yesterday even as documented by vsb.com.”
thats aiight man. i forgive you
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 9:10 am}
Actually I enjoyed your anti-caking escapade yesterday…lol
Look at it as a public service anonuncement against lameness.
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 10:26 am}
sex stories…in context of the conversation…are fine…although EVERTYTHING seems to put me in said context…but that’s not my fault…smart puts and arch in my back…and the damn site is called… verySMARTbrothas.com… plus I stay in the corner all the time…***shrugging***
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 12:10 pm}
“sex stories…in context of the conversation…are fine”
theres a difference between that, and someone just constantly having diarrhea of the mouth about how great they are in the bedroom.
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jess {July 11th, 2008 at 2:25 pm}
“grown ass men and women SHOULD genuinely embrace that knowledge, intellect, education, wisdom, maturity, humility etc. is more of a process and not so much a destination.”
GK, i like that.
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IDK if my list is along the right lines, but somethings that came to mind. Applies to the ladies and the gents.
Know who you are and do not compromise your integrity.
Take care of business.
Have a back up plan.
Own your sexuality.
Know how to have fun/let loose/play hard.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 9:03 am}
“Own your sexuality.”
as opposed to leasing it?
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 9:08 am}
::snicker::
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 9:38 am}
whoooo!
if you can’t “own your sexuality”; rent to own it. lawaway, borrow, boost. LOL!
i’m sorry t-lee. Champ you started this shit. LOL!
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 9:42 am}
I love both of you smart azzes.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 3:07 pm}
we love your ass too.
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Loving the post and loving the lists. I agree with all except the ringtone. I don’t have a ringtone on my phone now, but i think they’re cute (when the voulme isn’t obnoxiously high and when we aren’t at work). Moving on…
I wholeheartedly agree with Suga&Spice regarding knowing how to handle disagreement/conflict. This is the main thing that seperates the grown from the un-grown. Getting your point across and needs met without being unduly abrasive…it doesn’t get better than that to me.
My other main criteria for a grown ass man/woman is that they recognize that situations (work, relationships, etc.) aren’t just black and white; there is a whole helluva lot of gray.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 9:04 am}
“I wholeheartedly agree with Suga&Spice regarding knowing how to handle disagreement/conflict. This is the main thing, that seperates the grown from the un-grown. Getting your point across and needs met without being unduly abrasive…it doesn’t get better than that to me.”
this one seems to go completely over the heads of some of us. you should be able to get your point across and argue without being an asshole
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Suga&Spice {July 11th, 2008 at 9:24 am}
You can be an asshole. But no name calling.
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 10:02 am}
true
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 10:34 am}
@ SUGA…ForReal…and CHAMP
regarding knowing how to handle disagreement/conflict. This is the main thing that seperates the grown from the un-grown.
I wish we could bottle shit and feed it to the masses…WE are preaching to the choir on this one…every person that can call themselves a Pana-Champ-ian is a communicator…THAT’s some grown ass shit!
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 12:14 pm}
“I wish we could bottle shit and feed it to the masses…WE are preaching to the choir on this one”
i agree.
that should be everyone’s focus for the next month…find a relationship nincompoop, and force them at gunpoint to read some of the discussions on this site.
vsb.com: kidnapping relationship dickheads since 1913
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Tay {July 11th, 2008 at 6:55 pm}
I tried that today.
Dude said he wasn’t interested…
And he wonders why he got thrown in the friend zone…
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I cant think of a word magniloquent enough to express how much I agree with this post…except….ummmm….am I the only one that’s not happy about the anti-ringtone/caller tune sentiment tone that this post has taken? I understand (and respect) the underlying premise…my phone is usually on vibrate anyway…but u can tell alot about a person by the music that lives on their phone…no? I mean something other than the fact that (by the standards of some of my VSB fam) that they’re not all the way “grown”, lol
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miss t-lee {July 11th, 2008 at 9:07 am}
am I the only one that’s not happy about the anti-ringtone/caller tune sentiment tone that this post has taken
I’m upset too. Apparently I’m not all the way grown.
::snicker::
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The Champ {July 11th, 2008 at 9:08 am}
you had me at “magniloquent”
anyway though, i dont have as much of an issue with ringtones. it’s the ringbacks that have become the bane of my existence
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ForReal {July 11th, 2008 at 9:08 am}
LOL..girl, that was the only point i couldn’t really get down with too! The rest of the post and points made by all had me so excited I was speaking in tongues.
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utc115 {July 11th, 2008 at 9:32 am}
I did have a guy tell me that the music you have as a ringback tells alot about a person. Again I have India Arie playing and that Neo Soul calm music. On the other hand I try to keep my phone on vibrate also but I have Young Jeezy as a ringtone on my phone…………Put On For My City. I like the song
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genius khan {July 11th, 2008 at 10:00 am}
this nicca said magniloquent. i had to look that shit up niaca. kiss yoself.
heh, heh, heh….
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GOODENess {July 11th, 2008 at 10:38 am}
(gazing into mirror) muah!! your turn…
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